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Post by ponygirl on Feb 17, 2014 16:48:09 GMT -5
You know what, y'all??!! I really believe I'm turning a corner on tackling my stuff problem.
I can ~feel~ it, if that makes sense to you.
I'm beginning to buy into the 'making room for dreams and experiences' mantra.
I'm beginning to find fewer excuses for keeping something...something that has no real meaning in my life...or adds anything valuable.
I'm beginning to not have to find the 'perfect home' for something...it is perfect enough if 'it' ends up in the garbage or burn pile.
I'm beginning to not have the urge to bring everything to a donation center.
I'm beginning to make quicker decisions...not agonizing over the possibility of usefulness of an item.
Still struggling with memorabilia...although, when all is said and done...that will be a very small part of what is actually in all those piles...and what I'll actually keep and store.
I hope this will inspire you to carry on! I'm not giving up.
Love, Pony
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Post by ponygirl on Feb 17, 2014 16:54:58 GMT -5
And...I'm also buying into the 'better done than perfect' adage.
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Post by dtesposito on Feb 17, 2014 17:34:07 GMT -5
Ponygirl, I am happy for you! Diane
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Post by RoadRunner on Feb 17, 2014 17:44:07 GMT -5
ponygirl said "I can ~feel~ it, if that makes sense to you. " That makes perfect sense to me.
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Post by ponygirl on Feb 17, 2014 17:54:21 GMT -5
Thanks, all! I just wish I had more hours in the day! By the time I get home and get chores done, I'm exhausted. But, I'm doing something each day...no matter how small! It's the mental gymnastics that are easing up! Thank goodness for small gains! Thank you for the encouragement! Not sure if I could have done this w/o SooS.
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Post by def6 on Feb 17, 2014 19:14:46 GMT -5
Oh...I love this "I'm over it!" Stage. I'm just going to call myself right there with you. I have gone through and gone through....I have made the multiple trips to donate. I have tried to keep things...and later found that they should have gone well before now. I'm getting better at this and I know you are too.
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Post by ponygirl on Feb 17, 2014 21:12:52 GMT -5
Oh...I love this "I'm over it!" Stage. I'm just going to call myself right there with you. I have gone through and gone through....I have made the multiple trips to donate. I have tried to keep things...and later found that they should have gone well before now. I'm getting better at this and I know you are too. Exactly, Def!!!! I feel lighter already, if only 'mentally'. Gosh, I've been struggling with all this...this burden, for that is really what it is...in prison, almost...for decades. Thank you for the encouragement!
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Post by creativechaos on Feb 18, 2014 3:12:54 GMT -5
Ponygirl; it does/you do inspire me even though i am still deep in the throes of hoarding. I believe in you and in your process and as you are living proof that this works when you do the work - internal shifts happen, ease happens - how can this be anything but inspiring and joyful to witness? When one of us wins, we all win. Love to you -
and deep gratitude and appreciation for all of you who have reached this place of freedom and lightness, yet stay on these boards, giving back through your examples and showing us how it's done through daily maintenance, self care, and the different thinking that allows for living one's dreams, both large and small.
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Post by messymimi on Feb 18, 2014 7:23:05 GMT -5
What we tell ourselves, over and over, is what our subconscious eventually comes to believe. It takes time, it does work in the end, though.
And that end is really just a new beginning.
messymimi
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Post by ohblondie on Feb 18, 2014 8:45:06 GMT -5
yay!!! keep it up!
What is that song from the Junglebook....I wanna be like you? - I wanna walk like you,I wanna talk like you, wanna be like you"
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Post by Jannie on Feb 18, 2014 9:12:53 GMT -5
Congratulations! Turning a corner is a wonderful thing! I am at the stage where I get up, see my house looks "mostly" neat and I really have to hunt for something to put away or throw out. I'm down pretty much to my "necessities". And I do have "routines". Every morning, I wake up early, feed the pets, have my coffee, quick-clean the kitchen, scoop the cat box, take out the trash.
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Post by bluefrog on Feb 18, 2014 10:28:58 GMT -5
Yay, ponygirl! I'm glad it's becoming easier for you to make decisions and toss stuff instead of finding the "perfect" method. That's huge! I understand about being exhausted, but a little at a time, over time, will still fix your "stuff" problem. Go, you!
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Post by BetsyMarie on Feb 18, 2014 19:36:47 GMT -5
I totally know what you mean, ponygirl. Even though I've still got lots do to, I feel that I'm past the tipping point as well, mentally if nothing else. I've been getting rid of stuff and cleaning and maintaining as I go and it's just not the same as it used to be.
2 things are different now. One, I've figured out how to deal with 'overwhelmed'. That was accomplished with a combination of breaking things down into the smallest job or time frame, combined with rank denial (no long 'to do' lists). I don't constantly look at the big picture, just the job at hand. I can only do one thing at a time, and what needs doing will wait till I get to it.
Second, the old, very strong 'resistance' is gone. Not sure how that happened, but the formerly constant 'I'm not going to, and you can't make me' just isn't there anymore. I want to do the work. That sure does make it easier.
I don't want to jinx myself, but it sure does feel different these days.
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Post by rededen on Feb 19, 2014 1:58:02 GMT -5
Ah huh, I get "over it" quite often !! Often we find that right down the bottom of the pile isn't the pot of gold (or is that the rainbow? ) but just more stuff !! And that stuff isn't worth keeping.
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Post by polishrose on Feb 19, 2014 5:09:40 GMT -5
Ponygirl; it does/you do inspire me even though i am still deep in the throes of hoarding. I believe in you and in your process and as you are living proof that this works when you do the work - internal shifts happen, ease happens - how can this be anything but inspiring and joyful to witness? When one of us wins, we all win. Love to you - and deep gratitude and appreciation for all of you who have reached this place of freedom and lightness, yet stay on these boards, giving back through your examples and showing us how it's done through daily maintenance, self care, and the different thinking that allows for living one's dreams, both large and small. I love the bit I've made bigger-it makes such a difference to have someone rooting for you and happy when you manage to do something
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