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Post by dtesposito on Nov 28, 2015 9:18:53 GMT -5
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Post by dtesposito on Nov 28, 2015 9:21:47 GMT -5
Good morning! I had a dog walk already today, at least it has stopped raining for the moment so we stayed dry. Today is my last full busy day, if all goes well tomorrow I'll be done with work by mid-afternoon and will have the evening off.  Scoop litter pans Make bed Eat breakfast Pigeon care Diane |
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Post by tnmimi on Nov 28, 2015 10:04:39 GMT -5
Mornin' Diane and thanks for starting this!
DH and I are doing some things to try and beat the rain. We're working to get some firewood up in the dry on the back porch. However, the temp is so warm right now.......61F that a fire inside would drive us back outside.
We are leaving in about 3 hours to take DGKs home and I may look for some Christmas lights to go on the back porch railing.
TADAs:
Started dw and DH made coffee Brought some plants BACK inside from taking them out for TDay Cleaned up where DH spilled a tub of soapy water on the back porch Pruned dead off plants I brought in Dressed but not brushed up----I'll need to take a bath before we leave Cked money and calendar Measured back porch and wrote it on my grocery list Unloaded dw Made the bed Took a bath Ate a nice lunch
and Now it's time to go BBL I hope to do more----at least I still have tomorrow!   
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Post by magda on Nov 28, 2015 10:11:10 GMT -5
I am catching up on my chores. This weekend I plan to
Put up Christmas tree
Finish financial paperwork
Do one load of whites
Do one load of colors
Vac lr bedrooms dr den hall entrance
Feather dust
Clear off dining room table. I was so happy to have this table cleared for several weeks And now it is creeping back. The other thread has inspired me
Make some library returns
Make one store return
Clean bathroom baseboard
Clean bathroom floor
Clean toilet
Clean tub
Make decisions and plan out holiday events and concerts
Go to grocery store
Make charitable contributions
Ok this should keep me busy. !!
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Post by dtesposito on Nov 28, 2015 10:18:33 GMT -5
Good morning mimi! Maybe the band of rain that has been here for a few days has finally left us and is now approaching you?
Good morning magda, I hope you get your Christmas tree up. I'm seeing quite a few trees going up this weekend, that's the advantage of after dark dog walks, I get to see all the lighted decorations.
I'm moving at the speed of tortoise today.
Next:
Put away breakfast things
PEEP back half of apartment
Get dog walk bag restocked and ready to go
Diane
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Post by sue5000 on Nov 28, 2015 11:04:38 GMT -5
Good morning, everyone  slept late cus my neighbors had a party last night and I couldn't get to sleep til late. Frosty and SUNNY here  The sun sure makes the cold temps more tolerable! After breakfast I'll start tidying my livingroom. And I really should take a walk today to drink in some of the nice sunshine. |
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Post by dtesposito on Nov 28, 2015 11:10:50 GMT -5
Good morning Sue, I hope you can take a long walk and absorb a lot of vitamin D!
I'm leaving soon for mid-day work--see you all later.
Diane
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Post by magda on Nov 28, 2015 11:39:45 GMT -5
Hi diane and all
So far I have vac'd bedrooms,den and hallway
Feather dusted all rooms including furniture, pictures, baseboard , crown molding, doors, lights, lamps and knock knacks
Did breakfast dishes
Have started load of whites
Now a break to play wii w dd:)
Good luck as we chip away at our goals!
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Post by magda on Nov 28, 2015 11:40:15 GMT -5
Deleted because I posted twice by mistake
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Post by TML on Nov 28, 2015 11:56:42 GMT -5
Afternoon dtesposito Diane, tnmimi, magda, and sue5000 Thanks for starting the thread Diane!!! I am trying to find balance in my life today. Balance and centered. ------------start of ranting and venting - more Mom drama llama----------------- Just as an aside and venting - Finally everything was settling down - My grieving over Kitty moving into a more quiet phase, my health finally getting better in terms of back/pneumoia, and the Mom crisis (multiple) finally over and her settled. The last I posted was I had great plans for Thanksgiving with friends and a full 5 days to work on getting my life centered and back on track. I made the mistake of telling Mom about the 5 days and that I would be over on Sunday to see her and get the new sewing machine set up (quality time). Anyone who has known Mom through these threads over the years knows she has a personality disorder where it all has to be about Mom 24/7/365. Mom also has a way to work Mom drama crisis into any place that she is not the center of attention (people coming over, some non-mom crisis, free time, etc). So the morning I was supposed to start my vacation Mom put her bed at the top level, did not call any staff, and hopped out of bed without her walker to walk across the room unassisted to her wheel chair with the obvious results of a fall at 4 am. The nursing home said it was totally out of character as she always calls for help and uses walker. It is another of those mysterious times when mom has a mom drama incident. Similar to when she fell "picking up a candy wrapper when she was alone out in the living room at 1:30 am" after she and I had argued over her blatant diva behavior that day (basically harassing me all day when I told her I needed some time to finish something for work and that she should work with our housekeeper that day for a couple of hours. Mom claimed she could not bother our housekeeper as the housekeeper was "working" and focused her energy all day to driving me nuts). Afterwards Mom realized she had pushed it too far and I was done and going to find her another place to live thus the "fall" so I could feel bad for her in ER all night (plus no sleep for me). Thus Mom falling while "cleaning" when Mom normally never picks up anything. I used to have to use a small shovel when I came home from trips to get all of Mom's tossed trash on the floor (Henry VIII must have been an inspiration) into a trash can. I am sure Mom figured she would once again be in the local hospital (which is two blocks away) with me spending my entire vacation/thanksgiving with her like I did the last two - three times she pulled this BS when I had company, there was a planned family reunion, kitty in crisis (she apologized about the drama when kitty was so sick she had planned it for another reason and did not know he was sick). I caught the first round of pneumonia taking care of her from a hospital incident which started the pneumonia/back issues. However, this time Mom managed to fracture her hip so she had to be taken to the big medical facility and have hip surgery. So I have spent the last two days up at the hospital sleeping in a chair in her room as the Dr said with her age and condition she was at 20 to 30% death risk post surgery if there were complications. Frankly I am very ticked off. Once again Mom had to make everything about her and once again she over shot it so that instead of her and I have a nice holiday and spending Sunday together we are again in drama land. I have to go up again on Sunday morning to see her (quite a drive). so now I am working on figuring out my life. Even before this last event going into the 5 days I had decided I was at an end with all the endless stuff with my health, Mom, grief, and needed to take a deep breath and try to find myself again. If Mom had not broken anything but had did (probably her original plan) just a jolt and bruises with a brief hospital stay, I would have at this point just said screw it and left her there - no visit this time. I would have not have trashed my plans like I usually due to feed into her diva center of attention. However, since it has spiraled out of that into potential life and death (and I do love her despite her issues) I am going to see her and being supportive (with no mention of the squirrely way it happened that nursing home told me). However, I need to start (or re-start) finding my place in life after all this BS. It has been a continual drama llama event one after the other interspaced with things actually happening to me that I have to deal with as well. The living area of the house looks reasonable though it needs organized. My bedroom and personal space look like a disaster that reflects my inner being and torment. So today I am going to start baby steps to resolving this and get my inner space and inner being back aligned and look for inner peace. As I am tired of the outside drama controlling my life as this last has been a wake up call that no matter what I do or how I try to help Mom (getting her in beautiful nursing home with lots of activities where she can get the physical help she needs, with me calling each night and visiting once a week when not sick) that Mom can manage to screw up a good situation just to try to make my life and all around her all about her. --------------------end of vent------------- I think I will start up a different reply to get started and just leave this venting behind and move forward. |
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Post by TML on Nov 28, 2015 12:35:11 GMT -5
Baby steps for today ----
I am going to get started with trash, laundry, and getting a turkey breast in the oven. I dropped off the pies with friends but missed thanksgiving. I had some turkey at hospital cafe but decided to pick up some turkey and etc today for a late thanksgiving with me and the kitties.
1. Trash
2. Laundry
3. Turkey cooking
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Post by tnmimi on Nov 28, 2015 13:42:05 GMT -5
AWWWWW so sorry TML! Sometimes, some folks!! Honestly!!!! Do they think this makes us love them more?  ? Bless your poor bruised up body and heart today! |
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Post by TML on Nov 28, 2015 13:57:39 GMT -5
Thanks tnmimi Part of what I am coming to grips with today and future is that I need to start living without Mom in my life. Not that I will not visit her and try to keep her spirits up and etc but I have over 9000 pounds of stuff in the basement plus other stuff spread through out the house that Mom brought with her from the old houses. Most of it is junk from yard sales, paper, and etc (she was a hoarder and I have boxes of old newspapers I am sure boxed up). I need to get my life the way I want to live it. It ticks me off so much but Mom by trying to pull a diva stunt has probably shortened her life by 5 to 6 years. The mortality rate for someone her age and health pulling through this long term is really low. It is 20 to 30 % mortality post surgery and healing (just surviving the surgery and getting the internal injury healed without complications) according to the Dr. A friend told me it is 80 to 90% mortality with in one to two years unless the elder person is lucky and motivated. So I doubt Mom will be living into her 90s since she has not been motivated yet even after minor set backs. If she makes it through the next year or even two it will be very lucky. I need to grow up. I have let her run my life for far too long especially when she was living with me. I just pushed my life aside and it shows. So I will be supportive of her and try to cheer her as she goes through this but I need to start baby stepping a separate life for me including getting my space set up the way I want it to be and functional and just keep tossing out/donating stuff that I don't need in my life. Else when she does pass it will be much harder to do that then when I am working through grief too. I lost myself along the way when Mom moved in with me. I need to start focusing on who am I, how do I want to live, and what do I want my future to be like? I know in a way but it has been a while and I need to re-evaluate and find my way back to myself. |
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Post by sue5000 on Nov 28, 2015 14:26:10 GMT -5
"I lost myself along the way when Mom moved in with me. I need to start focusing on who am I, how do I want to live, and what do I want my future to be like? I know in a way but it has been a while and I need to re-evaluate and find my way back to myself." Very good summation, TML. I wish you the best on your new journey.  |
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Post by TML on Nov 28, 2015 14:50:47 GMT -5
Thanks sue5000!!! trash -  Turkey - oven heating up Laundry - |
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