oh no it finally happened

[downandout]

And last night when my alleged, 30-year "best friend" said that "suicide might be your only way out, after all you have no real life and no family". He's filthy rich, big house, do you think he'd offer to let me stay a while in his basement? HELL NO!!! So much for someone I thought was my best friend. That really hurt.

wow. that is some best friend. what an ***. when you go to look up butthole in the dictionary is his picture next to it?

i hope you got thru today okay. i wish i could help you Chel i really do

[scribbliz]

Hey chel, I did some looking online, to see what I can find out. Not living in the States, it makes it a bit harder to find imformation, but I hope what I found helps???

you could try Land of Lincoln Legal Aid? They work in souther Illinois; i don't remember that you specified where in Illinois?

also, from what I can tell, you don't have to leave until the judge signs a court order, and a sherrif shows up at your door. Once the judge has signed a court order, he will often (though not always) give a time frame (ie, you have 14 days), if, near the end of the 14 days, you file a motion to have the time extended the sherrif cannot have you removed until after the judge hears your motion (which will usually give you another week or so...depending on how quickly you can get in). They list a few reasons for time extentions...a death in the family, hospitalization, and other emergencies. Your health issues may very well be reason enough to extend your time.
Just so you know, I got this information from this website:
www.illinoislegalaid.org/index.cfm?fuseaction=home.dsp_Content&contentID=2204#a=intro

I don't know if any of this information will be helpful, but because I don't live much closer, this is all the help I can offer. I wish I could do so much more for you! I hope this day was ok, and I hope the heat wasn't too much when you worked out front. I will keep praying for you. Loads of hugs!

[Blackswan]

Regarding your friend, that is extremely emotionally abusive. I am glad you have decided not to contact them anymore. It sure makes me wonder about his mental state. What did you say in response to that? It may have just been an extremely thoughtless thing to say, unless the person has a pattern of saying horrible things like this. If its out of the ordinary maybe a real clear conversation could clear up the matter, with thirty years of friendship a conversation may be in order to ensure there are no misunderstandings about intentions. But yeah it is good to have a protective instinct for yourself and I am glad you reacted in such a strong self protective manner. Wow...

[chel]

OMG the city code bullies will be here in a half hour or less. Terrified isn't even the word. I have to stop crying. If you don't hear from me, it means I've been thrown out of the house.
Please pray for me.
Chel

[Blackswan]

They CANNOT throw you out without a court order. REFUSE to leave without one. DO NOT leave your home unless the sheriff escorts you out. DO NOT let them intimidate you.

[scribbliz]

chel, be brave You cannot be forced to leave without a court order; and you should recieve a notice of a day and time so you can defend yourself with the court. We are all with you!

[sillycanuck]

no word from chel yet?? could one of the admin of this board give her a call just a quick check in really-- worried about her

[chel]

Hi SillyCanuck (great name) and all:
I cannot figure this out: the Bully was to be here at 10 am CST and still hasn't shown up. and NO phone calls. So is that good or bad??? Ruben the landscaper will be here at 8 am tomorrow, just confirmed. To whack the buckthorne. Hey it's 5 hours late for the bully, what does that mean????? Is it good or bad? I know he is messing with me, but at today, 1:59 pm, nothing. I haven't eaten in a couple of days, just put my comfort foot (plain baked potato) in the convenction oven. I just wish I knew what was going on. I'm out about $1600 total; but if it can finally keep them away, it is so worth it. Tomorrow I will be off to pick up a few grocery items; I'm SICK of sitting in front of the kitchen window. And yes, I am working on de-cluttering. bagging stuff for my storage locker. How long do I wait to let Maggie out of her carrier in the crawl space???? (had to hide her of course).
No I am not de-homed, as of YET, but it's only 2 pm. Maybe 6 pm will be OK to free kitty.
Thanks again for all the wishes, prayers, and encouragements.
Chel

[sillycanuck]

whew- good to hear nothing is happening but understand the stress of not knowing Give kitty an extra hug for me when she is allowed out

[scribbliz]

hey chel, glad to hear nothing bad has happened yet, but I am sorry you are dealing with the extra stress of him not showing; if he hasn't shown by tomorrow morning, maybe call the office and ask?? the last thing you need is him to show up unexpectedly. though if he does, you do not need to allow him in your home if you don't wish to.

another thought that occured to me; maybe take some before and after shots as you do things?? that way if, heaven forbid!, he ever decides to try to take you to court to have you thrown out you have proof that you are working to make improvements?

Hugs and prayers to you! remember we are here for you!

[misssue]

I am so glad he did not show.. and my advice, keep going and leave well enough alone. I would call no city anybody! No news is news. You should be aware of this saying..do not take on any gunfights by reminding someone there is fight! I do advocate work for divorce, work with people for lawyers, by helping them with mundane though essential tasks. Spend your energy, time and money on progress.

I also have to ask, and in my work and have dealt with foreclosures. Are your taxes paid up or any outstanding code violations from the past on record? I know this often prompts a battle with cities towns etc.note. Or are there any liens on the house, judgements. You of course do not have to tell us, but if you do, that could be a reason, or as simple as they want that property or someone does...

YOU are doing great. I always wondered what the IGOTJUNK charged.. and that damm buckthorn or whatever that is, I live a state away and I need help.. it is creeping from the woods on the patio. EVEN in a drought. HUGS

[vagabondmoon]

If that guy tried to gain entry AGAIN w/out the proper papers I would meet him at the door w/ a shotgun, tell him he's trespassing, and to GET OFF MY PROPERTY. This whole thing stinks to high heaven! Kudos to you for holding up so well. Don't forget to take care of yourself!

[def6]

Praying for you my dear in this terrible time you are going through. Keep up the good work and make a list of what you have been able to do. They want to see that you are making improvements.

[boyswillbeboys]

At this point, besides a court order, don't forget, a tenant needs 24hrs notice, prior to entry, so a property owner would need at least that, and preferrably a court order/search warrant.

[phoebepj]

prayers going up for you chel... i hope that the bully NEVER comes back.