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Post by lostagain on Jan 30, 2010 2:06:35 GMT -5
Well... I have gone and done it. IT being asked for help from two friends to try to dig out from under this stuff. My living room and kitchen and bathroom are pretty under control, but I have a two bedroom place...my bedroom and second bedroom are in a sad state. I have not been able to deal with them at all. Some of you may know I'm a widow, the second bedroom was my sweetie's "man cave". I have not done much in there at all. I just have felt so scared and sad and overwhelmed - well all of you know what I mean. So tomorrow I am going to get done as much as I can, at least getting rid of as much as I can bear, the obvious trash (broken chair, old computer monitor, etc.) and then go from there. Big thing is going to be books. I am going to take a bunch to the used bookstore to sell. Won't get that much but they will be out of the house! I'm excited, scared, sad, worried... but I'll report in later
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Post by Butterfly on Jan 30, 2010 2:26:44 GMT -5
WTG asking for help! And, how great to have friends who are willing to help! Wishing you a very productive day.
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Post by bigtimetroubles on Jan 30, 2010 8:43:04 GMT -5
good for you getting to letting go....hugs btt
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Post by momof3boys on Jan 30, 2010 9:01:50 GMT -5
Wishing you the best of luck. Give us an update when you can.
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Post by zinnia on Jan 30, 2010 9:02:49 GMT -5
I'm glad you have some help. Good luck!
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Post by missjean on Jan 30, 2010 9:26:54 GMT -5
I'm happy that you have friends to give you support. Let us know how it goes.
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Post by CourageouslyLion SeeksSerenity on Jan 30, 2010 12:11:24 GMT -5
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Post by threeg on Jan 30, 2010 12:40:04 GMT -5
WTG on asking for help! Wishing you the best as you start the "big dig." I am a widow also, and clearing out my sweetie's man cave/fishing room was emotionally hard on me. Hugs, 3g
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Post by Rory on Jan 30, 2010 13:08:29 GMT -5
I remember when my mum dealt with my father's possesions. She had family support but it was one of the most difficult things she had to do and after over fifty years. Holding you in my prayers.
Rory
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Post by lostagain on Jan 30, 2010 16:03:33 GMT -5
Thanks so much to everyone. 3g I am so proud of you. I know how hard it is to let go. It doesn't help that not only do I invest more emotion into objects than is "normal" - so did my sweetie. He had a bit of hoarding action going on too. SO that emotion is sortof doubled up now! Anyway, my friends will be here in about 1/2 hour. I have been trying to get some trash out before they get here, and go through some books. I am chipping away at least. Hope to have lots more to report later! I will work until THEY say stop ya know? Don't want to "force" them into doing more than they want. Hopefully they will help at least 2 hours! THanks again for all the good wishes. They mean so much!!
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Post by success19 on Jan 31, 2010 0:09:51 GMT -5
Good to have supportive friends to help you organize and think it through. Let us know how it goes.
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Post by lostagain on Jan 31, 2010 0:46:25 GMT -5
Well... it's not DONE but it is a lot better. Lots of tears. Got rid of .... well I didn't count, lets say 300 books. A broken chair, probably 50 magazines/catalogs. Three big bags of trash and various other stuff. There is still a lot to go but at least I have gotten a good start. Found lots of tear inducing stuff - which I kept (cards, notes and the like) and some things I KNOW are useless (loads of floppy discs for instance) that I just couldn't bear to part with. BUT at least I have gotten started. Thanks so much for all the support. xo
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Post by Butterfly on Jan 31, 2010 4:57:59 GMT -5
Great job! I'm glad you had such a productive session.
How did you get rid of the 300 books? What I mean is, how did you deal with the weight of them? I also have hundreds to get rid of but I honestly don't know how. If I put them into boxes, the boxes will be too heavy. Same with trash bags, unless I only do 20 or so in a bag. I just don't know how to mechanically deal with them.
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Post by lostagain on Jan 31, 2010 10:59:40 GMT -5
One of my friends that came over got a dolly! That is the only way I could deal with the weight of them, otherwise it would have been a billion grocery bags, with just a few in them. So I had, through time, boxed up these books - let me tell you it was getting out of hand, boxes and boxes everywhere! And of course the temptation to go back through them. So I would fill a box, then tape it up with packing tape. That helped with the urge to remove things. My friend was able to borrow a dolly from where she worked for the weekend - maybe this is an option for you. No idea how much a dolly would actually cost to buy, and it seems like one of those things where it would be handy to have up to a point, then it would just take up space. Another option is to ask a thrift store to come pick up from your house - I googled and found a local place that will do a pick up. They come with a dolly, cart, etc. to help them with the moving part.
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Post by Butterfly on Jan 31, 2010 12:39:38 GMT -5
Thanks for answering my question! I don't think a dolly will solve my problem since it's just me and the boxes would need to be picked up and then I'd have to maneuver the dolly down stairs. But, maybe there's just not a real good answer for my situation and I just need to make the best of it. Anyway, I'm really glad you got your books out and grateful that you took the time to answer me.
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