Amnesty & Thoughts on Throwing Away Items Jun 28, 2012 14:46:36 GMT -5 Quote Select PostDeselect PostLink to PostBack to Top Post by hiding on Jun 28, 2012 14:46:36 GMT -5 I know that decluttering and maintaining a decluttered house takes both the physical work and a fairly drastic change in thinking. Not that I have achieved either as yet! I know that I could throw a lot of money at a decluttering company, give them a free hand, and the house would be decluttered. However, without the change in thinking, my Sweetie and I would have a huge mess again in short order. On the other hand, if I just sat and concentrated on changing my thinking, without any physical action, the problem wouldn't be addressed and solved either.I know from the 12 Step programs that it is possible to change and retain the change long term. But it isn't easy. I haven't had a drink of alcohol for 34 years. I continue to maintain my sobriety "one day at a time" with the help of others who have done so, with the help of the entity I choose to call my Higher Power, and with the help of the 12 Steps. I am not advertising or advocating 12 Step programs for others, I am just saying how well it worked for me.If I am able to overcome the booze and remain so, I can overcome the clutter.OK, so I have gotten to the point where I can throw things away that I have gotten my use out of. I don't have to repair everything. Some things are worth repairing to get more use out of and some things are not. I ask myself, "Is this worth it to me to spend my time fixing it?" No one really knows how long s/he will live. I think time is more valuable than money. Do I want to spend my precious time fixing this cheapo pair of socks that I have already got my money's worth of wear out of or do I want to spend time with my Sweetie watching the bird parents in our front yard feeding their babies?" The change in thinking is that I now ask myself these questions. Before I was oblivious to my own behavior. I don't have to fix, keep, recycle, give away every *** item! Thinking so is partly responsible for me finding myself in this mess in the first place. Then I came here and discovered the wonderful concept of clutter amnesty.In this regard, what I am having a terrible time with is being able to toss an item that is new, that I have not gotten my use out of yet but is unsuitable for some reason. I bought a bra online, not unusual behavior for me. I detest shopping in clothing stores so I buy all my clothes online or at yard sales. Usually the bras I buy online fit well and are just what I want. But I got sucked into a different design and manufacturer by a discounted price. The discount bra is the correct size but is badly constructed. I let it sit around in the package too long before I wore it, so the return date has passed. What's wrong with it? The piece of fabric/elastic between the two cups is scratchy, abrasive. Yes I could fix it. Yes I could put it in my free box. But I don't want to spend any time fixing it. Giving it away would be passing along the problem to someone else. Yes, it was really difficult to throw away a basically new item, but I did. The money I lost in purchasing a bra that was not useable? I'll chalk that up to paying for a lesson.I argued with myself for a week before I finally threw it away. I learned quite a bit from this experience and I hope my stumblings might be of help to some of you.