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Post by downandout on Jun 12, 2010 20:39:10 GMT -5
so today i got a phone call. it was from our new landlord. he called to see if he and his wife could stop by tomorrow to talk over some things. he wouldnt elaborate about what "things" he wanted to talk about. of course my first reaction was to panic! and i did try to put it off until next weekend. no dice on that. so okay with tomorrow then and after i hung up my mouth was so dry. felt like i couldnt breathe for a minute. then i realised that i had time to deal with some of this. so okay i went ahead and did up the dishes dried them put them away. then i vacuumed and wiped up some spots on the kitchen floor. swiped down the bathroom even cleaned the mirror. dusted some things too. i am lucky that these rooms are in maintance it was pretty easy to clean up. i had recently done laundry so the little bit i had left i shoved inside the washing machine to hide it. oh and scooped the litter boxes too. but okay now i have that big pile in the living room. and it hasnt been impressed at all by my efforts to clean. its not even trying to make itself smaller or look neater or anything. darn pile. the pile in the master bedroom isnt concerned about the visit and im not concerned about that pile either. that one is easy i just close the door. gee mr landlord my cat is in there. but i have no door to close in the living room. so then i came up with this idea. i found my adjustable curtain rod and i have curtains too. so i put that in the doorway to the living room. looks kinda nice and hides the hoard really well. but if they want to walk thru the house then thats it. they will see the pile. if they go into the dining room they will see it. but from where i will try to have them sit they will see the curtain and then the rest of the immediate area is clean. but i cant think of any reason to have that curtain there. any ideas?? im also a little nervous about tomorrow. aw who am i kidding? i probably wont sleep well tonight at all. hubby doesnt care about the hoard. hes more concerned with the 'whys' of their visit. man i hope they dont want us to leave already.  |
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Post by hopehope on Jun 12, 2010 21:18:34 GMT -5
why not? it's an aesthetic choice. a matter of taste.
don't apologize, don't explain.
it may be their house, but it's your home. be a gracious host, and govern the field.
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Post by glimmercat on Jun 12, 2010 22:10:55 GMT -5
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Post by bigtimetroubles on Jun 12, 2010 22:18:26 GMT -5
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Post by Peach on Jun 12, 2010 22:59:47 GMT -5
why not? it's an aesthetic choice. a matter of taste. don't apologize, don't explain. it may be their house, but it's your home. be a gracious host, and govern the field. Hopey is right: YOU "govern the field" - not the landlords. That means you put yourself in control of where they look, as much as you can. A technique I use with repair people is to get chatty, maintain eye contact, stand between them and the clutter, and ask questions. This keeps them from looking around (they're looking at you with the eye-to-eye contact) and thinking about what they are seeing (get them to thinking about answering your questions instead of thinking about what comes into their field of vision). It actually works. |
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Post by gottaproblem on Jun 13, 2010 0:16:57 GMT -5
Thinking of you and all that you have accomplished today.  |
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Post by downandout on Jun 13, 2010 5:47:38 GMT -5
thank you to everyone for your replies i really do appreciate it!  so just stand my ground and offer no explanation for the curtain? i think i can i think i can i think i can i think i can i think i can i think i can i think i can i think i can i think i can i think i can i think i can i think i can  after i posted this thread i got off the computer and spent with hubby the next couple of hours rearranging the stuff in the master bedroom so it would fit better and give us more room in there then we started hauling things from the living room and stuffed them into the master bedroom. it is now floor to ceiling in there and packed tight. you can still get to the bathroom in there tho. goat path.  so now the living room hoard is maybe 1/3 smaller than it was which is ok but its still a mess you know? i threw some sheets over it but it pretty much looks like someone threw some sheets over crap. what i really need are sheets that look like a nicely done up living room. you throw that over your stuff and it looks like you have a stylish room instead.  then we crapped out but here it is a couple hours later and im up. nervous about today. i think i can i think i can i think i can i think i can i think i can i think i can i think i can i think i can i think i can |
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Post by Chris on Jun 13, 2010 9:21:12 GMT -5
Just wanting to wish you luck with today - I hope it all goes well -- sounds like you did a lot to prepare! |
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Post by notsomessyshell on Jun 13, 2010 11:45:16 GMT -5
Hope it all went well. You did some great prep work!
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Post by downandout on Jun 13, 2010 14:42:35 GMT -5
well they just left. i have to say that they were very nice and all my worrying over them asking about the curtain or taking a look at the place? they didnt ask and they only wanted to talk to us. worrying for nothing!! i do this all the time!  i dont know whats going on but just like bigtimetroubles my landlords want to sell the place.  they have offered us first chance but if we decline then they will (try to) sell it with a stipulation that we can stay on until the end of our lease next year. man oh man oh man oh man. the thought of moving again is just its just soooo upsetting. but the thought of buying the place scares the crap out of me! if we buy this place that means we will never have to move again. and i worry that the lack of fear/pressure/whatever will mean we will lapse on our commitment to getting out from under all this stuff. i also worry about being able to take care of the repairs that all homes need (either now or eventually). at least we can stay here until the end of our lease if we decide not to buy. at least we have time to save up money and get rid of more stuff before then. i am truly grateful for that. hubby is checking things out to find out if financially we can do this. btw the price they are asking is very reasonable. i am searching to see if this is something we really want to do you know?  sometimes i think that renting keeps us from going too far. but it sure would be nice not to have to worry about landlords. what would you do? |
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Post by Chris on Jun 13, 2010 15:13:35 GMT -5
Wow -- I guess I'd research all my options very carefully -- maybe go as far as trying to get pre-qualified for a mortgage so that even if you decide not to buy this house you are in you'd know where you're at in the financing/credit score arena. There will be a lot of considerations in your choice -- at least it sounds like you've got some time to prepare regardless of which way it goes -- stay and buy or move. I'd use the time as if I was going to have to move -- and still commit to organizing and de-cluttering! You can't go wrong with all that you do to organize. Good luck! |
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Post by bigtimetroubles on Jun 13, 2010 22:44:22 GMT -5
wow this sucks for you.....I know! Not laughing! it just crams it all in your face....shuckie derns....I do not know what to say because I am facing the same situation....hugs btt
put update in title on first post so the others jump in and find out what has happened,....this sucks.....hugs again...I just modified this to add this....hugs btt
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Post by dtesposito on Jun 13, 2010 23:02:54 GMT -5
Hi Downandout, I only have my own experience to judge by, but I don't think owning will necessarily make you lose control of your place. I think that you have to be psychologically ready to clean up, and that can happen (or not) if you rent or if you own. I rented for many years, then bought a condo. About 3-4 years after buying the condo, I started changing things in a minor way, and just about 3 years ago I accelerated the process and have made a lot of changes. I think the fact that I own this place at this stage of my life encourages me to be cleaner, because I know I'll never live anyplace else. I know that there is no mythical "larger" place in my future that would have more room for all my stuff, so it's either get rid of the stuff now or live cluttered the rest of my life.
Buying a place can also give you a pride of ownership that makes you want to care for it. You're right though, it's a huge responsibility--something you have to do if you're considering buying is to have an independent inspection. You may not want to let someone in to do that, but it's a MUST, you don't want to buy something that turns out to have major problems in the near future.
Even if you decide not to buy, I doubt they'll sell the house easily in this economy, unless you live in a place that is unusually good for real estate right now. So if you refuse now, you may get another chance later if it doesn't sell. Not guaranteed, though.
Do you especially like this house? Would you want to buy it even if moving wasn't going to be a huge job?
Good luck with your decision, it's a big one!
Diane
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Post by downandout on Jun 14, 2010 8:42:24 GMT -5
i did like you suggested bigtimetroubles and put update in the title. youre right about this sucking too. and im sorry youre going thru an even rougher patch. i sure hope you can find something thats affordable and will meet all your needs. have you given up on trying to buy the place youre in now? as far as this house goes yeah i can say that i do like it. i like the neighborhood too. even the weirdos who walk around with their clipboards making sure everyone is keeping their place in tip top order! . altho i got to say that they do scare me a llittle bit because if we did buy this place then we are responsible for repairs that may be needed out there. even just cosmetic ones. hubby is coming up with ideas like he wants to get a shed outside and put the washer and dryer in there then redo the space in here where they were and make the space into huge closets. i think hes already got his mind made up. oh and we figure that the owners want to sell because they are worried the oil will come here and property values will plummet. |
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Post by success19 on Jun 14, 2010 23:40:11 GMT -5
Wanting to sell and actually selling or 2 different things however - and buyers might not want to be where the oil is coming in anyway.
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