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Post by ClutterBlind on Oct 25, 2011 15:04:59 GMT -5
I think out of ALL the threads at SOS, this one resonates and represents me, and affects me the most. I grew up in abuse and violence. Since a young age, I dreamed about getting out of there and creating a different life. That FUTURE life was what kept me going, helped me survive.
I am finally out of the abuse. But, this thread made me realize, I am STILL dreaming of a fantasy life, very different than the one I actually live. In fact, I attended a lot of self-help seminars. Their whole seduction is based on being able to live a big, splashy life afterward. Yes, my life is better. But, certainly not at the level of the seminar leaders. Even their assistants and employees, who know those techniques the most, don't live that level of a life.
Yes, I have bought things for that other life. Those are the ones that are the hardest to get rid of. That potential of someday being able to use them.
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Post by ramatama on Apr 10, 2012 10:50:45 GMT -5
this thread =  and that is why I am bumping it for all other newcomers. I have, after reading the previous pages, decided to go "retail shopping" in my own stacked boxes of "supplies for crafts" and commit to not acquire anything else until I have used up the contents of at least 3 boxes.  Moreover, if I have not used anything out a box by the middle of 2015, when my DH retires, the material will be donated to a kindergarten nearby. Ok, now it is in writing.  |
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Post by einsteinsdesk on Apr 10, 2012 12:02:00 GMT -5
Thanks for bumping this thread, ramatama.
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Post by Hurricane on Apr 10, 2012 14:33:06 GMT -5
Any moderators out there? I vote to put this on the "favorite threads" sub board.  |
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Post by Sunshine on Apr 10, 2012 16:25:19 GMT -5
Thank you so much for bumpimg this thread.
This resonates for me in so many ways. After reading the first 3 pages, I went to my room and looked at some of the beautiful clothes that survived my regular purges, and yet I have never or seldom worn.
They are beautiful. They do not fit me. There is no reason to believe they will fit me in the foreseable future. This is the TRUTH. And to change my life, I need to commit to the truth. Not to my wishes and magical fantasies. To the truth, in its beauty and toughness and integrity.
10 lovely items now in the charity bag, and may the person who receives them wear them in health and happiness, bless them.
Thank you all.
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Post by kiddledo on Apr 10, 2012 16:33:00 GMT -5
I have really internalized this in one area of my life...buying things to cook in and food for "special" I have a mantra..."who are you kiddding...you DON'T cook! Working for me.
I also vote for status on favorite threads
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Post by Starflower on Apr 10, 2012 18:18:34 GMT -5
Thanks for bumping this to my attention! I am going to re-read this and keep re-reading this until it sticks.
I sent the article on Scanners to my sons and my oldest liked it!
Take care.
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Post by moggyfan on Apr 10, 2012 19:00:23 GMT -5
Aaaugh. I got a Crate & Barrel catalog today. How much do I LOVE Crate and Barrel? This much.
I am reading here to dissuade myself from actually ordering any of the hundred things I would love to send for right now.
No
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Where's that NO thread again???
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Post by einsteinsdesk on Apr 10, 2012 21:08:55 GMT -5
Moggyfan, I know what you mean. I got my Crate and Barrel catalog too (and CB2 and West Elm!). Funny thing, though– I am not tempted to order anything via the catalog or internet. But if I went into the store and actually held the item, well then I would have a very hard time indeed.
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Post by moonglow on Apr 11, 2012 17:18:41 GMT -5
Moggyfan, maybe you are in maintenence, but I have a new rule in my house - until I am in maintenence, ALL catalogues go directly into the recycling bin without being looked at. I cannot bring ANYTHING into my house that I don't absolutely NEED. If there is something I NEED, I can go internet shopping for it - I have my favorite websites saved on my computer and otherwise I can google it. Really saves me from any temptation. It is hard, I love looking at gardening catalogues, but I am not buying plants this year either, until my yard is desqualored and I have prepared a place for the plant....
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Post by ontheway on Apr 11, 2012 17:46:04 GMT -5
Thank you so much for bumpimg this thread. This resonates for me in so many ways. After reading the first 3 pages, I went to my room and looked at some of the beautiful clothes that survived my regular purges, and yet I have never or seldom worn. They are beautiful. They do not fit me. There is no reason to believe they will fit me in the foreseable future. This is the TRUTH. And to change my life, I need to commit to the truth. Not to my wishes and magical fantasies. To the truth, in its beauty and toughness and integrity. 10 lovely items now in the charity bag, and may the person who receives them wear them in health and happiness, bless them. Thank you all. Sunshine - your revelations about your clothing resonates strongly with me too! Even though I have finally bagged 3 bags of clothing for donation, I still kept 1 bag of those clothes you talk about - they don't fit me or they don't fit my lifestyle. I felt good about the 3 bags I am able to let go - now I just need to get them out the door! |
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Post by artax on Apr 11, 2012 18:01:12 GMT -5
Wow. Did someone get inside my brain or what?
Thanks for bumping this thread up.
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Post by moggyfan on Apr 11, 2012 18:45:02 GMT -5
Hi Moonglow, Yes, I am in maintenance--"0" degrees in every room almost all the time.
But EVEN SO, I still have to STOP MYSELF from buying all this cool stuff that I WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO USE even if I live till 100!
I don't NEED any of it; I just WANT it. Grrrrr.
I do toss most catalogs, but Crate & Barrel, Williams Sonoma, and a few others sing to me. I have to force myself to wait a week and almost all the time that's enough to reduce the WANT enough so that I usually don't end up buying the stuff.
But stillll....it's all so PRETTY!!!
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Post by dayeanu on Apr 11, 2012 19:23:23 GMT -5
Moggyfan, maybe you are in maintenence, but I have a new rule in my house - until I am in maintenence, ALL catalogues go directly into the recycling bin without being looked at. I cannot bring ANYTHING into my house that I don't absolutely NEED. If there is something I NEED, I can go internet shopping for it - I have my favorite websites saved on my computer and otherwise I can google it. Really saves me from any temptation. It is hard, I love looking at gardening catalogues, but I am not buying plants this year either, until my yard is desqualored and I have prepared a place for the plant.... Moonglow, this is exactly my goal! The part about the gardening catalogs and plants really hitme where it hurts, too. But you are so right! |
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Post by einsteinsdesk on Apr 11, 2012 21:55:56 GMT -5
There's one thought that really helps me when I am tempted to splurge on home accessories. All those gorgeous houses featured on shelter blogs & magazines & catalogs are clean. None of the items on display would look half as nice in a pile of paper or trash, or stuffed in a bin. Therefore, cleanliness itself is THE number one most important "accessory" for a home.
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