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Post by missmessme on Jul 8, 2015 20:13:48 GMT -5
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Post by danny15 on Mar 18, 2016 10:31:04 GMT -5
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Post by openwindows on Mar 18, 2016 14:30:31 GMT -5
I love Fivecat 's story. I originally read it on the old site about 2 years ago. The part about realizing she was on her own and having to figure out how to fix it by herself, gave me the strength to take my first step. I wish I could say I dug myself out like she did but I didn't. I took my child and left my husband. It was both the hardest and best thing I ever did. As I sat there in tears that morning I thought of her words and how she realized she was the only one that could save her and realized I was the only one that could save me and my child. I couldn't stay and fix the mess. I was dying inside. My child was the only thing that kept me from attempting suicide. I gathered every bit of strength I could find, packed the bare necessities, had my parents come get dd and left with our only vehicle mere minutes after he came home from work that night. A few months later I had to go back and face our squalor with him because the house was being foreclosed on. We did a lot of talking and crying between fits of cleaning and packing. Somehow while dismantling the life we had built and squalored together we figured out that we're still in love with each other. That was a year ago. It took another 6 months for me accept that things really are better. Sometimes the house is messy and sometimes we fight but we aren't drowning in squalor, environmental or emotional, anymore. I'm happy most days and he still thanks me for coming home. It sure hasn't been a fairy tale but I think I'm pretty close to happily ever after. Fivecat is absolutely a queen now. Only a queen would understand princesses enough to get them off their duffs and convince them to save themselves. I'm grateful to the bottom of my heart for her, her words and her wisdom.
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Post by scribbliz on Mar 18, 2016 21:20:07 GMT -5
Fivecat is absolutely a queen now. Only a queen would understand princesses enough to get them off their duffs and convince them to save themselves. I'm grateful to the bottom of my heart for her, her words and her wisdom. This. So this! A queen also has the courage to share the hardships she's faced and overcome. Thank you Fivecat for being strong and showing us we can be strong too.
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Post by Fivecat on Mar 18, 2016 22:53:34 GMT -5
Oh, my. Scribblitz and Open windows. I'm not a cryer but this brings a tear to my eye. I'm overwhelmed that my story impacted you in such a way. I'm no queen. Seriously. I still struggle ever single day with squalor. As a squalorer, I'm like an alcoholic or an addict. It is a life long disease I have to fight EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. Some days I win, some days I don't. But like you, all of you, I'm fighting the good fight, both in my home, and in myself. I,m glad my story encouraged you, but i think you are the ones who are very courageous. And that inspires me
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Post by hiding on Mar 19, 2016 20:24:28 GMT -5
Wow, just Wow! You are an inspiration and beacon of pure light to anyone who reads your story. I'm putting this thread on my bookmarks list. The challenges that you faced and overcame would literally kill a weaker person.
Thank you.
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Post by PerrinJade on Nov 15, 2016 14:21:12 GMT -5
I'd never read your story before. I'd been to the old site, but I only looked at photos. I'm glad I read it now. Thank you.
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Post by H2H on Apr 16, 2017 14:30:43 GMT -5
fivecat I am transferring my long post from here in reply to your heartfelt story,y to a new forum post. I SO appreciate your openness, and sharing the reality of life honesty!
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Post by Nael_C on Oct 3, 2017 4:47:16 GMT -5
Fivecat, thank you for sharing your journey! This is one of the most moving things I've ever read and I feel privileged to have stumbled upon it! You are my inspiration!
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Post by ccd on Dec 29, 2017 12:39:08 GMT -5
Fivecat, I just read your story and it is so inspirational. My home is falling apart more and more while my husband says we can't afford to hire people to fix it and he'll "get around to it."
Were you able to hire people to fix your roofing, etc., or did you learn to do these things yourself?
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Post by Deleted on Jan 5, 2018 9:05:49 GMT -5
What an inspiring tale! Thank you, fivecat!
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Post by hedy on Sept 3, 2018 19:22:52 GMT -5
If anyone ever needs inspiration, this story is a very good place to find it.
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Post by messimo on Feb 7, 2019 5:22:36 GMT -5
Wow. Just... WOW. I think this is the first time I've read your story, Fivecat, and it really hits home for me. I can't even begin to express how much I needed to read this today. Thank you so much for sharing your story all those many years ago. Also, huge thanks to CourageouslyLion SeeksSerenity for linking this from another thread.
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Post by joann1968 on Nov 24, 2019 4:24:17 GMT -5
I bookmarked this thread. My husband and I are both dealing with very serious health issues and we are trying to repair and clean 20 years of clutter out of our home. When I get down since it seems like a job that will never be done I will come here to read. My husband had throat cancer ten years ago and he is in remission. He never recovered from the treatmnents. We have no help, either, and I know it is up to us. I have a heart condition and Hereditary Hemochromatosis, so we are kind of handicapped in doing this no matter how I look at it. But we have to.
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Post by larataylor on Nov 24, 2019 8:35:01 GMT -5
joann1968 - sometimes the idea of "done" inspires me. Other times it overwhelms me. I've cleared a tremendous amount of clutter from two houses, but I'm not "done." I have livable living spaces, where life can run smoothly, and still-cluttered peripherals like the garage and basement. When "done" looks impossible, I focus on making some aspect of life better. That has a ripple effect.
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