For all of us who acquire too much stuff Apr 4, 2012 8:41:08 GMT -5
Post by dayeanu on Apr 4, 2012 8:41:08 GMT -5
Apparently I shop when I am stressed and I am stressed as all get out at the moment and surrounded at work by equally stressed people - the office was verging on complete hysteria this afternoon.
On the way home from the gym I decided I needed to by all the things I have been thinking about getting and a pillow.
The appliance shop did not have the answering machine I chose so I didn't get that but in the next shop I bought a pillow I didn't know I needed.(it was half price and I'll do something with the old one)
Luckily the next appliance shop was closed
At the next shop 2 long sleeved tees and jacket (all 30% off) and Easter eggs.
I am going to throw away the old tee I wore to work today - it seems smelly. And ya can't have too many long sleeved tees......
That's right! You can't have too many long-sleeved T's! At least you are heading into your cool season, right? I always buy winter stuff just as summer's beginning. then it has all summer to get shuffled and float around my house!
I'm sorry about the work situation yesterday. Sounds awful. I'd be taking a shopping break too!
I think we all shop more when we are stressed. Also, I think I shop impulsively when I'm lonely or disappointed (I think I am being nice to myself; giving myself a treat.) I shop more when I've done really well, as a "reward." And I tend to shop excessively when I have extra money, because I feel like I can afford to splurge.
I think I also shop because I want an instant fix. And if I buy clean laundry, my laundry is instantly done. If I buy new dishes, my dishes are instantly clean.
(and of course, I'm a big shopper for "my life someday." But I think that may be fueled by disappointment in my current life. I think that still falls under "disappointment" shopping.)
I think these attitudes become habits. It's almost automatic - I've had a rough day, I'm going to do something nice for me, and automatically I'm looking to buy something nice and clean and pretty. Because I want to be surrounded by nice, and clean, and pretty.
I am working on re-defining what "being good to me" is; what a "reward" or "treat" is. I am working on finding other things that are more positive rewards.
I am working on seeing shopping and acquiring as an ugly thing, a thing that promotes a dirty, nasty, ugly, unpleasant home.
Recently, when I am at a store, I try to envision professional marketers, huddled together in a back room; evil, vile people, watching me on the store's hidden cameras, rubbing their hands together and gloating about how they are making me buy things I don't need.
That may seem extreme, but so has my acquiring been! Whatever works to break the habit!
I started this thread because I thought it might help those of us who acquire too much to have accountability. Sure I could talk to my therapist, but once a week accountability is not enough for me.
I read the thread in By-Ways, about how writing a paragraph can change your outlook and results. I thought maybe I should do that. I guess that's what I'm doing here.