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Sept 30, 2012 21:24:24 GMT -5
Post by Di on Sept 30, 2012 21:24:24 GMT -5
Welcome ispoons. It's nice to have you on board. I hope that you feel welcome here and will try some of the different options we have to help you. We have people who work best with lists and there are several different formats under Listzilla. Try a few of them and see if one of them works for you. There are challenges in chat where people post live and challenge each other to see what they can accomplish in a certain length of time. There will be people there to cheer you on.
If you work well with a blog, there is both an open and a private blog section that you can use to express your feelings and thoughts.
Use whatever works for you. Feel free to take or reject any advise given.
Again Welcome Aboard, I hope you find what you need here.
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Oct 1, 2012 2:49:02 GMT -5
Post by Owl on Oct 1, 2012 2:49:02 GMT -5
Hi ispoons,
Welcome!
You're invited to chat - in my wise opinion as an Owl, that is where all the really good stuff happens.
Well done on your progress to date!
As to advice on getting the the loose ends tied up, first up as 'our eyes on location', talk about what you see and about what you think some of those loose ends are.
No doubt there's someone here who has some similar experiences to draw upon and can share how they were able to carry forward their own journey.
Keep on writing, the changes don't happen in isolation, they don't in my opinion happen by osmosis - it doesn't happen by visiting the website alone, it happens by participation, by writing, sharing and mostly by being in action.
You can be anonymous here. You can write 1000 posts, get all the help you need and help a lot of others along the way and still be anonymous - i.e. no one needs to know your name and where you live. Anonymity, when starting out is one the great things about being here.
We can be too anonymous, in that we don't engage and don't get the help we need. Be selfish - get the help for your home and well being, you've earned your right to be here.
No one chooses to live in a mess or to be a hoarder as a Resume/CV item when they grow up. The thing is, it does happen and the choice we have is to engage in the solution!
Through participation many good things have happened in my home.
Through participation, I know the first names of a dozen or so when shared, a few addresses (and in return) - some items sent, I've talked to 4 or 5, seen photos and shared some of mine in return. I've cried for others, shared their upsets, losses and their joys. I know their childrens nicknames and the pets names. More photos shared.
Daily I look forward to coming here. I check out the latest posts and log into Chat. It has been of benefit to my home, to Leo (my cat-brother) and to my soul.
You are invited to find these for yourself on this important and fantastic journey.
Regards, Owl, Melbourne, Australia.
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Oct 1, 2012 4:28:27 GMT -5
Post by aquamarine on Oct 1, 2012 4:28:27 GMT -5
Ispoons, it is much move effective to look at what you have done than what is still outstanding. If you were learning a foreign language, it is very satisfying to review what you have learned so far rather than think about the mountain still to come!
Perhaps you are suffering from the 99% completion syndrome, when you can't find the energy to make the final push.
What exactly are these loose ends?
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Oct 1, 2012 14:12:38 GMT -5
Post by messymimi on Oct 1, 2012 14:12:38 GMT -5
Welcome, Ispoons!
Completion anxiety has stopped many a person. It can be because you don't know what you will do next with your life, when you don't have the mess to hide behind or shield you from doing other things. It can be because you feel like once you succeed you will have to keep it up, to be a grown-up, and you are afraid you can't do that, it's too much pressure.
Whatever the reason, there's no way around it, we have to go through it. Break the remainder down into manageable portions and celebrate what you have accomplished. You might start learning habits, linking one to another, as a way to maintain while you are getting the rest of it done. That way there aren't 3 steps forward, two back, because of not keeping up with what is already done.
No matter how you tackle this, you can do it.
It's good to have you here.
messymimi
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Oct 1, 2012 14:30:48 GMT -5
Post by Deleted on Oct 1, 2012 14:30:48 GMT -5
ispoons-
I've not been here very long, just since the 17th of August. I'm very near full maintenance stage. I, like Owl, use chat daily. I also poke a bit around the forums.
I'm making attempts on a daily basis to enjoy each room/area that has reached maintenance level. By doing so, I am able to recognize the habits acquired and revel at my success. Whether it is spending time with my children in their bedroom, having a conversation on the phone while sitting on my couch, prepping a meal, or enjoying a nice breeze at the back door while I let the dogs out for a short time-I make the effort to enjoy a little piece of it every day.
Best wishes, Halfpint
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Oct 1, 2012 14:36:19 GMT -5
Post by PaperGrace on Oct 1, 2012 14:36:19 GMT -5
You'll find all sorts of people at all sorts of speeds here. Chances are someone will have tried something that will work for you, even if it didn't work for them. If not, puzzling out what does work for you and sharing it with us may help someone else out in the future.
What speedbumps have you hit? Sometimes its as simple as taking a picture on your phone and looking hard at it to see something that your eyes miss when you look at the whole room (Eureka! I need to contain my craft supplies in a more handy way so that it doesn't seem like work to put them away when I'm done!) sometimes it is that the trash and cleaning are done, but the remaining items have meaning or require decisions.
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Oct 1, 2012 17:21:25 GMT -5
Post by dayeanu on Oct 1, 2012 17:21:25 GMT -5
I'm not sure I understand exactly what it is that is hindering you. From how I interpret your post, I would also suggest that you take a photo and look at it. And maybe do just the area in the photo. Then take another pic of another area, etc. Or, some of us use the tube out of a paper towel or toilet tissue roll, and use it like a spy glass, to look at different areas and see what's needed. I know that sounds rather daffy, but you'd be surprised how different things look in a photo or through a cardboard spyglass.
Or you could set a timer for a few minutes and work until it goes off. That's typically what I do.
Or read about the BDG method in the favorites thread.
Good luck.
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Oct 1, 2012 18:02:02 GMT -5
Post by Ally on Oct 1, 2012 18:02:02 GMT -5
... Keep on writing, the changes don't happen in isolation, they don't in my opinion happen by osmosis - it doesn't happen by visiting the website alone, it happens by participation, by writing, sharing and mostly by being in action. You can be anonymous here. You can write 1000 posts, get all the help you need and help a lot of others along the way and still be anonymous - i.e. no one needs to know your name and where you live. Anonymity, when starting out is one the great things about being here. No one chooses to live in a mess or to be a hoarder as a Resume/CV item when they grow up. The thing is, it does happen and the choice we have is to engage in the solution! ... Owl.... You said "No one chooses to live in a mess or to be a hoarder... when they grow up." I have often said that no one chooses to be, or has a goal to be a drug addict or alcoholic when they grow up. I have never realized that that is true of me here in my mess of a house. I always have wanted a neat, clean, presentable house, but it has nearly always been an elusive goal. You have provided yet another light-bulb moment in this life of mine. I really appreciated the other statements you made about taking action, and being an active participant in the recovery process. (I'm not an alcoholic, but I can see the parallels.) Amazing. Thanks!
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Oct 1, 2012 18:03:57 GMT -5
Post by womble on Oct 1, 2012 18:03:57 GMT -5
Ispoons welcome and congratulaions on getting so much done. As others have said, explain a bit more how you are stuck and you will get lots of advice and support good luck, hope to see you in chat or listzilla soon x
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