baikinkun
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Joined: March 2009
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Post by baikinkun on Mar 24, 2009 12:26:36 GMT -5
I was never a tidy child. My mother is a hoarder and I always attributed my lack of organizing a home and keeping it neat to my mother never having imparted any of those skills to me. I was always good at sniffing out bargains and shopping was a natural high for me. Unfortunately, the sorting out what to keep or throw sequence never took off and I also had a tendency to keep 'just in cases' for myself, my family and people I had not met yet but was sure I would. Most times, if something was too good to be thrown out -- it didn't. And now I am out of space.
Things got worse when my husband had to relocate for work and I stayed behind to have our baby...only to find out he had strayed while I was doing my best to cope with solo parenting so that he could keep his job. Don't think I even realised I was depressed -- there just wasn't time factored in for that. My DS needed to be fed every few hours, the house needed to be kept running and I had 7 cats to pick up after when I wasn't doing laundry or trying to read another self-help book so I could pretend to cope. Some days, I had dinner at 11pm.
My DS is 3-half now, I'm down to 6 cats and my apartment is over run with books, magazines, knick-knacks, toys...and I am sad that my little chap is starting his childhood so similar to how I had mine. Even his little table is taken up. I told myself I wanted a better life for myself, my DS and the mess has to stop. The husband is not back to DH status yet but working on it. A big challenge is that he's also a messie*sigh*
I was getting desperate with my futile efforts to clean up my apartment. Being tired all the time not just from trying to clear something, anything but looking around was so draining. Been reading whatever I thought could help, clicking onto websites that offered organising services...only to discover their idea of a mess was not even close to what I needed help with!
Then yesterday, through a caffeine induced daze(forgot I needed to sleep and helped myself to 3 cups of really great coffee) -- I clicked on SS...The posts were amazing. Suddenly, I knew I wasn't alone anymore. The warm welcome I received in chat tells me if I fall, there is not one but many in SS who will come to my aid to pick me up so I can try again and again until I succeed.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!
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Post by Ican on Mar 24, 2009 14:33:17 GMT -5
Hello & Welcome!  Glad you are here!  |
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Post by valor on Mar 24, 2009 14:33:40 GMT -5
Welcome Baikinkun I think this is a very strong, supportive group. It has helped me immensely. Glad to "meet you", hope you find it helpful too. |
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Post by lulu1949 on Mar 24, 2009 16:44:20 GMT -5
Welcome ! Isn't it great to know you are not the only one with clutter/squalor problems? You will find caring and non-judgmental people here who can relate to your situation. Keep in touch, you will find the support you need here !
hugs !
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Post by skatters on Mar 24, 2009 16:52:28 GMT -5
Welcome! You are among friends here... And some of us will help you up if you fall. Others of us will heave you up then kick your butt around a bit... You just have to let us know what kind of help you need!  |
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Post by mallery on Mar 24, 2009 17:10:46 GMT -5
Welcome!
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Post by gettingsomewhere on Mar 24, 2009 18:11:27 GMT -5
Welcome Baik. Isn't it such a fantastic feeling when you find this place. I',ve been hanging around fr 4 weeks now and although it doesn't look an awful lot different at my home yet, big changes are a coming. The strength i have found from the wonderful people here is amazing.
Skatters, you must be getting to know me. I am definitely one of those who needs a bit of a butt kick. well, actually a huge butt kick. luckily i have already found a couple of friends in chat who realise this about me. Hehe.
Stick aound Baikinkun, we can get through this together.
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Post by messymimi on Mar 24, 2009 19:05:23 GMT -5
Welcome, Baikinkun !
It's great to have you here.
messymimi
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Post by eatingbonbons on Mar 24, 2009 19:25:11 GMT -5
Welcome, Baikinkun!
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Post by notsomessyshell on Mar 24, 2009 23:31:05 GMT -5
Welcome! I remember the night I first found Squalor Survivors. I cried. I know the "not alone" feeling well. The people here are fantastic. Looking forward to cheering your success, helping you up when you fall, and even kicking your butt a bit (if necessary).
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Post by marigold on Mar 25, 2009 6:46:35 GMT -5
Welcome baikinkun!
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Post by AnnieOkie on Mar 25, 2009 8:47:55 GMT -5
Hee Hee...here's a butt-kick smiley I found.....  Gotta love that one! |
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Post by AnnieOkie on Mar 25, 2009 8:49:03 GMT -5
Sorry, didn't mean to hijack your thread Baikinkun! Welcome to the board. We are glad you are here with us!  |
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Post by breakingfree on Mar 25, 2009 8:50:40 GMT -5
Hee Hee...here's a butt-kick smiley I found..... Gotta love that one! Annie, love the smiley!! Welcome baikinkun! You have taken the first step. Listen to these folks, they know how to get a person motivated! BF |
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Post by Meme on Mar 25, 2009 21:32:03 GMT -5
welcome- I know we will help you get on track- you have had a tough break in your past but you can move forward- it just takes a first step to start and then you have begun- beginning means there will be an ending-
Meme hugs
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