Private messages are being read here I am leaving

it was not done by internal means....which means that SOMEONE was SN OOPIN My PM.......btt

I will probably be banned by the admins since I sent a pm to the mod team when I left that was very mean nasty and useless....someone is in denial about their actions....I know not who it is by not knowing I can only assume and that makes an as* out of u & me.....

btt

[disorganizeddragon]

This is just a wild guess on my part, but BTT's phone number was deleted from an earlier thread in By-ways due to internet safety concerns. Is there any chance the system now reads this particular sequence of numbers (i.e. his phone number) as verboten, the way it does the l-word?

Our software system at work is very picky in that way; once any site, action, symbol, etc., is disallowed, you have to do everything but a computer voodoo dance for the system allow its use once again.

It's just a thought. . .

[60isolderthanithot]

This is a very serious issue. I hope we get some clarification quickly.

[lettinggo]

Wow. Did you actually send a message to the Moderator team ASKING them if they had done this, and if so, why?

lettinggo NO I did not...I sent a hateful mail to the mod team for having done this and then I deleted my account from here. It is pretty clear that the mod team is not supporting that someone of them did anything which is rude....

as for the system deleting the number nope did not happen that way it took a person to put those words into that email that the telephone number deleted....I just feel so violated that there is a snoopy mod who reads personal emails and then without telling me deletes something from my PM and never fesses up to having done anything wrong.....if it had not been for Brightbeginnings telling me that the telephone number was deleted I would not have ever known that someone had hacked into my PM and removed the telephone number....very similarly to the way that Eagle removed it from ByWays posting....and she made mention there of spamming in PM as well.....zipididoda when does my account get deleted again for criticizm of the mods?

btt

[paperpiler]

I think that disorganizeddragon may be on to something.

not true paperpiler....not true.....the block at that time was done by Eagle and she put the same words as what were in the PM that BB got exactly like she put it...she did not set a president on this site to delete my telephone number and put those same words on it every time I sent it out....nope not true...it was a human who did this and they are not fessing up to it. so rude!

[CourageouslyLion SeeksSerenity]

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BTT, proboards is set up so that
mods/admin are UNABLE to access member PMs.

It simply cannot be done.

I'm not a mod here, but I have read the proboards support forums and know how it works.

Proboards owns THREE MILLION FORUMS ... on every topic under the sun. No mod/admin on any forum can access member PMs.

I agree that disorganizeddragon may be on to something.

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[JessicaMessica]

...i've been an admin on a proboards message board before. There is NO WAY to have access to someones private messages...that's why they're called PRIVATE.

[yearning4order]

Wanted to echo that on a 12 step related forum I had encountered difficulties with a member sending me abusive PMs, and invited the mods and even the admin to simply read all of the communications between us to confirm that I had not instigated nor was I provoking this particular sick person. The mods and admin let me know that none of them had the capability to review PMs, and that only the webmaster could do that.

One thing my AA sponsor likes to remind me when I go to AA meetings and happen to encounter something snarky or "off" she'll say

sponsor "Oh and where did you meet this person?"
me "In an AA meeting"
sponsor "And is AA a club for happy well adjusted people?"
me "Um, well no...."

I hate it when she does that! LOL

[sporadic]

I am admin of a fan forum that utilizes ProBoards. It is NOT set up for the admin or Mods to be able to access PM's. It cannot be done. Please do not accuse the admin or mods here.

[MiSC]

This is the kind of thing that infuriates me. I'll be waiting for the explanation.

[lilith]

BTT I just wanted to express my support for you. In my opinion you have been treated extremely unfairly here before and I can Easily see why you would jump to conclusions, fair or not. I would also like to express my sincere appreciation for our mods. I understand little of computers, but trust they are innocent. Their job is the definition of thankless.

I feel I must say that I believe a lot of the problems you have had have been due to your gender. Too many of us here have been abused (sexually and otherwise) by the men in our real lives. To a woman with hammer, every man is a nail. As you well know, my own participation in the board and particularly chat has been greatly curtailed by just such a dust-up in the past. For the most part, it just takes more energy than I can muster to have to worry about what I say and how I say it in chat. I read every day but I just have too much paranoia and worries about "doing it right" to post much. It was a great help to me and I miss the support tremendously. If you are able to once again put this past you I encourage you to do so. Ours is a desperate situation and we need ALL the help we can get. My best to you brother.

By the way, feel free to PM anything, anytime. I'm pulling for you.

Love,
Lilith

[Rory]

I think it is a little hard on the mod team to ask them to explain why they did something which apparently they can't have done.

Speaking only for myself I trust and am grateful to the mod team for doing their work.

Obviously it would be helpful if we can establish what did in fact happen if that is in fact possible.

[sporadic]

www.proboards.com/

You can look up all of the technical information here to verify that breaking into PM's cannot be done by the mods or admin.