HELP. I don't know how to handle this...... Oct 27, 2010 20:14:28 GMT -5
Post by ohblondie on Oct 27, 2010 20:14:28 GMT -5
OK. Bear with me as I muddle thru the best I can. "Scuse any typos....it is dark and I am too *** to fo get my glasses........
OK> I have been a member on these boards (and SS) for years. I struggle with issues like everyone here. I have too much stuff and can't part with it easily.
Usually I am clean underneath it all. 9 times out of 10- my counters are wiped, my dishes are done. Laundry is usually done- though not always folded and put away. Garbage is usually picked up and taken out and bathrooms are usually clean (I hate dirty bathrooms so they are usually always clean)
But I am on this board because you can;t walk thru my living room and the rest of my house is goat trails. I have had hte occasional mouse or two- but never bugs. (ie roaches)
Well, I have a two family house that I rent out. The people that rent it are related to each other. The woman upstairs has been there since May. She has 4 kids and the house is always clean. I decided to accept social servies for her rent- because she appears to be a good mom and clean. (Catch the irony?)
Her mother and father and young nephew live downstairs. They have lived there for several years- and pay their rent in cash- but pay significantly less than upstairs. I really like this lady. I enjoy sitting and talking with her- She is not the best housekeeper- she has several health issues (obseity, diabetes, cancer scare, lung problems) but I see past that and just really enjoy her company (I am obese and and probably pre-diabetic as well)
Well- she allowed another daughter to move in with her. this daughter has 4 kids and the daughter does not supervise them well. Is it specifically stated in the lease that no one else is to be living there- but I felt bad becasue she was evicted and had no place to go with the kids. And teh place is even more of a mess now.
Well- upstairs tenant has called because she found roaches. I am not sure if they moved in when the other daughter moved her stuf in- or if they came in another way. My husband was at teh apt last week to fix the furnace and saw spaghetti on the ceiling.
Now- the upstairs daughter is threatening to move out- because she does not want to live with the bugs. I agree- I would not want to live with them either. I dont want to lpse the upstairs tenant because she pays more- even though she has lived there less time.
dislaimer- I am paying a mortgage on this house and I have to treat it like a business- and that is the business thing to do. I do not owe anyone free rent....
OK= so- I have to go talk to the downstairs tenant and tell her that she needs to clean up her apt. She needs to empty cupboards and wipe counters and get rid of trash. I know deep down inside I might have to evict her if it does not get cleaned up.
I have to call an exterminator- who will tell me he can spray all the time- but until teh mess is cleaned up- it won;t be effective.
I fell very conflicted- because while I am an ok housekeeper and I am fairly clean- I have way too much stuff. And I feel weird telling her to do what I cannot seem to do. But I cannot aford to have my property overtaken by roaches. It is an investment property and I will either sell it or move back into it once the kids are gone.
Iam so nice- such a pushover. She lived there three years before I raised the rent and it was only $25. They are paying way under market value for the apt. But they have allowed it to become run down looking (we keep the physical property up- it is just junky and dirty outside and inside)
Argh....I dont know how to approach this. And I am,starting to feel like they are taking advantage of me.....I don;t owe the homeless daughter a free ride forever...
I am starting to ramble here. I guess I need to figure out how to approach it- what to actually say.
And then I need to get my butt in gear here!!!!!
I need help on both fronts from all of you- who understand!!!