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Post by pearblossom on Oct 19, 2008 18:03:01 GMT -5
Keep coming here and checking in. Can't wait to here how you guys are doing now that hubby is on board. As I tackle the shame of it and trying to face that I've long blamed him for the things he could control and felt rage at how they knocked me off-course, I talk to him about little things I learned here. Well, he asked for the link to the forum so he could learn, too. I don't know if he's looked yet. And today he did quite a bit of cleaning up in places where it was obvious. As I walked through the house, there were obvious places of improvement. And he didn't just do ONE spot and quit, he did a few of them. Our son fell asleep at the dinner table (SHOCKING) at 6pm and we're having a glass of wine and an On-Demand movie tonight. He went into the living room to light a smelly candle and try to clear it up a bit. The whole thing has certainly helped my mindset. I'm trying to tackle taking care of myself and my appearance right now. I got on the Healthy Choices thread but I'm not sure that's going to work for me (but I'm trying). I know that for me, when I feel better about ME, I will take care of what I'm in because I feel like I'm worth it. I don't feel like that right now. Part of that is related to where my marriage has gone and I think dh is trying to work on that with me. It's just hard because it's many years of bad stuff to overcome. So that's where we're at right now. I'm hoping he will come here and learn as much as I am learning and feel the relief that comes with people who really understand as opposed to what messyshelby was saying with the rest of the world who feel like it's just a matter of "clean it up".
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