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Post by dtesposito on Oct 1, 2019 21:14:28 GMT -5
Thank you, everyone.
I have worked a little to get rid of things on the desk and on the floor that were cat related. Of course, it feels weird every time I use the desk because he would normally be on it. One of the baskets I was using as a cat bed actually had old paper stuff in it underneath the towel on top, some things to file, etc., so I started going through that. I'm guessing that I'll be up late tonight even though I'm tired, my head and sinuses are so stuffy and inflamed--my shopping friend called and I told her about my cat, and then my sister called and I told her how the day went--and cried through each phone call. So my nose is so stuffed up I have to breathe through my mouth.
I feel lighter though--it was time.
I have a walk tomorrow in the early afternoon, the rescue dog that I can never say no to--so I will combine it with a trip to the library or to the FedEx drop off if I can finish getting a box of books ready to send. It's supposed to be rainy tomorrow and when looking at two different local channel weather reports, one says the high will be 72 and the other says 66--quite a difference. Guess I'll just have to wait and see. After tomorrow the whole week looks like highs under 60, which means the building will probably want the heat on--I'm quite curious to know if they will turn this over to the management company as they promised last year, or call me again to deal with the boiler.
I'm currently eating more odds and ends from the fridge, there sure are a lot of them in there. I would like to clean up more LR cat stuff before I go to bed tonight.
SetMeFree, I'm so surprised by your news, I hope the visit with your attorney goes well (I'm guessing it will since he left you with no money). Wishing you resilience to deal with whatever happens with this situation.
What a day for news. Let's hope for a few better days ahead.
Oust, I wholeheartedly concur!
Diane
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Post by oust on Oct 1, 2019 21:17:51 GMT -5
I did take my scarfs and neck a chief's out and put them on the coat stand. I'm glad it takes so many things. Plus umbrellas. Finally somewhere to put things. Freed up some space on the closet shelf so I can work on that too. I checked my oils I probably have way too many. I need to use them much more.
Plastic containers that I will not use went out tonight. When my feet stop complaining I will get back to the clearing up.
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Post by dtesposito on Oct 1, 2019 23:15:21 GMT -5
Oust, what a lucky find that coat rack was!
It took me over 2 hours to eat dinner because I was eating odds and ends and my nose was so clogged most of the time I couldn't smell. Couldn't smell, couldn't taste the food! No sense eating something I can't taste, so I kept waiting until my sense of smell would periodically return.
All evening I kept thinking I was forgetting something, because normally I'm doing something cat related every 2 hours. I fed my other cat only twice since coming home--now I will feed him the night time meal. Half the meals as usual. Other cat is old too, and getting to where I sometimes have to encourage him to eat, so he's not problem-free, but I will have more time now, for sure.
Good night everyone, see you in the morning.
Diane
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Post by SetMeFree on Oct 2, 2019 1:48:33 GMT -5
dtesposito Oh Diane, I am so heartbroken to read about the passing of your sweet cat and I am sending you love and peace and comfort while I type this. I so understand how hard the absence is and how huge the loss is. You've lost a cherished companion and my heart goes out to you in this terribly painful time. Please be gentle with yourself and allow time to rest and heal both physically and emotionally. I am so terribly sorry.
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Post by SetMeFree on Oct 2, 2019 2:35:44 GMT -5
Wanted to express my thanks to everyone for your concern and compassion regarding my husband suddenly leaving me. I have been doing my best to stay vertical since it happened, and not crawl into bed and hide under the covers, like a huge part of me wants to do.
I spent over 12 hours yesterday locating online documents, doing screen captures, printing, organizing, etc all the paperwork the lawyer needs for the appointment later today.
I got a few hours of sleep, but catface was persistent and I agreed to get up and feed him at this weird hour because I have a feeling I'm finished with sleep for the night.
I know there are others here who have gone through similar situations, and I welcome any and all pm's with advice etc. should you feel so inclined. I need the support of people the most, more than anything else right now.
TO DO keep compiling list of issues for lawyer stay hydrated lay out clothes etc for appt take meds later print anything still needed
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Post by SetMeFree on Oct 2, 2019 7:41:00 GMT -5
Well, my appt is in one hour. I am dressed and all packed up with my satchel full of documents that I've worked on for almost 24 hours.
I am not planning on doing much else today other than get through this lawyer appointment because I know my body is gonna crash as soon as the adrenaline wears off.
Should I somehow have energy later today these are the things I want to get done:
Find Halloween Barbies and list them for sale (if I have boxes) Clean catbox well schlep trash out that #@%#^& neglected to do while he was trying to sneak out of our marriageaki
Not making any promises because it's supposed to be hideously hot here today (high 91!!!) and I might just lie in bed and watch whatever TV streaming service #&%#*$&%^*@ hasn't cancelled. I discovered last night that he cancelled our streaming service Sling and of course did not let me know to give me a chance to change it over.
He's making some very unwise choices when it comes to wanting out of this marriage. I hope he doesn't cancel the internet!!
Have a good day everyone.
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Post by dtesposito on Oct 2, 2019 8:13:58 GMT -5
Good morning!
SetMeFree, hard to imagine what your husband is thinking, but it sure is a cowardly way to deal with things. Good luck with your appointment.
And thank you for your post, "absence" is a great word to describe it--after spending so much time every day caring for him it's so obvious that he's gone.
My challenge is to keep busy this morning, because I have a walk in the early afternoon, I always get that feeling of--why start anything, I have to go out "soon"...
But there's plenty to do so I'll try to do things.
TO DO:
Make and eat breakfast Delete 50 emails while eating Update planner and list for today
Diane
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Post by dtesposito on Oct 2, 2019 8:46:08 GMT -5
I just checked some weather sites, and now everyone seems to agree the high today is mid-60s. I was so tempted to open windows last night before going to bed because it was up to 77 and stuffy in here yesterday, I'm glad I didn't. The 10 day forecast says highs in the 60s every day, that means the building will have to turn the heat on. But I don't know how long they'll argue about it before they actually do it.
Next:
PEEP cat table 10 minutes on books Wash some cat food dishes
Diane
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Post by MamaAngie on Oct 2, 2019 8:55:15 GMT -5
Got my nap (don't hate me because I'm rested, MamaAngie !) and breakfast and now its time to finish packing, get dressed, and run errands.
I would never hate anyone because they got sleep Scholar. Only celebrate!! I thought I would try a nap in the car at lunch yesterday. But the day took a different turn. At 11:45 I left work (not even there 2 hours) to go pick up my daughter with Down Syndrome from school. I had a text from the teacher that she was very unhappy that morning, restless in the classroom, throwing things and screaming at people and had grabbed her backpack. So she was done with them. I went and picked her up, got her some Wendy's for lunch because I knew that would make her happy and took her home. In the meantime I had a text from my 29 yo asking if there was anyway I could drive her to her apartment to turn in her key. She moved out and wanted to get it turned in so she didn't have to pay an extra days rent. But her boyfriend (the driver) had left early that morning for Texas to help a friend move out here. Went home and got some things done. Husband got home to relieve me of duty with the daughter I picked up. Picked up my oldest from her new house she is renting, took her to the apartment and back to her house. And THEN back to work. So I was gone almost 3 hours, but no time for a nap. Got out of work 1 hour later than normal last night because I am training my boss to do our day end process. She "learned" from the other lady a couple months back but never used the skill so she lost basically everything she learned. I realized she did not have her hands on a lot, as the other lady is very particular and mostly "showed" her. My boss is like me and needs hands on to learn. She is going to cover for the other lady as she is out suddenly this week due to the loss of her mother. After 2 days crash training, I know she is not quite ready. I grabbed some old notes from my desk yesterday for her that will help a lot. But I am also going to go in and guide her through part of the process tonight. I told her I can't stay for the whole thing. I will pick up my oldest daughter and take her to my mom's house for my 2nd child's birthday dinner tonight --- 21!!
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Post by MamaAngie on Oct 2, 2019 8:56:11 GMT -5
Oust, what a lucky find that coat rack was! It took me over 2 hours to eat dinner because I was eating odds and ends and my nose was so clogged most of the time I couldn't smell. Couldn't smell, couldn't taste the food! No sense eating something I can't taste, so I kept waiting until my sense of smell would periodically return. Sorry you are sick Diane. And so sorry about your kitty. I read that yesterday.
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Post by MamaAngie on Oct 2, 2019 8:58:01 GMT -5
Well, my appt is in one hour. I am dressed and all packed up with my satchel full of documents that I've worked on for almost 24 hours.
I am not planning on doing much else today other than get through this lawyer appointment because I know my body is gonna crash as soon as the adrenaline wears off.
Take care of yourself SetMeFree. The chores, projects, etc will wait. You have a lot more pressing issues to deal with right now.
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Post by phoenixcat on Oct 2, 2019 8:59:05 GMT -5
Diane I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. You are so good to your kitties. I know she loved you very much. PC
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Post by MamaAngie on Oct 2, 2019 9:03:50 GMT -5
It's HUMP day! And my "weekend." Although I am driving my oldest to work all 3 days of my weekend since her boyfriend (who works with her) went out of town for a few days. She is so not a planner. I get the text Monday, "Anyway you can give me rides a few days this week." My husband grumbles about it, but I am happy to hear from her. I don't think I have seen her in almost 2 months since they started gradually moving in with each other and she didn't need any rides. Today's Plan: - Get 3 kids ready and off to school
- Bake Brownies
- Make spaghetti sauce for crockpot
- Pack up all other food items & birthday plates, napkins, candles
- Put presents together in gift sacks (also have present for my brother-in-law. His bday was last month)
- Drive oldest daughter to work
- Take food & presents to mom's house
- Housework chores
- Go to work 3:30 pm to 5:00 pm and assist my boss
- 5:00 pm pick up oldest daughter - go to party
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Post by dtesposito on Oct 2, 2019 9:22:35 GMT -5
Thank you phoenixcat.
Angie, your days are super busy, as usual. I always think it's so funny when the boss has to be trained on something--aren't they supposed to be the ones training the staff? I know they might not keep up with every detail of a particular procedure but it's kind of amazing how clueless a lot of bosses are about what the staff actually does.
Next:
Wash more cat food dishes Start some people dishes soaking Start load of laundry
Diane
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Post by ohblondie on Oct 2, 2019 9:54:56 GMT -5
SetMeFree..you had mentioned that your husband was unhappy with his new job...in retrospect....do you think he was withdrawn like this because he had so much on his mind and was thinking about leaving? Regardless - it was a cowardly way to handle things. I hope your appointment with the attorney went well. I advise you to strongly advocate for yourself - don't "feel bad" about asking for things like support from him. ugh - so much hits us at once.....
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