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Post by The Eliminator on Aug 14, 2014 0:40:51 GMT -5
I also tossed: A curling iron, a curling brush, a crimper (gosh, I still had THAT from the 80s...and I prefer my hair straight...what WAS I thinking??), and two sets of electric curlers (ditto...what WAS I thinking?). HEY! Don't insult me electric curlers! Crimper... okay, I'll giva ya that... but I need me electric curlers (both sets) to smooth me frizz! ...curling iron too!
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Post by The Eliminator on Aug 14, 2014 0:42:59 GMT -5
...and curling brush!
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Post by ponygirl on Aug 14, 2014 16:22:20 GMT -5
TOO funny, Elim! Love ya, Sis!
I permed my hair once...and it looked great! Just took a while to keep it styled. Went back to straight!
My hair is wavy now as I age!
Thanks for stopping in! It's always a joy to see you!
Thanks, too, to everyone who continues to support me on this quest for mental (and physical) freedom!
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Post by ponygirl on Sept 23, 2014 16:20:02 GMT -5
Just a quick update...
I know I haven't been around much and that is because I just have too much on my plate to post (much to my chagrin)
This past weekend, I burned about ten more huge bags of anything that would burn!
Amnesty is, indeed, our greatest friend. If I had continued to worry about having just the 'right' home for everything that I wanted to purge, I wouldn't get a damned thing out!
Trash it...burn it...donate it (but, only if it is VERY convenient to do so...this will mire you down good if you worry about donating...trust me...the charities are flooded with more than they can handle)...just GET IT OUT.
Also, it becomes even more crystal clear each day...the only way to true freedom is a reduction of possessions. You cannot manipulate, maneuver, or organize it into submission. You must have LESS than you have space for to have true clarity.
I march on toward that goal. I may never get there, but I'll die trying.
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Post by lostchild on Sept 23, 2014 16:44:05 GMT -5
Go ponygirl...I know exactly how you feel when you turned the corner. I turned and my garbage and recycling have been full since. I donate so far 2 loads of stuff.
I figure if I didn't have room who else does?
I have only given away a minimum of stuff! Mostly daughter's outgrown clothes and cheer uniforms. Tossing appeals to me!!!
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Post by The Eliminator on Sept 23, 2014 19:43:26 GMT -5
PonySis! I've been gone till today, too! You and I are always on the same biorhythms! I've not been getting to do as much, either... the desire and the will is there, but just not the time! But I think I am headed for another good three weeks coming up! I'll send ya an Email soon...
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Post by ponygirl on Oct 2, 2014 16:05:18 GMT -5
Will update again soonest! Thanks lostchild and The Eliminator!!! Razy and OnTheMend! Lots going on in the world of Ponygirl...
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joy17
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Post by joy17 on Oct 3, 2014 10:22:56 GMT -5
Hi. Looked for a bit to see where I wanted to reply. I like what you said. I'm thinking that not everything is a matter of life or death when it comes to deciding what to let go of and how to do it. Just started to recognize that I saw it that way though. Wow. I think the first thing to discard is fear. Fear of making wrong decisions, etc. After having experienced abusive relationships with men, I've been single, choosing not to date, for over four years and I'm finally letting go of some things. I know it has to begin in me and the outside will represent the inside. The thing with me is that I can clean like everything but when the place has started to get too clean and neat, I would panic inside for some reason. I'm searching out that reason now. One abusive partner didn't want me to clean but sit down and watch TV with him. The next verbally abused me for twenty years, claiming I couldn't do anything and demanding that I clean and saying the house was messy even when it wasn't. Also, I heard from everywhere about how his ex-wife was a wonderful housekeeper. Somewhere in there, I just said to heck with it, I guess. But I don't live in emotional squalor anymore in my surroundings and I'm ready to move squalor out of me. I'm a talented person with a good heart. Just don't want to be tripped up anymore. I've come too far to quit now. Sorry if this is too much of a comment or intro. My very first post on here and joining is a step for me. Blessings!
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Post by ponygirl on Oct 3, 2014 12:10:37 GMT -5
joy17, I'm really happy that what I have written has resonated with you...and that you selected this thread for your first post. What you said is spot-on...the change(s) have to begin within us. We are the only ones that can make anything happen. It's difficult and a long road for certain. I understand verbal abuse...have had that happen to me, too. I agonize over that same fear...of making the wrong decisions...or any decision. I'm making progress; but, it's painfully slow. I'm really glad for all your comments. I don't get to post, or even get online here every day (and sometimes not for weeks), but I hope you will join with me and post as often as you can or want to. I'm very glad to meet you. Blessings to you, too!
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Post by ponygirl on Oct 3, 2014 12:44:35 GMT -5
I have also 'bit the bullet' and saw a physician for a complete physical workup on Tuesday...and opened up about discussing depression/OCD/anxiety/PTSD/ADHD...my pre-menopausal issues...my hand arthritis...a complete hormone analysis (which will cost me a pretty penny out of pocket, but it will be worth it to get the bio-identical hormone workup started)...and the kicker: suddenly, my hair has started to fall out! Have already ruled out anemia...waiting on the rest of lab work to determine thyroid and hormone issues...which may be the cause(s). Also discussed my high levels of stress (which also may be the cause: telogen effluvium). I was given 10mg script of Celexa...with follow up in 3 weeks with her to determine the efficacy for my individual needs. I was scared to death to take the first one. I have had side effects...sweating, nausea, dry mouth, dullness, lethargy, dizziness, irritated throat, and the feeling that I had just had a couple glasses of wine...that feeling lasted about 24 hours. Took pill #2 last evening. Better, but now I'm feeling no emotion whatsoever. It's a very strange thing. I'm used to being so passionate about everything and anything...now it's just 'meh'. I'm already starting to feel less irritable, though...but not happier or 'better'. It's just foggy and nothing. I love to be sharp...and I feel much less so. I'm hopeful that things will improve. Pill #3 last evening...feel even foggier today...and shaky/trembly. My Doc says she is confident I will feel much better and regain my 'life' and things I used to look forward to doing/love. She is also giving me a referral to a therapist. I told her I would be receptive as long as my insurance covered. This will be a first. We'll see from here...
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Post by larataylor on Oct 3, 2014 13:49:45 GMT -5
joy17 - Welcome! You will find this a warm, welcoming, and very helpful place for whatever type of squalor you are trying to come out of. Jump right in wherever you like. You can have your own blog to keep your story in one place, or join in on group threads that interest you, or both, or whatever. Looking forward to desqualoring with you!
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Post by desireelafleur on Oct 5, 2014 11:30:57 GMT -5
Go ponygirl...I know exactly how you feel when you turned the corner. I turned and my garbage and recycling have been full since. I donate so far 2 loads of stuff. I figure if I didn't have room who else does? I have only given away a minimum of stuff! Mostly daughter's outgrown clothes and cheer uniforms. Tossing appeals to me!!! Tossing appeals to me as well. I have a, um, fairy?, who steals stuff back out of the trash though. Does the burning thing work? The thought of making massive donations is just another reason to put things off...
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Post by lostchild on Oct 6, 2014 2:03:50 GMT -5
I figure it like this...most people I know don't have room for all their stuff so why give them mine. I don't go back for stuff once I trash it because I don't like to consider myself indecisive. I prefer to trash because once its gone to trash its gone period. Try pouring kitty litter (used) to render it unable to be retrieved. I make quick decisions and base them on my favorite question...if there was a fire but I had time to save this item would i? Since most of the time in the grand scheme of things I wouldn't nor would I care if it burned I can let the item go with no regrets.
If I would truly save it then I specifically designate a place for that item. For example... I determined that if I could I would save my videos and CDs but I didn't care about the covers and papers that came with it so I bought binders and put everything all my CDs and DVDs in them.
I now have over 400 discs in binders where if I needed to evacuate I could do so efficiently... I live in Cali and have had to evacuate before...they no longer take a bookshelf and they have a designated location.My question works well and its gotten rid of most of the trash and excess in my house!
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Post by ponygirl on Oct 7, 2014 12:11:37 GMT -5
I agree wholeheartedly about most people having too much already...and...most charities have more than they can handle in the form of donations (if in doubt about this...just check out what they chuck...). desireelafleur the burning works for me because it is so very final and I have a safe and legal way to do this (we live in rural area). I burn everything that can burn. The rest goes into regular garbage. I am nowhere near the recycling level.
We have to use any means necessary to get out from under the burden of all this stuff. Amnesty is key. Please, everyone, don't worry about donating. Is this wasteful? Maybe. However, it is necessary that we relieve ourselves from one more danger of derailment.
There is no way out of our issue of too many things except for this: We have to reduce the number of things! As lostchild said, if we have something that is important to us...we need to find a way to save the item(s) in a manner that reflects the importance of those items. I'm trying to work my way through the stuff...to get to a position where I can do this with the items that I DO want...and most importantly: NEED.
Truly, there is very little that we actually need. Think about that for a moment...
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As I've said many times, it's not easy...decision-making is difficult. What's most difficult is changing our own mindset over keeping all of this. Whatever 'this' is for all of us is different. The decision-making and the digging out is the same.
Once we make up our minds to change, the hard part begins: The physical removal of the 'stuff'. Get it out by whatever means necessary.
Trust me on this once again: Once it's gone, you won't even remember what 'it' was. If in doubt: Do the box/bag test. Put things in a box or bag...seal it...leave it alone for a week...and you won't miss: One. Single. Thing. Get rid of the box/bag. Do not open it. (Why sabotage yourself?!)
I burned a whole bag of clothes this past weekend...and about five more bags of other combustible items. I can't even begin to tally how much in sheer weight I've removed from my home. The floors must be sighing in sweet relief.
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Post by ponygirl on Oct 20, 2014 15:46:40 GMT -5
I keep asking myself this one question at each standoff: 'What is the worst thing that could happen if I disposed of this?'
It works.
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