Abstinence from Neglecting any Mess Mar 28, 2013 19:16:30 GMT -5 creativechaos likes this Quote Select PostDeselect PostLink to PostBack to Top Post by journeymom on Mar 28, 2013 19:16:30 GMT -5 I've noticed the AA similarities as well, and I've been slowly ambling my way towards abstaining from neglect. Haven't taken the plunge yet, but my hunch is that it will be a big help. I really don't think I can make new patterns without having an all-or-nothing attitude. And I don't know how to explain this but I'm aware that I'll STILL fall off the wagon, even with a huge commitment to abstaining -and I'm okay with it. I know what people mean by being alarmed by the concept here. Everyone needs to find their own way and their own vocabulary.I know what it is: I'm raising expectations for myself for the first time in a long time. At the same time I'm getting better at not beating myself up or falling apart. I know I'm going to mess up. That's okay, I'm still abstaining.