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Post by Meme on May 26, 2008 23:34:10 GMT -5
soft hugs- I think we all have consequences from time to time and sometimes it is just life that sucks us up
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Post by artsygal on May 27, 2008 12:48:57 GMT -5
Thanks moineau and papaswife!!!
Today I called the complaints department at the electric company and talked to the woman, she was very nice and explained that she had already talked to my landlord, last week. I never heard from him, so i called him and left a message telling him that the drain had been unplugged (he doesn't need to know the rest) and if he has any questions to call me. The woman was very nice and said she prefers to resolve these issues without the department of public services to be involved. So she is not reporting me. I'm just a little worried about my landlord......
Thanks so much for all of your support (((hugs))) My mom's surgery is today and I'm very anxious, please have her in your thoughts and prayers today.
best, artsy
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Post by threeg on May 27, 2008 15:51:24 GMT -5
It's so good to hear about non-judgemental cleaning services Artsy! Thanks for posting this. When I was living in the country in level 3-4 squalor, I was offered help but was too ashamed to take it from people I knew. My living conditions were horrible! If there had been a service like this available, I would have gladly paid for it. I'm praying that mom's surgery turns out fine. (By the way, I LOVE your saying about gratitude!) 3g is me
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Post by artsygal on May 27, 2008 17:18:19 GMT -5
Thanks 3g is me, I love that saying as well. I was very blessed to find that business!
***UPDATE***
My mom is out of surgery and in her hospital room. I just finished speaking with her, it felt wonderful to hear her voice. I'm so grateful everything went fine!
Thanks all for your wisdom, well wishes, and prayers!
((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))) artsy
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Post by onwardandupward on May 27, 2008 19:35:30 GMT -5
Artsy,
I am so relieved to hear that your Mom is out of surgery and was well enough for you to speak with her.
Isn't it amazing what a difference a couple of days can make? Here you are with a clean basement (hooray!), the ability to use your nice front loading washing machine, your mom safely out of surgery, and the issue with the electric company under control.
Are you still planning to visit your mom to help when she comes home?
Thanks for sharing this saga with us. I learned a few things...and I totally enjoyed meeting you in chat this weekend.
Onward
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Post by Raspberry Jam on May 27, 2008 20:15:38 GMT -5
Hi Artsy - great news about your mum and your basement. Its strange the way that things work out sometimes - I am glad that the cleaners were non-judgmental and did such a great job - I think it will be a catalyst for you and that it will inspire you to get the rest of the house in good shape.
Raspberry Jam
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Post by heylady1 on May 28, 2008 12:32:39 GMT -5
I'm so glad to hear that your Mom is doing well!! Glad too that the basement is done and the electric is all straightened out!!
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Post by Little_Ninja on May 29, 2008 4:59:19 GMT -5
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Post by gr8wuf on May 29, 2008 16:22:02 GMT -5
I am glad that I read your posts. I am very new to these boards and the concept of "squalor." I was surprised it had a name.
I have been called out by family recently. We compromised that my husband and I will work on the problems areas. If we don't make enough progress, by June they are calling in the troops whether it embarrasses us or not. My sister actually contacted one of those cleaning services, but they are 3000 miles away from here. But the owner of the service was so sensitive that it sort of calmed my stress. He referred me to Squalor Survivors as a resource.
I am still reading but full of shame and guilt. Kudos to you for allowing a service to come in and do the cleanup.
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Post by artsygal on May 30, 2008 13:23:15 GMT -5
Thanks onward, rasberryjam, heylady, LN, and gr8wuf!!!
I'm at my mom's and she will be out of the hospital tomorrow, may hugs for all!!!!! My house is far from how I wanted it to be before I left, but it's the best that I could do in that time frame and I actually look forward to continuing getting it out of squalor when i reurn. I so grateful to be here with my mom! gr8wuf , I'm glad that my posts helped someone, I know exactly how your feeling. I also know that my guilt and shame are slowly being lifted by the people on this site. I wish you and your husband well, your doing great already by posting and sharing on this board!!! WTG!!!!
best, artsy
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Post by fluffernut - now Jannie on May 30, 2008 16:12:27 GMT -5
Well, I'd cry too if this happened to me. Right now my clutter is strong level 2 , I got out of level 3 by cleaning up all the cat poop and scooping the litterbox faithfully at least once a day, sometimes more often. But there are clutter messes I've left for years. A pile on my bedroom dresser about 18 inches high. A garage and an attic stuffed with items I'm storing. Toys my kids played with years ago. They are 18 and 19, now I say I'm "saving' things for possible grandchildren. Yeh, right, I'm saving old Barbies. But it sounds like you're making the best of a bad situation. The cleaning service will get rid of all your mess , and then you can decide about the washer and dryer. Good luck to you! When my sister was renting a home, she let her dogs use the basement as their toilet. Then she moved out, leaving the mess for the landlord and new tenant to deal with.
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Post by crazycatlady on May 30, 2008 21:51:50 GMT -5
I am glad that I read your posts. I am very new to these boards and the concept of "squalor." I was surprised it had a name. I have been called out by family recently. We compromised that my husband and I will work on the problems areas. If we don't make enough progress, by June they are calling in the troops whether it embarrasses us or not. My sister actually contacted one of those cleaning services, but they are 3000 miles away from here. But the owner of the service was so sensitive that it sort of calmed my stress. He referred me to Squalor Survivors as a resource. I am still reading but full of shame and guilt. Kudos to you for allowing a service to come in and do the cleanup. Ah, goodness, Gr8! Welcome to the site! Sometimes people can make amazing progress in a short time under pressure. But don't feel bad if you don't make it by June! Isn't that this weekend? Even if you have until the end of the month...years of squalor just isn't easy to clear that quickly. It took me about 9 months to get my house mostly dug out!
Do your best, and then either keep doing, or get the help offered. Since Jan 2008 I have had a cleaning lady come in every two weeks. She is the best possible help! I only wish that I hadn't felt the "need" to do so much desqualoring before hiring her. She would have sped the process along!
Best of luck. I would love to hear updates on how you are progressing!
ArtsyGal...glad your Mom is well! Do keep us informed on how she is doing, please! Often even when people aren't posting, they are reading the threads and following the progress!
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