Halfpint is here for a visit! Jul 29, 2020 11:13:10 GMT -5 via mobile joyinvirginia, mouseanne, and 2 more like this Quote Select PostDeselect PostLink to PostBack to Top Post by halfpint on Jul 29, 2020 11:13:10 GMT -5 Hello hello! I think it’s been about 6 years since I’ve been here, but I have been thinking of SooS for some time!We bought our first HOME in April, and I absolutely love it here. Working on getting everything organized just so. The moving was a nightmare though. 🙄We lived in former house for 7 years. It needs a heck of a lot of work, and former landlord does intend on tearing it down. I think he finds the rental income beneficial, but wants to keep a low financial investment into the property. *sigh*I had a friend in need of a new place. She was desperate to move herself & her family. She knew previously that the house was in rough shape.While we were still moving stuff out, they came to do measurements for flooring. Little did we know that this was essentially going to shove us out. We had about 5 days, and it was apparent that there were things I neglected on the cleanliness aspect. She made sure to shame me, sending photos and videos of things. I have apologized profusely, despite not having the time or resources to clean & repair everything we wanted to.DH worked tirelessly. We had installed new lower kitchen cabinets, painted rooms, rented a floor sander. It was total chaos. We had filled the workshop and single stall of the garage with junk and things to dispose of, so we needed to rent a dumpster for that. Two 8 yard dumpster fills of junk plus the plethora of wood we brought home to burn along with stuff we still use. It was overwhelming and exhausting.“Friend” still sends me periodic things from former house. The other day I received two videos, before and after shampooing of the boiler room carpet. She said she had to replace her dad’s shampooer. Sadly, I have had many revelations regarding what I considered friendship with her. The only one offering forgiveness and apologies is me.Those are the cliff notes of that experience. I know what I need to change and do differently. We’ve done great work in the 7 years since moving from the “old house” to former house to not live in squalor. I grapple with the idea that it was enough. It should be enough for me. She’ll never understand or forgive. I suppose that’s part of why I’m here- because SooS has an abundance of supportive and understanding people.*hugs* Keep fighting the good fight my friends.