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Post by suchamess on May 21, 2008 17:00:40 GMT -5
I'm a mom to three kids and 2 furbabies. I am a stay at home mom for the time being. I am also married to a wonderful man. The only problem we have is that we are both 'comfortable' in our mess. We've been together for 12 years and it has never bothered him to have mess in the house. There are times it gets to both of us, but for the most part, I guess we overlook it. Not a good thing really, but I'm just glad he and I are harmonious in our mess  . If that makes any sense. We are both trying to get the place pulled together. We married young and just never really let clutter bother us. I pretty much transitioned from a squalorous bedroom at home, to a squalorous home after the honeymoon. I was never made to clean my room at home. The rest of the house was impeccable at ALL times. My mother was very anal about keeping things just so. However, I had no responsibility at all with chores. Her mother pretty much abused her and her sibling into doing the housework at an early age, and she vowed to never make her kids lift a finger. That was a noble idea, but I do believe it is what landed me here today. Well, that and the fact that my Grandmother was a clothes hoarder and lived in squalor once her kids left home. So, along with all of you, I'm taking steps to make my home a clean and safe place to live. This isn't something you can talk about with those close to you, so it's wonderful to have understanding friends online who are in the same boat as you. I hope you all enjoy the website and get the encouragement you need to make your home a happy home  |
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Post by creativechaos on May 23, 2008 23:34:53 GMT -5
hi suchamess, thanks for helping with the admin! it's so nice to come over here and see the names of people I know from some of the forums!
I can so relate to the part you said about your mom never having you kids lift a finger. the same happened in my family; our moms' ideas were noble, but having kids learn chores is valuable for their growth and maturity ( and later, maintenance of their homes).
Now here you are with kids and furbabies of your own. i'm so glad to hear your DH is mellow about your stuff, and on the same page with you. I know that may (or may not) become problematic when you declutter, but most of my boyfriends left me partly because I am a hoarder, and they just didn't want to live with the stuff or the mess. I'd rather start with someone who knows and understands where i'm coming from!
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Post by suchamess on May 28, 2008 16:38:00 GMT -5
It is nice to see familiar faces |
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