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Post by nmf on Jun 19, 2010 9:18:48 GMT -5
Hi, I'm No_More_Fear. I used to post a lot but then I wasn't around for a while. I'm back and have been doing a lot of Chat Challenges. I'm happy to report that we had a plumbing emergency and we had the plumber in on very short notice this week and I didn't die from embarrassment. This is HUGE for me. In my old place, (when I lived alone) my plumbing and financial squalor meant gas bill wasn't paid (no hot water) and broken sink, leaking tub, level 3 laundry in tub. I'm starting this thread, a gratitude thread, if you will, a place to list what IS going right, the good stuff that has happened while getting out of squalor. Post away!
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Post by nmf on Jun 19, 2010 9:32:10 GMT -5
I'll start.
This place (old board and new board) has been around while I paid off 15K in stupid debt. I don't have that hanging around my head anymore. I'm grateful that getting out of squalor has meant for me that I am more responsible (I have more files, instead of piles, now. I still have piles, but the important stuff is getting paid and it didn't used to.
The good stuff for me means no more rotting food, trash goes in the trash can, kitties have mostly clean places/catboxes to do their business. I'm grateful for my routines and the support I get from this place.
At one of the meetings I go to, someone said "enough about the struggle and how hard it is. Let's hear about (pardon my french) the good sh!t that's happened to you in recovery".
I was starting to get in a funk and I realized that I am not thinking enough about the good stuff.
Getting out of squalor and taking care of my space and myself and getting rid of surplus emotional and actual STUFF has meant I know where my meds are and I take them. I go to my doctor's appointments. I can use my kitchen to make food again.
Getting out of squalor means I could invite a friend or two over and actually have them in the house, instead of making them honk the horn.
I'm grateful.
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Post by messymimi on Jun 19, 2010 14:06:30 GMT -5
Thank you, NMF. Right now, the depression threatens, and I'm having a difficult time coming up with things to be grateful over. Reading about good happening to others helps.
messymimi
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Post by Peach on Jun 19, 2010 17:22:18 GMT -5
Thank you, NMF. Right now, the depression threatens, and I'm having a difficult time coming up with things to be grateful over. Reading about good happening to others helps.
messymimi Nice thread NoMoreFear Mimi & nmf -- We have an ongoing Gratitude List in Byways that runs on a monthly basis. Here's the list so far for June: takeonestepatatime.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=other&action=display&thread=10578 Whenever you want to read "about good happening to others", there's something good posted on The Gratitude List every day.
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Post by Chris on Jun 19, 2010 17:51:46 GMT -5
Hi No_More_Fear I too am working to pay off a lot of outstanding debt. -- at the same time as "digging" out of clutter, disorganization and WAY too much stuff. The two things go together I think as do financial freedom and clean organized spaces. So I'm glad to be trading rubble and debt for freedom and space! One specific good thing that's happening right now is that I'm using my sewing skills PLUS the "saved" material and sheets to make curtains and yesterday I even finished converting an old dress into a pretty skirt. My promise to myself has been that if I'm not going to use things -- I will either sell, donate, throw away or give away, +/or use up excess *stuff* including the stuffed full box of material that I hadn't been using but always thought I would. I'm now feeling better about those items that I was able to transform. And I can easier let go of the things I'm not wanting to work on. I've also sold a lot of stuff on Craigslist which has helped our financial situation and the excess stuff. We tended to never get rid of things once we'd already replaced them or we no longer were using them. So you're right there are some good things that come from this work!
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Post by hopehope on Jun 19, 2010 21:55:44 GMT -5
hey!! hi.
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Post by CourageouslyLion SeeksSerenity on Jun 20, 2010 8:40:11 GMT -5
- Fearless One! Thanks for sharing all the miracles you've achieved, and reminding those of us who still struggle that we CAN be "restored to sanity"! Chris! Love that you're trading debt and rubble for finanical freedom and clear organized space! Freedom and Space ... goals to aspire to! -
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Post by MiSC on Jun 20, 2010 9:39:34 GMT -5
If you saw our episode, you saw Alex come to me at the end hugging me and saying, "Thank you for cleaning." That was totally unprompted, and it's the type of response I get from my guys when I clean up. They aren't shy about showing their gratitude and making sure I know that my efforts are appreciated.
That's definitely a good thing.
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Post by annieblue on Jun 21, 2010 8:40:56 GMT -5
Fantastic thread, NMF! My favorite good stuff as of late is I am COOKING again! Not every day, which is something I don't plan to ever again do, woo, but regular enough that I don't feel completely overwhelmed at the thought of cooking real meals! Congrats to all on your good stuff!!!
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Post by nmf on Jun 22, 2010 12:01:51 GMT -5
The good stuff today included getting a letter written I have been procrastinating on for ages! But its DONE! -NMF
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Post by Louie on Jun 22, 2010 14:01:10 GMT -5
Lots of good things have happened since I joined this site not so long ago. Chat has helped me more than I can express. I wrote this post on my blog a few days ago and it was suggested I share it here. ------------------------------- Well I am sitting here tonight feeling very grateful and a little emotional. It's 5.45 and a baked dinner is in the oven cooking. My kitchen is fully desqualored, as is my pantry, bathroom, toilet, hallway, bedroom and spare room. But best of all is the change in atmosphere in our home is palpable. DS & DD are in their rooms doing there own thing, both commented on the kitchen and have dutifully cleaned up after themselves. DH is dozing in front of telly, he didn't go out to play sport today, stayed home to work on cleaning the shed, then he vacuamed for me and we had a big discussion on the what we to work on next. It is starting to feel like old times between us, and I have noticed he is home more over the last two weeks. He can see the changes in me, and I can see he is happier, more relaxed. For a long time now he was coming home to the same squalor day after day and a wife lying on the lounge, still in her pyjamas, miserable and too depressed for any conversation. Overwhelmed. We are starting to get OUR lives back again after too many years of just treading water, and it's nice! I have hope back since I came here. I can do this with your help gosh that baked dinner smells good!! --------------------------
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Post by nmf on Jun 22, 2010 14:30:26 GMT -5
Great post Louie! Way to go! You've gotten so much done. It's amazing how relationships change when things are cleaner. Great working with you in chat, too. Today Louie's post has helped me work on all those Automatic Negative Thoughts I find myself having lately. Thanks!
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Post by nmf on Jun 27, 2010 12:16:49 GMT -5
Today I am grateful that the month is almost over and almost time for payday again and I still have money, and the bills are paid. One old-squalor debt is being paid off and will be at a zero balance in September.
I'm three months sober, out of the hospital (depression) for the second time. This time I know I have take my meds religiously and no alcohol with the meds. I'm feeling good.
I'm planning my wedding.
I'm seeing a personal trainer twice a week for body squalor.
The landlord is coming in to service the AC/furnace Monday afternoon and I don't have to crisis clean.
The house is at a level one/zero in some places. I'm looking for inspiration in chat to take care of the laundry/clothes problem.
Have been feeling lonely/lack of motivation/focus lately and I'm grateful I can at least come in here and read and post.
Grateful that I know I'm not alone.
No_More_Fear
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Post by Louie on Jun 27, 2010 16:38:47 GMT -5
hey nmf, just wanted to say congrats on the three months! thats a great achievement and something you can be proud of. wtg!!
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Post by bigtimetroubles on Jun 27, 2010 17:58:29 GMT -5
great stuff good stuff and I liked what I read here today...hugs btt
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