akatuesday
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Joined: December 2015
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Post by akatuesday on Feb 6, 2017 12:58:11 GMT -5
Last year I came to this board to try and start fixing my squalor home situation and I became overwhelmed with balancing work issues & personal issues and I didn't end up making many changes. In short my apartment is still a mess and it only serves to make my anxiety and depression worse and I'm so tired of letting it control me. So I'm starting again. There's a lot going on in life right now- my grandma was diagnosed with breast cancer and boyfriend (who lives with me) lost his job. But things aren't just going to stop and wait for me so I have to just push forward. Today I set a goal to open my pantry door and purge clothes for 30 minutes when I get home to just start somewhere. That mountain of clothes is like my dirty secret and I hate it. I think if I can make progress on it it will help with motivation. So I am aiming to go through with a trash bag and purge for 30 minutes: 1. All the old work pants that no longer fit. 2. Bras that no longer fit. 3. Shirts that are obviously too small (i.e. I wore it in high school) 4. Jeans that no longer fit. 5. Any of bf's old factory resin-burnes shirts that are too far gone.
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Post by wind on Feb 6, 2017 13:08:46 GMT -5
Good luck, and happy purging! You can do it!
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Post by Arid on Feb 6, 2017 15:11:21 GMT -5
Welcome back, akatuesday!!
Your plan sounds great!
If 30 minutes proves to be too long a time at first, go for 10, 15, or 20 instead--whatever works for you.
I'm glad you're here.
Arid
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Post by def6 on Feb 6, 2017 17:28:10 GMT -5
Hello akatuesday and Welcome Back The work you get done in the house will only provide you comfort in these not so comfortable times that you are going through. Praying that your Grandmother has a complete recovery.
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Post by joyinvirginia on Feb 7, 2017 14:40:37 GMT -5
Welcome back! Sounds like a good plan. Start small and keep working on the pile a little at a time, you will sees progress!
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Post by ohblondie on Feb 7, 2017 16:48:22 GMT -5
Welcome home!!!!!
You picked a great first project. I can't wait to hear how successful you are!
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Post by creativechaos on Feb 9, 2017 0:58:33 GMT -5
welcome back! prayers for your grandmom. hoping dbf can get another even better job; meanwhile, is he the helpful type and can you put him to work on odd jobs around the apt? hoping that the closet/clothes sorting is going well - it feels so much better to get clothes that no longer fit out of your closet to make room for those things that help you look and feel good. wishing you great success!
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Post by quietbird on Feb 12, 2017 21:52:45 GMT -5
Dear Tuesday! I just read all of your old thread. I am rooting for you, and see myself reflected in you. It's so nice to read the words of another person in their twenties - I'm 25. I love the wisdom of elders here, but also love finding people in the same life stage as me to relate to. A few people here have told me how lucky I am to be aware of squalor and on my stepping out of it journey now, as opposed to decades from now - hearing this has been heartening. We are lucky. We get to figure things out and establish habits now, so things in the future can be routine/easier. My fiance and I live together and both struggle with depression and anxiety. Living in a clean and tidy space is a goal we both share, but I'm a little more actively motivated right now than he is. Still - the more I do, the more he does. Motivation follows action for those around us, too. If you haven't yet purged some of your belongings, make that a priority. I am not yet through this process, but I can tell you it is SO worth it and SO helpful. Trust that you will find what you need in the future, and don't hang on to things you don't really like or need now. Give yourself room to move and LIVE in your space. Let the light in. Keep what you love, and is worth the energy of maintaining. Do the chores, but don't let yourself get weighed down by the stuff you're caring for. Have you read some of the pages on the main Squalor Survivors site? If not, I really recommend it! I particularly recommend reading the pages in the sections "Yourself" and "Your House". Maybe your boyfriend would be interested in reading them too? I intend to have my fiance read them ASAP www.squalorsurvivors.com/overcoming/yourself/index.shtmlOn the side there are things to read on... Self-worth Depression Perfectionism Demand-resistance Guilt Worry Indecision Goals Self-care Remember that things can and do change, and they CAN change for the better. I really really hope you keep posting here and keep us updated on your life. I would love to be tidying/de-squaloring buddies.
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