rexd
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Post by rexd on Nov 14, 2017 22:37:12 GMT -5
Things are not entirely roses. Though the maint. men have been kind, other co-workers have been pretty cruel and mocking. My boss isn't happy but no one could expect him to be. We did sit down last night and work out a plan for going forward. I'm trying not to allow my coworkers to dampen my determination. But honestly there's nothing anyone can do to me that I haven't already done to myself. I've kicked myself, hated myself, judged myself, isolated myself, been very cruel to myself. My self-talk is way worse than their talk about me. I don't deserve it. I can't control what they say to me or about me, but I can change how I treat myself.
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Post by roarshark on Nov 15, 2017 3:08:48 GMT -5
Rex, you did a giant amount of work in a very short amount of time. Other people will be unhappy with you but as someone who has been through something very similar I want you to know that you should be proud of yourself. Not just for the marathon you did, but for the positive change you have made in your own life. It's onwards and upwards from where you are right now. And I bet you can do it too  |
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snowfaire
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Post by snowfaire on Nov 15, 2017 11:05:21 GMT -5
I can sort of relate to the job being linked to housing thing...it's very difficult to move here in Japan, my supervisor and school needs to be involved in everything both because I don't speak Japanese and because it's Japanese work culture to get involved in the affairs of one's subordinates, and I sort of wonder if I'll lose my job if I'm evicted. On the other hand, my previous supervisor saw my apartment in squalor rank 2 (when my gas was shut off due to the bills suddenly going from automatic withdraw to manual pay without me knowing) and just told me to clean, no official reprimand, so maybe it would be OK.
Do you know for a fact that your coworkers hate you, or is there even a small possibility you're being paranoid? I strongly suspect some of mine hate me and those that don't hate me still don't respect me because I work far fewer hours than they do, but my Japanese coworkers do have good poker faces and I'm terrible at reading people so in my case it could be paranoia.
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Post by def6 on Nov 15, 2017 14:32:28 GMT -5
Hello rexd I'm sorry the coworkers have been mean and not understanding of your illness ...some people are not very helpful. Those usually run in packs , be careful dealing with them. On a more positive not You have done awesome!  |
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Post by Minerva on Nov 15, 2017 16:25:32 GMT -5
rexd, in the past few days, you have acknowledged your problem, done something about it, faced your fears and been honest with people about what has happened. What you have done was difficult and brave and done under a degree of scrutiny that would bring anyone out in a cold sweat. Don't let your co-workers ruin this for you. Hopefully you're just the gossip-of-the-day. Next week it will all be about wots-her-name who is having an affair with the butcher down the street. Workplaces can be horrible catty environments, but I find that the person who is out of favour seems to change as often as the wind. Keep your head up. You're doing great.
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Post by Nael_C on Nov 15, 2017 21:24:01 GMT -5
Well done on doing all these things and making yourself responsible for your progress, the place that you live in and the thoughts that
you own! You are already making great, big steps, and the work is going to be obvious day by day! Remember to reward yourself as you are
going through the work, you are winning, and winners get prizes! Even a cup of tea when you finish a tad of work. It doesn't matter how
small each step seems, it is a step nevertheless!
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Post by joyinvirginia on Nov 17, 2017 21:47:35 GMT -5
Ted, keep checking in. We can help encourage you to keep your new living space organized and maintained.
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Post by sue5000 on Nov 18, 2017 9:46:26 GMT -5
Who's Ted? 😕 rexd how's it going in your new place? I hope you're making good progress unpacking and organizing. 👍 |
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Post by joyinvirginia on Nov 20, 2017 9:14:14 GMT -5
Who's Ted? 😕 rexd how's it going in your new place? I hope you're making good progress unpacking and organizing. 👍 Doggone auto correct! My phone turned rexd into Ted, who knows why? |
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rexd
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Post by rexd on Nov 22, 2017 10:24:01 GMT -5
Things are going alright. I have a cleaning routine, daily and weekly.
Daily are the things that I absolutely can never get away with not doing.
1. Scooping litter
2. Sweeping around the litter area.
3. Taking litter to the garbage (along with whatever garbage I've accumulated, because a daily trip downstairs to the garbage cans with a small bag is way way easier than a weekly trip to the big dumpster with a large bag)
4. Wiping down any surface that needs it with a clorox wipe.
5. making the bed (which keeps the sheets fresher since the cat can't lounge on the sheets)
On Wednesday morning I
1. Vacuum
2. Change the sheets
3. Wash the litter mats
4. Do the wood surfaces.
On Thursday I
1. Clean the bathroom! (tub, toilet, sink and floor)
Laundry is something I can do at work so I keep a laundry bag clipped to one of those clippy coathangers and put dirty clothes into it. When it gets full I put it into my tote bag and take it to work with me.
None of the tasks I've set for myself take a long time so I'm less inclined to procrastinate. Wednesday is probably the hardest day but this morning all that took less than an hour.
I'm sitting here looking around at my reasonably clean room and it feels good, really good.
Thanks all!
Love, Ted.
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rexd
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Post by rexd on Nov 22, 2017 10:29:53 GMT -5
Oh and today I'm going to splurge on a hand vac to make the litter area easier. And maybe a fancy new mop.
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Post by joyinvirginia on Nov 22, 2017 12:24:46 GMT -5
Glad your schedule is working well, ted  ! I mean rexd! |
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Post by phoebepj on Nov 22, 2017 16:53:52 GMT -5
Instead of making wednesday a big day, why cant you spread those chores over multiple days or take one a day? just suggesting. GOOD job on getting the trash and litter out!!!
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Post by sue5000 on Nov 22, 2017 19:39:17 GMT -5
YAY T-rex!! 🏆 ( rexd ) For devising a schedule for maintaining your neat clean home! 😀👍 How old is your kitty? 😺 Did she/he adjust quickly to the new surroundings? |
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Post by creativechaos on Nov 22, 2017 20:40:23 GMT -5
what a fantastic way to take charge of your situation, rexd (i kind of like T-rex!) it's so great to read that it feels good keeping your room clean and that you are enjoying the space. WTG!!! and you earned that hand vac - so glad it will make the litter area job easier. and what a good idea - need to get one myself! |
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