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Post by wendlyn on May 14, 2012 22:33:05 GMT -5
Hello everyone. I have been reading here for about two years and this forum made it possible for me to get my diagnosis of Adult ADD and to get on the road to living squalor free. The things I have learned here from you all have been invaluable!!!
I have wanted to post here for a very long time but my troubles never seemed "big" enough ..... but now finally I understand that we are all the same - our issues are the same even if the severity varies - but the compassion I have to offer (and receive) is the same....
I am not currently in any sort of real crisis but I know that I am one bad life event away from re-squaloring and I want to hang out here with you all, giving and receiving encouragement!!
I am 43, married with a wonderful 6 YO son - and we all have ADD or ADHD (and never knew it!!) We are all trying very hard to not let the squalor return (although we still have pockets!!)
Anyway, I feel fairly guilty for lurking for so long and not contributing but I really do want to thank everyone here for helping me reach my wonderful mostly-maintenance stage - I literally could not have done this without you.
I look forward to really getting to know all of you. I truly believe that our "issues" make us vastly more compassionate and therefore more interesting folk :-)
xoxoxo
Wendy
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Post by hangers on May 14, 2012 23:05:29 GMT -5
Welcome. Glad you posted. Yes, we are definitely an interesting bunch in here!
If you don't mind my asking, how did you get the diagnosis for adult ADD. I'm sure I have that. My youngest daughter was diagnosed with it. I've always had these symptoms. A psychologist once told me she felt that was one of my problems. But I've never really had a firm diagnosis. They always seem to just act like I should just get my act together and quit whining and deal with it.
Best of luck with your endeavors. Don't feel guilty for lurking. I'm sure we have many lurkers. I was one on the SS site years ago. But only recently got the courage to post here. That was when I was just finally hitting bottom though. It was a cry for help. And this board was the only place I ever got it. It's a great bunch of people.
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Post by wendlyn on May 14, 2012 23:28:37 GMT -5
Hi Hangers!! I had to push very hard for the diagnosis. I see the ADD/ADHD tendencies all over this board and think it is more of an issue than maybe people think.
After a lot of frustration, I finally called my insurance company and told them i needed a psychiatrist for Adult Adhd and couldn't find one.
they called back within the hour.
So, DEFINITELY do that first before you try to make appointments - your ins company can get you an appt where you probably cannot.
Keep going until you get the right person. You are not whining. there is a real problem with your brain chemistry and you can fix it, with vitamins/ herbs and some other things. Drugs and / or meditation. Keep in touch!
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Post by hangers on May 14, 2012 23:34:00 GMT -5
OH wendlyn, thanks for the speedy reply. Unfortunately I have an issue with insurance. Our insurance has a $5000 deductible. And doesn't cover any mental health issues. Please refer to the thread I started about health insurance for more details. It started quite a debate. And I see I am not alone in having very inadequate coverage.
Are there vitamins/herbs that are supposedly helpful for the condition?
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Post by wendlyn on May 14, 2012 23:45:10 GMT -5
oh, boo hiss at insurance!!
However, I did well with these things, before any diagnosis whatsoever:
Rhodiola Rosea - Ameriden OR Gaia Herbs
B6 AND all B -Vitamins
Magnesium - Chelated to Taurine or Malate
Good whole food multi
Really. These things and some others - fixed me!!!
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Post by TheCatsMother on May 15, 2012 2:25:02 GMT -5
Hi Wendlyn, It's lovely that you've started posting here and I agree there are so many interesting and compassionate people using this site. Congratulations on reaching the maintenance stage. Wise idea to get more involved here though to help prevent another visit to squalordom. I'm looking forward to chatting with you on the threads. Thanks so much for sharing about your ADD. I suspect I may have this too along with alcoholism (though I've stopped drinking), OCD and anxiety that often interferes in my daily life. I'm seeing the doctor on Thursday as I want to find out if there's any support I can get The difficulites I face in life are small compared to what many here are grappling with but I feel very daunted by my own situation. Happy posting  |
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Post by dreamingofchange on May 15, 2012 4:00:53 GMT -5
Hi Wendlyn, so nice to have you here. I lurked on SS for ages and then I found a link here and plucked up the courage to say hi! This fabulous, friendly place has had an immediate impact on me and I'm much more motivated to keeping my place neat, clean and tidy. I've managed a few changes and kept them up, still a long way to go but I'm feeling great about the changes that have been made and I can see! Like you, I'm afraid I'll go back to the way things were, that's why I keep looking, posting and reading.
A big warm hug to you and your family, we all care xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Post by Starflower on May 15, 2012 7:00:54 GMT -5
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Post by Sunshine on May 15, 2012 8:34:09 GMT -5
I have wanted to post here for a very long time but my troubles never seemed "big" enough ..... but now finally I understand that we are all the same - our issues are the same even if the severity varies - but the compassion I have to offer (and receive) is the same.... Wendlyn, it's a pleasure to meet you! As was explained to me a few days ago, not being in a crisis is a good thing! It seems that if we have the squalor bug, it's just a matter of degree. And yes - the compassion that you can offer and give is what makes this place so darn good. There was a thread a little while back, something like "a love letter to the lurkers". I often look at the little statistics thing on the home page.... for example, in the last day on this site, there have been: 1 Staff Member, 126 Members, 531 Guests, 29 Invisible Users. That makes 687 people who all matter equally.  We each do what works for us, and it sounds like watching and reading worked beautifully for you - thus, it was the right thing to do! And it's a pleasure to have you join in with posting as well Congratulations on reaching mostly-maintenance... what a wonderful achievement.  |
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Post by wendlyn on May 15, 2012 9:55:41 GMT -5
Thank you all so much for the warm welcome!! I actually met my husband on an internet forum (for music!) so I know that lifelong friendships can be forged here. As I write this my son is vacuuming (he woke up and wanted to!) and  at not being in crisis a good thing. I realized I am just programmed to feel guilty since I do whether I live in squalor or not!! Although we are still not talking about the garage..... Much love and support and whatever else I can give to all of you!! Wendy |
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Post by messymimi on May 15, 2012 12:20:18 GMT -5
Welcome, Wendy!
Never feel guilty about lurking, many do. The point is that people get help, even if they never post.
That said, i'm glad you did!
It's good to have you here.
messymimi
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Post by joyinvirginia on May 15, 2012 23:14:45 GMT -5
Welcome! What region of Virginia are you from? I live in central VA not far from Richmond.
You do not have to be at rock bottom to ask for help or see the need to change. Maintenance its hard, and support is essential. You can do it!,
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Post by tryingtoclean on May 16, 2012 0:32:11 GMT -5
I lived in Virginia for awhile...extreme southwestern virginia to be exact. About a 45 min drive from the Bristol motor speedway. |
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Post by Wendy on May 16, 2012 20:48:47 GMT -5
thank you Messymimi! I have enjoyed reading your blog - your life sounds so big and fun! I live in Charlottesville so we are practically neighbors, Joy! I have never been further southwest than Roanoke but it sure is pretty down there. I am happy to be out of the (messy) closet so to speak.... I have hit rock bottom once or twice but I feel pretty hopeful that the truly awful stuff will not happen again. It is a terrifying thing to live with though, isn't it? (It is so nice to be in a place where everybody just nods their heads and says, Amen to that :-)
Have a wonderful night all!
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