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Post by goldenthreads on Jul 25, 2020 22:48:51 GMT -5
Five items remain for tomorrow.
Outside mow the rest of the front lawn It rained again (afternoon)! That was glorious. And now some more (evening). weed front lawn 15 minutes weed back lawn 30 minutes Weeded in a gentle rain. It was cool and pleasant. Not a thunderstorm, which is the usual for us.
Desk work look in bank records for daughter's last payment to me set up mini/plus/elite goals à la peaceseeker's video restart the habit tracker with modified goals write sympathy note pay bills: CC 1 , CC 2 , phone , storage 1 , storage 2
Housework clear sofa
Other try trimming hair ends again; cross fingers for better results Better this time. empty DampRid containers; refill them
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Post by peaceseeker on Jul 26, 2020 6:26:05 GMT -5
Good morning everyone
completed minimums yesterday plus -filled med minders for 2 weeks - did full morning, lunch and bed routines - these really have become habit and it feels weird if I dont do them. I just need to find the right place for litter, trash/recycling in my day now. I like doing the daily focus in the morning as I am more focused - still figuring out what works with my energy, time and willingness levels. -received negative covid test results and negative covid antibody test results so now can schedule all other tests. i've stayed as isolated as possible and am stringent on mask and distancing on the few trips I have to take but DH goes to work at office so it was a toss up. -enjoyed watching 3 new feral kittens play... time to start feeding them tuna to socialize them. I have 1 - just 1 - feral female I haven't been able to catch and release. God's way of telling me I am not in charge. -napped -read
to do minimums -
morning meds sort yesterdays laundry
scoop litter 1 x
dish zero 1 x take out any full trash and recycling
night meds
plus
5 mins box
order meds
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Post by desposito on Jul 26, 2020 7:08:00 GMT -5
Good Sunday morning! I hope everyone has a productive AND restful day.
Very hot again today, but the rest of the week looks like mid-80s--I never thought I would be glad to see a week of mid-80s, but that's better than what we've been having since May!
TO DO:
Breakfast for sister when she wakes up Get last load of sister's laundry from basement Look for a particular box of CDs Restock water in fridge
Diane
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Post by desposito on Jul 26, 2020 7:13:58 GMT -5
Good morning PS, I'm happy to hear about the negative Covid tests, but hope the remaining tests are not too onerous. I really need to start setting up some routines for my place. I have some structure with meals for my sister, and with dog care, but the rest of the time it all depends on what my sister needs plus her medical visits, so my 2nd floor care is hit or miss. It would be nice to have at least a few cleaning things on a schedule--habits that become second nature.
Diane
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Post by desposito on Jul 26, 2020 8:47:47 GMT -5
Next:
5 minutes each:
Desks Bathroom Plants Plant room
PEEPing 3rd room
Diane
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Post by cando on Jul 26, 2020 9:31:59 GMT -5
Hi y'all. dtesposito Not sure if you know this or not, but my Dad had his catheter removed about a month & a half ago & so far so good! He had catheter put in near the end of October 2019 due to a storm of things going on following a fall--Diabetes went out of control & kidney failure. We are so thrilled that he no longer has the catheter. That was a world of problems, worry & stress. Neither one of my parents have gotten up on their own in the middle of the night since the beginning of May (this year) to go to the bathroom or for any reason. Both Mom & Dad are incontinent, now. They've now been in the Assisted Living Mem Care for a little over a year. DH & I moved them to TX in June 2019. Both use walkers all the time. When we moved them here, we thought Mom was incontinent as far as urination, but it's both. Dad was fully ambulatory & was not incontinent. Now, unfortunately, he is incontinent for both & needs to use a walker. I'm thankful that we moved them here when we did! So far the place they're in has been good but we have to stay on top constantly. No sooner than we think things are good & tempted to write them a glowing review... then suddenly something really bad happens as far as care. Like dropping my Mom or Dad falling out of the bed & being on the floor for an hour and having to call them to alert them & have them go help him. (Constant problems with their bed alarms & motion sensors. Always the management blames the caregivers NOT responding to the pager alerting them. The bed alarms don't make an alarm sound, they alert through pagers. This time there was something wrong with the bed alarm being delayed notifying the pagers...) I'm sorry to hear how much your life has changed & you are sacrificing so much for your Sister, now. It sounds like she requires a lot more care than even my parents do. dtesposito ... I know you love your sister, but I sure do wish that you could have others care for your sister or at least have some help. Respite care at the very least. This is soo much for one person 24 hours a day & you have your own life to live. How old is she? There's got to be an organization or something that can provide some help. I understand that you and Sister made an arrangement and that you love her dearly. What is her prognosis?Also, how are your birds? Tadas only: woke up 7am Med to dogs Fed dogs Feeling overwhelmed... (so what else is new? ) CD
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Post by oust on Jul 26, 2020 12:39:31 GMT -5
Welcome back bree...who ever you are!
Cando, you write such thoughtful replys. I feel the same about many things but don't have the writing skills you do.
Diane. I hope things get better for you.
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Post by goldenthreads on Jul 26, 2020 14:14:36 GMT -5
Well, it's afternoon, so time to get started. Leftovers from yesterday plus a few more: Outside mow the rest of the front lawn before it rains again weed back lawn 15 minutes Did 20 minutes.
Desk work look in bank records for daughter's last payment to me restart the habit tracker with modified goals check phone data usage ask for prescription refill prepare for tomorrow's phone calls compare daughter's auto insurance candidates at her request
Housework dust living room
Other wash and refill DampRid containers mail letters from post office? get prescription refilled?
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Post by desposito on Jul 26, 2020 15:07:17 GMT -5
Hi bree and oust!
Cando, thank you, I would not say my sister needs more care than your parents, I think it's just that I had to jump into it right away instead of helping with a slow decline, which is often the case. Up to the day I got here she was walking around to the bathroom and getting her own food (granted, not very well, but still.) Within 3 days of my getting here she couldn't walk at all and needed a lot of help to get to the commode, which happened every 2 hours around the clock. The catheter made that a lot better--I'm not sure how long she will have it in, but her edema shows no signs of getting better right now so without the catheter it would be horrible. Hard to say what her prognosis is because she hasn't seen her regular doctors for 6 months and right now she doesn't want to go to their offices or the hospital. She would have to have a car come and take her down the stairs in a wheelchair, because there's no way she could walk stairs.
I know that at some point she will HAVE to go, I assume that in the back of her mind she knows that too, she just has to come to terms with it. In the meantime we will keep going as we are unless they say they can't keep the catheter in for some reason, then we would have to reevaluate. I'm concerned also because I'm going to have to find a doctor here soon, I need to have the pain in my side checked out at some point--it will be a problem if I have to go into the hospital or even for tests, we'll have to find caretakers. I'm having trouble with the insurance company, they have no doctors here, it's been frustrating.
It is so hot here, I went out in the yard with the dog and it took my breath away. So I'm taking it easy, I'm watching a baseball game--I was afraid that once baseball started again it would be too weird and I wouldn't want to watch, but I do, and it's fun.
I found that my sister has an extra black storage bin, I'm going to try to make it into a compost bin. I just can't find the kind I want, and although I was going to wait until next year, it really bothers me to throw food scraps into the garbage so I'm going to give it a try. I just can't decide if I should put it in the yard or try to keep it up on the back porch, where it will be so much easier to use. I'll have to think about it, and see what size drill bits I have to make holes in the bin. I'm not going to be doing it today, that's for sure, way too hot.
Diane
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Post by cando on Jul 26, 2020 16:13:11 GMT -5
oust Thank you! dtesposito I must have missed (or forgot) that your Sister got a catheter. Sounds like y'all are doing everything that you can. You are such an amazing wonderful person! Tadas: Put laundry load in washer Emptied kitchen trash & replaced bag Took that bag to outside can & scooted it out for pick up Moved load to dryer & hung the hang-dry things Put another laundry load in washer Folded/hung load of laundry Put away that load Emptied back bathroom trash & replaced bags Emptied my bedroom trash Emptied DD's old room's trash (DH using it for an office, now). Emptied front bathroom trash & replaced bags Took 2 more bags of trash to outside can Took 2 bags of recyclable bottles/cans/jars to outside recycle can Drank 3 glasses of water Took all meds Made a nice salad for lunch Sent texts to my boss re: one of my benefits CD
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Post by mylittlescholar on Jul 26, 2020 16:37:09 GMT -5
hi everypony!
yesterday I ended up spending the day in bed with an upset stomach, but went up to the house in the evening to drop off and pick up some things. I took today off from working. did get some exercising and socializing in. and playing with the kitten, who is tearing up the house and complaining because it was not enough.
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Post by oust on Jul 26, 2020 16:44:07 GMT -5
I dusted a bit in the bedroom Fed dh when he got in Put all food leftovers in the fridge. Had to rearrange things again!!! Fridge is truly getting on my nerves I'm outside now on the recliner for another hour. Stacked recycling by the door.
If I was asked to care for a family member I wouldn't take it on. I know it would be too much for me. I can barely keep up with us. The more dh asks of me the more stress I get. I have been realizing he is getting too much lately, but I am getting too much too. Every thing seems like much more work than before. I'm good for a couple of hours, but that's never enough time for everything.
Thousands of hours have been put into keeping up(barely) over the last few years. I feel disheartened about it all. It's just exhausting doing it all.
Hope no body minds me saying that. I know we are all supposed to just keep going. I appreciate everyone here. That's all.
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Post by desposito on Jul 26, 2020 19:04:33 GMT -5
Hi scholar, I hope you're feeling better today.
Oust, I can imagine that it's frustrating to live with someone who has a different idea of how your living space should be. I've lived by myself for the majority of my adult life, so I am used to being able to have my place as I want it--whether that's messy or clean or whatever, it's how I'm comfortable with it, and I never had to compromise on that. I'm not sure I could, I'm not the best at adjusting to things not being the way I want them. It's also not fair that you end up being the one who has to do all the work of tidying the place, especially if there's no consideration to at least try to keep the clutter contained to designated places. And the longer it goes on, you must feel like Sisyphus, endlessly pushing the rock up the hill.
I also think the Covid thing is putting all kinds of stress on us that we don't realize. This is a totally life-changing experience we've been living through, and it doesn't look like it's going to be over for quite some time--the uncertainty has to be affecting us whether we think of it that way or not.
I hope you can figure out some ways to get some relief, whether it means figuring out boundaries in the apartment where certain spots are off limits, or just a way to get away once in a while.
And the heat doesn't help...at least, it's been driving me crazy. Maybe things will seem a little better once the cool weather comes back.
Diane
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Post by desposito on Jul 26, 2020 19:06:55 GMT -5
It's just too hot to do anything today, the central air is not able to keep up with the temp, it shows that it's 3 degrees warmer in here than what it's set at. Upstairs it's fine right next to the portable AC, but in the other end of the house it's unbearable. I helped my sister sort out and put away some of her clothes, and I made her dinner. I have to return a call to my senior client, we haven't talked in a while but I'll have to limit the call to 30 minutes because I need to be in bed in about 2 hours. And that's about all I will accomplish today.
Good night everyone, see you tomorrow in the weekday thread!
Diane
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Post by cando on Jul 26, 2020 20:46:08 GMT -5
oust I can understand what you're going thru. I hope things get better for you. Hugs. I agree with dtesposito about these times are really extra rough, now. I have kind of a standard stress now that just doesn't go away... it's kind of always there. I try to fight back my sucky attitude. And, now kind of a depressive state, as well, due to not just the pandemic ... but the racial tensions & the violence. It'a all just a overwhelming stressful feeling that is just there. I don't like this! But, then again, no one does, I guess... I just wish that I was one of those people that are very upbeat! I've never been one of those... Regardless, I got some more done, today: Drank 4th glass of water Moved laundry load to dryer & hung the hang-dry things Labeled items to take to the ALF Mem for parents: kleenex, deodorants, tooth paste, 2 pkgs of bed pads, Glucerna for Dad, RX for Mom. Took things to ALF Mem-- asked nurse how my parents are doing. She said they're doing fine. Mom's not eating too well, but she is very picky. Which is true. We aren't really worried about her not eating... at least not now. Went to Sam's Club -- ordered BDay cake for Dad's 91st bday, bought Rotisserie Chicken, carrots, apples, onions, celery, frozen pre-cooked hamburger patties, paper plates. Brought everything home. DH put everything away. Yay! & helped me unload my car. Went to mail place where I have a box. No mail! I called about this last week because I was concerned there was no mail. I was told there were 2 pieces. But there was NO mail! I checked DH's box & he had 2 pieces of junk mail. I was expecting at least 1 important piece of mail. I'll have to call about this, tomorrow. CD
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