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Post by runningfromchaos on Dec 12, 2019 2:31:33 GMT -5
Hey! I just found this forum and have recently been getting support from Reddit. I grew up in squalor and a really traumatic childhood so cleaning for me is linked to trauma and it’s hard. I’m working with multiple therapists after almost being evicted and criminally charged a year and a half ago due to squalor. My house is a mess and I’m cleaning now (I cycle between doing nothing and then doing long 36 hour cleaning marathons). I really need to change this and I’m just tired of it all. Thanks for having me!
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Post by wynken on Dec 12, 2019 9:02:10 GMT -5
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Post by def6 on Dec 12, 2019 9:26:59 GMT -5
Welcome to the group runningfromchaos I had cleaning marathons also for a long time ..sometimes I still do it. I've learned from being a member here that it is so much easier to clean up along...run like a well oiled machine. Still I struggle with this, but I get up and begin again each new day. It's hard to change. All my best wishes go out to you. |
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Post by joyinvirginia on Dec 12, 2019 10:31:42 GMT -5
Hi running! Welcome! many of us have done the cleaning binges/ stash and dash then deal with "where did I put that stuff?" for weeks and months afterward.
Routines and habits and maintenance is the answer. unfortunately maintenance is boring. Linking the needed activity with something fun or a reward afterward is one way to keep yourself on track. When my kids were little I had a cleaning lady come in every two weeks, that helped a lot!
Share any particular challenges, check out the threads on listzilla and see if posting there would help.
Welcome! glad you found the forum and hope it helps!
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Post by wynken on Dec 12, 2019 17:17:46 GMT -5
I have found the following helpful : - baby steps - little forays into the 'what is needed', attempting to get some routines in place, survival skills in terms of self care, (need food, water, shelter, clothing, hygiene) 'the 3 Ds - dinner, dishes, duds' (food prep) (the washing up - dishes pots etc, kitchen functional so food prep can happen) (clothing/laundry/washing) encourage yourself for every little thing you do get trash/ waste out the house regularly a waste bin in each room work on my personal attitudes and beliefs helpful - rinse and repeat. start over as needed. That's what I need to do most days if not everyday. Sometimes I get more enthusiastic on tossing things out, clearing a space, cleaning … Please post some more.  |
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Post by 7sweetbabiesgranny on Dec 12, 2019 23:08:21 GMT -5
Another “welcome”
I’ve been on here for years and years
Lots of motivation on this site
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Post by notanotherdecade on Dec 13, 2019 14:39:06 GMT -5
🙋 welcome to the merry band .
Even with an anonymous forum it takes some courage begin to talk about our lives.
I hope that you will have some victories to share along the way too...
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Post by Tea on Dec 14, 2019 18:08:23 GMT -5
It's so hard. You will find what works best for you eventually. But stick with this community if you can! It's such a fantastic source of non-judgemental support and friendship. Welcome!
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Post by larataylor on Dec 15, 2019 18:17:30 GMT -5
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