I can't get past the "getting dressed to the shoes" part. I hate shoes. I find them barbaric. The very last thing I do before going out the door in the morning is put shoes on ... & the very first thing I do when I come in the door is take them off.
When it's warm out, I often just put them in my bag, & go barefoot.
From what I gather, she's adamant that you have to put shoes on first thing in the morning & keep them on all day in order to have a clean house. If that's the case, I'd rather live in filth.
Does anybody know of a barefoot-friendly website that offers the same sort of advice?
Post by tiredofthis on Sept 12, 2008 21:14:30 GMT -5
I was just thinking that I'd love to find another site like this one, because Flylady is a little bit to d**n perky for my tastes. Although, there are flylady groups for your own state. I joined mine, and although it's not as active as this forum, people did welcome me immediately when I posted.
Post by fluffychild on Sept 12, 2008 22:21:46 GMT -5
I feel that fly lady's group is more advanced that what we are. I feel that they have all their clutter gone, and are just doing maintenance. As for the 27 fling -- I never liked that because I felt that she wanted you to run around your house as fast as you could and just toss and toss. If you have a cluttered house, you have to be careful how fast that you move so that you do not fall over anything. I usually put my shoes on within an hour after getting up and they are on me, normally until I know that I am in my house for the night.
With FlyLady, as with everything else, YMMV (Your Mileage May Vary).
I find her great for maintenance, but not for serious de-squaloring. I also dislike her "God breezes": the name makes me twitch, because I am quite sure that our religions are not the same, and it annoys me that she assumes that they are. I also find her "no whining" rule condescending. 1) It's my home and I'll whine if I want to. (Demand resistance, anyone? 2) Her definition of whining is not the same as mine. If someone says to me: "I can't do it that way because I have a disability/other valid reason, that doesn't constitute whining in my books.
All right, that's enough ranting for now from Mouse.
I haven't failed. I have successfully found a way that doesn't work. -Thomas Edison
Post by mysmom2001 on Sept 12, 2008 22:30:56 GMT -5
I needed a chuckle right about the time I read your thread omgosh! I hate the site...yikes, did I say that? Anywho perky people tend to piss me off (no offense), but my goodness the shoe thing feels like punishment more then a suggestion. But I know the tip does work for some people. I prefer barefeet, house pants, a ratty (super soft) t-shirt and a pony tail. If that is wrong, oh flipping well. I got it done.
The shiny sink thing I have really stuck too though. Even if I get up before dawn (yawn), I make sure the sink and countertops are bare, and clean.
I am being dragged into cleanliness kicking, and screaming! But refuse to wear tennis shoes during the process.
conceptually flylady rules. exposure gives me cavities with the sweetness. i know personally some people who are that sweet and i can handle it because i know them and love them. some stranger weeping soft purple clouds or whatever kindof freaks me out. and the only time the claws come out is when she encounters someone who's depressed and says anything about it and they are promptly shredded by her like she's freddie krueger- wtf.
on another note, i love shoes when i have to leave my home and own many many shoes, they are pretty at home i want to be barefoot. it's cleaner, more comfortable blahblah...
i figure that's why god made tabi socks and slippers though. i don't want -anyone- wearing shoes in my home and as far as i'm concerned flylady's sort of a cultural snob if she can't grok that it's a sign of disrespect to me for anyone let alone myself to wear shoes in my home. is icki. i understand not everyone was brainwashed into that as a cultural thing. but i was. and it's a personal thing with how i roll.
I think sometimes us messies resist being told what to do. Being willing to do things that are not MY way was a big part in my recovery. I was sure MY way was always right even when I wore one black and one blue shoe to work because they were the same shoe and the only ones I could find.
We have to be willing to do what we don't want to and to take information from sources that may not be ideally suited for us and learn to modify instead of seeing a program as a magical formula that only works when followed to the T.
for me it really is a cultural thing- growing up in the states my family all lived on farms and no one would wear outdoor shoes indoors. there was a space, and a bench.. you took off shoes, and put on slippers when you came inside... it would have been amazingly rude to go through the dirt roads, gravel driveways then walk inside in those same shoes... some, few visitors, would wear their shoes inside because they'd come straight to the front door up the paved walkway, but still, usually they were use to taking their shoes off inside... my neighbors were hawaiian. and then i dated a boy from hawaii for 5 years who had a large portion of asian and especially japanese family members.. it's so culturally ingrained to remove shoes when entering the home that even in schools children to this day will remove their outdoor shoes and put on what you might call slippers. it's a very much ingrained cultural thing and it would have been extremely disrespectful to wear my dirty outdoor shoes indoors.. there were frequently baskets of clean, and in various sizes indoor slippers by the front door for guests to wear to prevent chilly feet or feeling exposed having your feet showing since some people don't like that.. again, there was always an area by the door to sit down, remove shoes, and a basket for them and area underneath the bench for them to go... i do wear shoes, of sorts inside, like i said, tabi socks.. other types of soft indoor shoes.. and i have a pair of converse that i wear only indoor but anything hoard soled is also hard on the bamboo mats in my home... so it's fairly destructive to the flooring.. and highheels which i personally love for outdoor wear will just crack the mats. ..:/ uhg