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Post by MiSC on Sept 16, 2010 20:51:01 GMT -5
On that Oprah thread someone wondered how Carol was doing. I wrote her and asked if she'd mind writing a little just to "check in," and I got her response just a few minutes ago:
I am taking care of my dying father and it is a very sad time for me...I can now see that my Mom (who passed away seven years ago) was also a collector of things...I am dreading going through Dad's home and having to decide which treasures will stay and what will go....Taking care of my abuser is a real challenge in grace.....My condo became level 4 hoard situation and my Dad spent 10K for a hazmat team to come in and shovel everything out...new baths etc....a few months ago while taking care of my Dad there was a pinhole foundation leak in my condo and I guess the mold took over....the homeowners association, along with the police, went into my condo and there was black mold 18 inches up the wall....they removed all of it and threw out many of my personal possessions and bagged much of my furniture...I am awaiting pics of the before and after of that mess.....all in all I am VERY GRATEFUL, as my health is good except I need to get more exercise..I lost one of my pups a year and a half ago, and replaced her with a little thee pound pom, who is undoubtedly the sweetest dog EVER!! I have had some hoarding challenges here at Dad's as he refuses to allow anything to change since Mom is gone (Christmas decorations still up seven years later). I have come to realize that rather than sit and think about doing something I need to jump up and do it without dwelling on what needs to be done first...I do believe the cognitive therapy works the best...even though I still have had no real therapy except watching the shows on TV and gleaning what I can....As for Oprah, it is confusing to me....I have always really liked her, but I can't imagine that she was not aware that her producers promised me some counseling....that is disappointing, but I am SO OVER ALL OF IT!! In the end, it is my responsiblity to manifest my own recovery....When I am finished on this road with Dad I will visit the site and enjoy everyone....Please give my best to everyone and let them know how very much they have inspired me!! I am so blessed to know all of U!!! God Bless the Mess!!
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Post by luckyleprechaun on Sept 16, 2010 21:22:35 GMT -5
well I just came to know of carol today and now I know a little bit more than many of Oprah's gang so thanks MiSC.....hugs lucky
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Post by gottaproblem on Sept 17, 2010 9:18:23 GMT -5
Thanks misc for finding out about Carol. I am sorry that she has had the problems with her condo. I do not know if I would be able to take care of my abuser, so my prayers are with her.  |
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Post by 60isolderthanithot on Sept 17, 2010 12:34:27 GMT -5
I wish Carol would come in here BEFORE she has finished this last stressful period with her father. It would really help her to get some group support as she carries that burden. If coming in later is as much as she can do, we send all our hopes and prayers her way anyhow - but if there's any way to talk her into coming in now, right NOW, I do wish she'd come in right away. The group can be an enormous source of strength and hope for her in her hour of need.
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Post by MiSC on Sept 17, 2010 12:47:04 GMT -5
I wish Carol would come in here BEFORE she has finished this last stressful period with her father. It would really help her to get some group support as she carries that burden. If coming in later is as much as she can do, we send all our hopes and prayers her way anyhow - but if there's any way to talk her into coming in now, right NOW, I do wish she'd come in right away. The group can be an enormous source of strength and hope for her in her hour of need. I'll send her your post if I have your permission.  |
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Post by messymimi on Sept 17, 2010 20:55:06 GMT -5
Dear MiSC,
Tell her that even if she can't or won't come here, she is in my prayers.
I hope she will.
messymimi
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Post by petuli on Sept 18, 2010 4:23:08 GMT -5
Quote: 'As for Oprah, it is confusing to me....I have always really liked her, but I can't imagine that she was not aware that her producers promised me some counseling....that is disappointing, but I am SO OVER ALL OF IT!! In the end, it is my responsiblity to manifest my own recovery...'
I was really touched about what Carol wrote here. She has amazing compassion and insight to have come out of the whole thing unscathed, by her own choice - & still moving forwards positively.
My thoughts and prayers are with her. x
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Post by 60isolderthanithot on Sept 18, 2010 11:45:26 GMT -5
MisC absolutely yes! Please encourage her to read us here, even if she doesn't feel like speaking. We care about her.
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Post by MiSC on Oct 9, 2010 0:21:18 GMT -5
Bumping this for lookin4answers.
Thanks, Lion!
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Post by lookin4answers on Oct 9, 2010 19:59:21 GMT -5
Carol,
I was so impressed with how you handled yourself on the Oprah show. You looked picture perfect and to me that sent a message, that this could happen to anyone. It is not about your fashion sense or how attractive a person is - you certainly showed that. I say, it's about a weight in your life, a fuse that went out and things don't work as they once did. I've never been so disappointed with Oprah. My hope for her, is that what ever it is that get in her way and causes her not to "get it" - changes. It would be nice if folks in position of power had compassion enough to help change the judgements and open doors for help.
In reading your message above, I understood that your father had hired a hazmat team. Was that to help in your place or his own? I was hoping he was helping you. I realize that he was an abuser and if I'm not misinformed it was verbal. My Father is such a complicated man. He too, could be verbally cruel and on occasion he would strike out - that said, I adore him.
Gloria Stienem, once said, women ore the only group of people expected to care for and love their abusers. That really struck a cord with me. I've come to believe that many that harm us, have their own demons. It does not make the pain less, nor do I sanction the abuse - it just seems to help me see them as multi-dimensional.
I hope you find the Angels in your life that will help you to regain your path. Occasionally I find some one that has recovered and I'm especially touched by the ones that never forget how hard it is.
If prayers and good wishes will bring you the future you want, then it will be so.
Bless you Carol,
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Post by MiSC on Oct 9, 2010 21:32:40 GMT -5
Sending Carol the link to this thread again, lookin, so she can see your post. |
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Post by lookin4answers on Oct 18, 2010 1:59:19 GMT -5
Thanks MISC ! I'm on my iPad tonight and can't seem to click over to the chat. Hope all is well ~
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