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Post by Arid on May 23, 2011 19:21:30 GMT -5
silence and others: keep in mind that OCD and OCPD are *NOT* the same thing.
Arid
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Post by sparkle on May 26, 2011 0:08:42 GMT -5
looking forward to reading your insights. thanks for doing this.
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Post by Backpack on May 26, 2011 13:11:05 GMT -5
Okay! Book is here! Getting ready to start. Will edit this entry with my review after I've read the first part.
The cognitive behavioral therapist that I see did his graduate study on perfectionism, so I have been very lucky. I'm hoping that this book will be a useful adjunct to that therapy.
Impressions from chapter one:
Wow, yes, I do ruminate. And I'm hyper-focused on avoiding criticism by trying to get everything just right. There's a whole list of characteristics that describe someone who is obsessive, but those are the two that jump out at me the most.
Obsessive traits as an adaptation to early experiences: My parents were loving, but severely enforced rules of conduct. Achievements in school were praised, but expected. I can see how wanting approval led me to some of these traits. We are not just the sum of our upbringings, though. It takes a lot of choices as an adult to keep this system perpetuating.
It also doesn't surprise me that Mallinger posits that some people have an inborn predisposition to these traits. It would make sense that it's a combination of nature plus nurture. He has the positive outlook that this isn't set in stone.
The need for control: Trying to be perfect as a way of controlling risk, and not being hurt. But clamping down that tightly means that you miss a lot of joy.
Self-test: I answered "yes" to about half of the questions. So I am someone that this book may help. And it does say that help is possible, just that it will take work.
It was a short, straightforward chapter. It seemed to be aimed at helping you self-identify traits in yourself which are obsessive.
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Post by Starflower on Mar 24, 2013 0:45:31 GMT -5
I just ordered this book to deal with my severe demand resistance and plan to discuss it here. Please feel free to join me in the journey!
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