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Post by dayeanu on Jan 25, 2015 10:43:58 GMT -5
Time to CELEBRATE, Warrior Kimmy!!!!!!!!
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Post by Irisheyes on Jan 25, 2015 13:34:05 GMT -5
Ha! A match! There are times I think a big bonfire in the backyard would solve most of this. Correction - I KNOW it would solve most of this. Soooooo? Why haven't I built the freaking fire already?!!! Oh. Yeah. I am attached to this stuff, and have 101 good reasons for not turning it to ash. Sigh. Gggrrrrr.
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Post by angela on Jan 25, 2015 14:31:52 GMT -5
I agree with Warrior Kimmy swampy. My paper is contained now though not necessarily dealt with, but when I first had to deal with it, I did put it all in paper grocery bags just to get it contained then could just take the top paper and look at it and do whatever needed doing.
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Post by desireelafleur on Jan 26, 2015 10:17:14 GMT -5
If you have a lot of medical bills/or credit card debt a lot of your paper may actually be from collection companies making multiple requests for 1 certain amount owed. Once when I had a huge pile a collection company had sent me 10 bills for the same amount! When I first looked at my pile each bill looked like it added more debt than it actually did...you can save one bill and chuck the rest!
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Post by Warrior Kimmy on Jan 27, 2015 2:26:59 GMT -5
The feeling of daring to enter the TRAUMA CORNER has just made me so much happier. I just was not ready before and all of the people responding have helped me get into it! It IS hard to make decisions as I look at each paper, but at least I am getting the easier stuff sorted. All this trauma over pieces of paper! At least I should be thankful it is not the debt collectors knocking on the door!
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Post by wynken on Jan 27, 2015 4:07:57 GMT -5
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Post by Warrior Kimmy on Jan 27, 2015 23:52:24 GMT -5
Yes wynken I have finally cracked through that fear and angst. Spending a few days away from home helped make me feel fresher, too. I am watching more neat freak style videos while away, so when I return tomorrow, I am ready to get into it again. The TRAUMA CORNER is shrinking!
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Post by cyn on Jan 28, 2015 7:51:53 GMT -5
Yay Kimmy! My trauma house is shrinking too, bit by bit. I'm trying out a new technique - Do *not* shove things where they don't belong. (I'm not ready to PEEP yet, since my storage areas are still in shambles) But even simple things like not adding the junk mail to my pile of mail on the kitchen table has reduced the giant mess into just a tiny envelope or 2 out of place. It's actually surprising to see how little *important* mail I actually get, compared to the ginormous amount of crap that comes out of my mail box. It'll be interesting to go through my all my old mail, and see how much junk is mixed in with it.
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Post by Warrior Kimmy on Jan 28, 2015 8:33:39 GMT -5
Yes cyn I found the time it takes to shove it where it doesn't belong could be quicker done by shoving it where it does!
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Post by cyn on Jan 28, 2015 8:38:52 GMT -5
I think it's hard to accept the fact that some of us are natural shovers. When I removed the small table in the kitchen (where everything ended up in a disgusting pile) I replaced it with a nice freestanding planter, that's deep enough to hold little things like junk mail, or recyclables. You'd never know what silly messes are lurking in there, rotfl! But I'm good about clearing it out all the time, so it's not a mountain of stuff there. And if I want it to look pretty, I just place my hat & scarf on top. Ta da!
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Post by Irisheyes on Jan 28, 2015 9:28:07 GMT -5
I'm really glad you're conquering the fear and angst, plus got to have a little vacay away from home, Kimmy! It really does help to get away for a bit and clear your mind, instead of staring your albatross in the face. ;-) Go, Kimmy!
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Post by Unswamping on Jan 28, 2015 10:42:29 GMT -5
Warrior Kimmy yay for starting to face the papers. You are so right about them just being scraps of papers. Im glad you have a bit of time away from home to get a new perspective.
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Post by birdmama on Jan 29, 2015 12:41:28 GMT -5
Such inspiration.I found my HOPE again, in the midst of my suffering here I find greatness and triumph of seemingly impossible odds. In the past few months I have helplessly watched my home decline into squalor while my grief immobilized living. Though I am not quite ready to face my worst, I am taking one step forward. I have realized the counsel I received several months back was very bad for me and I should have talked about it instead of taking the professionals advice as truth especially since I have a history of ignorant social workers and therapists, still I seem to believe there right and I'm wrong when its obvious no one else in the world would tell anyone that they really must not love there family as much as they think or they would keep the house clean no matter how they feel much less a supposed professional. My trauma corner are the boxes, every time a loved one dies there things get boxed physically and emotionally. If it was not for legal obligations I would throw it all out and be done with it since the space is needed for a new baby I will just have to deal with it. I am so so so glad that at soos I can find help, comradere and hope for my incoherent sleep deprived brain.
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Post by wit on Jan 29, 2015 15:12:32 GMT -5
Blech!
I just sorted through some photographs from just before and the beginning of my most depressed and failure-filled period (ie my entire early 20s)
It's amazing how happy I look, even in the ones where all my friends are graduating and I'm not, where my clothes are so inappropriate because I was almost too depressed to get out of bed. Wow, photographs can be deceiving!
I had planned to put the photos in an album but I guess I'm not ready to handle them to that extent, or to make decisions about which ones to keep. I feel kind of shell-shocked. I did roughly sort 75% of them by year and stick post-its on the stacks, but then they went back in the box.
I bought photo albums, one for this box and one for my other box, because I thought I was ready to get this done, now I think it might need to wait a bit longer. Luckily the boxes are only 8"x8"x14", they aren't taking up too much room.
I know you all will understand when I say I think I need to do something comforting right now, I'm not up for any more challenges.
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Post by lostchild on Jan 29, 2015 17:07:35 GMT -5
wit take it easy.
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