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Post by Nael_C on Oct 31, 2017 1:01:25 GMT -5
Don't beat yourself up please. You are doing your best, say that to yourself, you need to be your own supportive friend. Sometimes we forget that it is us that we need to treat the best, we treat all the others well and we stop thinking how we speak to ourselves. We talk badly of us. So, when you describe yourself try not to use negative things to say. Soothe yourself. You have tree kids to take care of and that is a full time task. You work hard and do the best you can. Of course there is always room for improvement and I wish you to find it here, where all members will support you along the way. If the diapers is the problem, then they need to be out of the house with the junk, as a priority. And the same with all the garbage, then you can assess your areas and prioritize which ones to work first, etc.
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Post by hedy on Oct 31, 2017 10:40:37 GMT -5
but it's more than just clutter on surfaces. If that makes sense. No rotting foods in the kitchen, no diapers anywhere besides the bathroom. Old grime? I am sure we are all familiar with it. I find that it really helps to have baskets for paper/waste (lined with thin bin bags) PLUS a basket - or any clean container (preferably a piece that you already have, no need to buy one) - with a cloth or two and some cleaning product IN EVERY ROOM. (I also like having a pair of household gloves in every room.) That way, you can clean a little whenever you wander into any given room. And because the waste baskets are lined, you can simply take out the bin bag and dispose it. The key is to have this in every room of the house. It really helps. That way, you can clean a little whenever you wander into any given room. And because the waste baskets are lined, you can simply take out the bin bag and dispose it when full. Also, based on my experience, I would discourage anyone from forgoing the baskets and just putting bin bags in there. They are squalor magnets! They look very depressing, and eventually one can forget why they were put there in the first place. Use some dedicated - preferably pretty - container. You can do it - you WILL do it - step by little step. Good luck.
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Post by lostchild on Oct 31, 2017 11:28:38 GMT -5
It will get better I promise. You got hit by circumstances with not only a new baby but a baby who has specialized needs. I was in maintenance...that where your house has no squalor...I fell out when we got custody of my grandson's baby brother who was born addicted to drugs and in withdrawal where he required 10 diaper changes alone just for poops because he was getting the drugs out of his system. I also was taking a class and working along with a three year old at the time, my twelve year old and an autistic 24 year old. We are just getting back on track and the baby is going on a year in December. Don't count yourself out. Getting back on track takes time and patience especially with a baby coming out of NICU who requires you to hold him and work. Take your time and focus on just things someone might see like the bathroom and cut yourself some slack. lostchild.
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Post by lostchild on Oct 31, 2017 11:29:26 GMT -5
Oh and welcome...you're in the right place!!!
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Post by joyinvirginia on Oct 31, 2017 12:04:03 GMT -5
Some wise poster here, who I cannot recall and hopefully they will post, once said that trying to clean when you have small children is like shoveling snow while the snowstorm is still going on! So don't feel bad! My daughter had a backpack for Cutest Grandbaby Ever and also something worn on the front like a baby bjorn.
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