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Post by CourageouslyLion SeeksSerenity on Jun 23, 2012 18:53:12 GMT -5
Paying my helper cost me a TON of money. But I considered this to be like a drug addict going to inpatient rehab for a month or two. It costs a ton -- but it was necessary for ME ... to do it this way ... in order to have a CLEAN base to stay clean from.
It is worth it to me ... to be "SQUOBER". (sober from squalor)<snip> I wish I had had been bold enough to toss faster. But I wasn't. So I spent more time, energy, and money to do it perfectionistically. I have kind of an impossible question for you, Lion -- what would you have done if you didn't have the time and money do get out of squalor the way you did? <snip> I'm wondering if there is another way for someone like me to do this? So this is where my impossible question comes from -- looking back on your journey, do you think that there would have been alternatives to your "inpatient rehab", or do you think that, for you, that was the only way to go? For many decades I had lived in deprivation and desperation. Late in the year 2009, had an unusual stroke of several pieces of financial prosperity coming my way unexpectedly, and that's what made this possible. In 2010, as soon as I discovered the right longterm helper who lived in my area, I began work. All of these circumstances were (and are) truly miraculous blessings that I never would have imagined possible. I chose to post my story because, ultimately, I felt that it was important that our members realize that this takes real commitment to get done. I think my main motivation to post ... was that I didn't want to see anyone living with themselves, their families, and their animals ... in a big mess ... any longer than they needed to. I want to see a relief of suffering in the world. Why wait? Why no do it now?HOWEVER, I actually hesitated posting my story because ... I felt that it might discourage people who don't have large blocks of time and money. Sigh. I hope everyone realizes that there is more than one way to do this. I've simply reported the path that I chose. Your question: What would I have done if I hadn't had the large chunk of time and money?
My reply: I don't know.
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Post by Layla on Jun 23, 2012 19:45:48 GMT -5
Courageous, its great you posted your story! It is helpful. I think all of our stories have different aspects to them and we can take pieces from everyones path or we can simulate things that we think will work best for us. I think what hit home for me about yours was the ability to go thru every paper, that it was time consuming but its what you did and the way you went about it. I feel very much the same. I am currently doing the same thing except Im doing most of it alone but have a lot of motivation and am putting hours in daily on my own just like you did with your helper. I know many of us have different reasons to get out of all of our STUFF. You said finances helped and made it possible For me Im on my way out but what really peaked mine was my kids moving out and moving out of state for me has forced me to have to face all this and on a faster track.(Im working as we speak taking breaks reading here) I know for my husband whos mom lived in squalor, he was bothered by her living situation and shes getting older and having a hard time getting around, so he set to work alongside her, she hoarded food. Crazy amounts everywhere and paper goods. Her home was in disrepair and that bothered him also so he made many trips and weekends, got dumpsters and 50 large trash bags of expired canned food was bulk picked up by the trash company. As a result, she had her home almost totally remodeled and she had a sudden surge of financial prosperity due to a death in the family. Her home is totally different and she also pays for a housekeeper now to clean! So it varies for all of us, none of us changed over night, for many of us we were stuck in it for many years, I just love hearing people getting out and about their new lives! Love to hear more about your life Now
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Post by messyme on Jun 23, 2012 19:56:14 GMT -5
Paying my helper cost me a TON of money. But I considered this to be like a drug addict going to inpatient rehab for a month or two. It costs a ton -- but it was necessary for ME ... to do it this way ... in order to have a CLEAN base to stay clean from.
It is worth it to me ... to be "SQUOBER". (sober from squalor)<snip> I wish I had had been bold enough to toss faster. But I wasn't. So I spent more time, energy, and money to do it perfectionistically. I have kind of an impossible question for you, Lion -- what would you have done if you didn't have the time and money do get out of squalor the way you did? <snip> I'm wondering if there is another way for someone like me to do this? So this is where my impossible question comes from -- looking back on your journey, do you think that there would have been alternatives to your "inpatient rehab", or do you think that, for you, that was the only way to go? For many decades I had lived in deprivation and desperation. Late in the year 2009, had an unusual stroke of several pieces of financial prosperity coming my way unexpectedly, and that's what made this possible. In 2010, as soon as I discovered the right longterm helper who lived in my area, I began work. All of these circumstances were (and are) truly miraculous blessings that I never would have imagined possible. I chose to post my story because, ultimately, I felt that it was important that our members realize that this takes real commitment to get done. I think my main motivation to post ... was that I didn't want to see anyone living with themselves, their families, and their animals ... in a big mess ... any longer than they needed to. I want to see a relief of suffering in the world. Why wait? Why no do it now?HOWEVER, I actually hesitated posting my story because ... I felt that it might discourage people who don't have large blocks of time and money. Sigh. I hope everyone realizes that there is more than one way to do this. I've simply reported the path that I chose. Your question: What would I have done if I hadn't had the large chunk of time and money?
My reply: I don't know.
I can't speak for anyone else, but for me, your post was not discouraging -- it was very inspiring! A bit of a wake-up call though, which I think is extremely helpful and I'm very, very grateful for your post. Between this post and the "stages of change" post, ... takeonestepatatime.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=general&action=display&thread=6766... I've been thinking a lot about what I really need to do, how much I really want it, and what I'm willing to sacrifice to get it. Because it does take sacrifice -- even with the resources you had, you worked very hard! I called my question an impossible question because I know it's not possible to answer it with any certainty, but you're right, there are many different paths to take, and I thought maybe you might have some insight into where you'd be now or how you would have gotten there if your situation would have been different. (Because of your spirit and because you were willing to spend the huge amounts of time, energy and money that you did, I think you would've probably made it work somehow eventually even if you didn't have those resources ) For now I'm going to take advantage of the short time off I have between courses for the next 2 weeks and if I don't feel as though I'm achieving what I want, I'm going to re-read your post for more inspiration and I might attack this mess from a different angle.
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Post by The Eliminator on Jul 17, 2014 5:40:12 GMT -5
Howdy Lioness! Thank you so much for giving me this link. This is fabulous. In reading it, I noticed a couple of key words, which I also have just recently declared: COMMITTED; and, job. Hmmmm... well if this is any indication, I'd say I'm at least on the right track! I hope this is another cosmic blessing... because I really can sense the end of this. Finally.
I know I will need days off.... but somehow I will get all the hours in. I'll just need to pull a few all-nighters. I've always been good at that. But I don't want to crash and burn, either!
But I'll be OK... it's got to get done. It shall be done.
Thank you for the inspiration. This is epic.
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Post by CourageouslyLion SeeksSerenity on Jul 20, 2014 15:58:31 GMT -5
The Eliminator, glad my story was of help. That's the only reason I posted it.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 20, 2014 17:52:05 GMT -5
Go you!
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Post by CourageouslyLion SeeksSerenity on Jul 23, 2014 13:14:50 GMT -5
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