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Post by risenshine on Feb 8, 2021 18:20:17 GMT -5
Why am I here? I guess I am looking once again for a community that will refrain from judgement and encourage me to create a life of happiness for myself.
I was very active at this forum in the past. It's been a few years. I am under a new identity. My circumstances have changed drastically since I was last here. I THINK I remember my old identity here, but as I said, circumstances have changed drastically so perhaps a new name is in order.
Over the past few years, I have sold the home that I had expected to live in for the rest of my life, drastically downsizing in the process. This was the result of a health crisis, affecting my memory, balance, vision among other things. I have made some recovery, but some symptoms recur. No diagnosis was ever made while the symptoms were at their worst. Eliminating some of my medications helped. At one time I was on six different psychotropic medications. I tapered off three and my health improved as a result. I stayed at that dosage for several years. I am now on none. And I still have some of those symptoms.
I now live with family and often feel a lot of tension because of the power differential of living in a home owned by someone else. I cannot afford to live in this area on my own. I experience a lot of anxiety as a result. I often lack motivation and create clutter as a result. My family reacts by imposing rules and micromanaging me. Things have only become worse since the COVID-19 pandemic has greatly limited my activities.
My life has been greatly simplified by giving up many responsibilities of keeping up a household but there are many limitations. I have been threatened to have my belongings discarded, screamed at when I insisted that I needed space in the refrigerator, called selfish for wanting to see the dentist to re-cement a gold crown in March, 2020.
I have been relying a great deal on peer support groups for my mental health. Two of those groups have recently become unhealthy for me. I fear the other groups I attend might become toxic since they are all through the same organization. I also participate in extended learning classes on Zoom through my local community college.
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Post by larataylor on Feb 8, 2021 20:31:44 GMT -5
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Post by joyinvirginia on Feb 9, 2021 3:06:51 GMT -5
Hi risenshine! Welcome back! Sorry you are dealing with micromanaging at home.
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Post by risenshine on Feb 9, 2021 13:14:18 GMT -5
thank you both!
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Post by ohblondie on Feb 10, 2021 20:44:22 GMT -5
Welcome back!!
Would you qualify for some type of supportive housing so you could be on your own?
Come here to check in and we will long distance emotionallysupport you and give you ideas!
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Post by risenshine on Feb 11, 2021 1:42:11 GMT -5
A list of potential housing options:
I do have an application in with the Housing Authority. I need to fill out a form soon to remain on the waiting list.
I turned 62 last December and can now apply for senior housing.
There may be other housing that I can apply for too, I need to research these.
The local ILRC (Independent Living Resource Center) helped me with applying with the Housing Authority, they might have other resources available.
It is very common for people to rent out rooms or share houses due to the high cost of living. But I don't think I could look at places without my family finding out. Also, I feel it would be dishonest for me to ride public transit or Uber without their knowledge. I certainly am not going to ask them for a ride! A friend said that this might be a good time. I am on Social Security Disability, so I have stable income.
If my double vision would go away, I would consider trying vanlife. There are even safe places to park legally locally for people living in vehicles. I am not sure if there is a waiting list.
I could leave the area totally. I think most of the USA is less expensive. I do miss my former city. I likely couldn't afford to buy a home again. However,housing prices were skyrocketing and there was a lot of new housing construction when I left. It is possible the housing bubble has burst with COVID-19.
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Post by bree on Feb 11, 2021 7:59:16 GMT -5
Hi your living situation sounds so Difficult —I hope you can work it out find a better solution. I just wanted to jump in and say I don’t think it’s dishonest for an adult to not tell other people that they’re taking Uber or public transportation -I think that’s just your right and if you want to do that you don’t have to explain to anybody
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Post by def6 on Feb 11, 2021 10:08:13 GMT -5
Hello risenshine Sometimes family can't live comfortably together and maintain healthy boundaries. I hope you can obtain your own place and have a haven to call your own. |
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Post by risenshine on Feb 12, 2021 15:40:27 GMT -5
I will no longer be posting to this discussion. I am starting to feel very unsafe posting in public areas. Thank you all for empathizing with my situation.
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