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Post by jean on Jun 11, 2021 20:46:58 GMT -5
For years I struggled with a disaster of a house. Stuff that was collected for years + belonging from my parents etc. I had goat paths but I could still find stuff.In 2019 I was diagnosed with cirrhosis of the liver gradually going downhill. Last fall I ended up in the hospital due to ammonia that is produced by the liver causing severe confusion. I also had fluid on the lung which frequently had to be drained. I was in and out of the local hospital and in Jan went back in until Easter weekend. My husband got a call they had found me a liver and on Easter Sun. I was taken by ambulance to Toronto. The next day I received a new liver. I was in the hospital for about a month then went to rehab to get my strength back before going home. I didn't realize how sick I was before my transplant. After my surgery for the first while I had confusion and bad dreams. Looking back I'm not sure what was in my mind and what was reality. Anyways I am now doing really well. The bloodwork for my liver and kidneys is really good and I'm getting back my strength. The nurses I had were for the most part were great.
During my time in the hospital I asked a friend to help box up things because I knew if I was released they would say my house wasn't fit to live in. My friend didn't just box stuff but took it upon herself to donate/toss a lot of stuff. New things,gifts,food, things that belonged to my family. When I got home from one of my hospital visits I was angry and upset. I went back in the hospital and my husband started ripping out the carpet. He found it we had carpenter ants and the bathroom floor needed replacing. My SIL offered to help paint and redecorate. When I got home after my surgery I was devastated. Once again I was betrayed. She went through every room,drawer and tossed tons of stuff. New things, things I used a lot and even stuff hubby told her not to get rid of. My husband doesn't want to say anything to her since it is his brother's wife. Now I'm trying to put my house back together and rearrange things the way they were. Hubby didn't pay attention to what she was getting rid off because between doing laundry, paying bills, working on the house and visiting me in the hospital he was overwhelmed. He just wanted to get me home. I was going to go with hubby to another brother's place this weekend but I didn't go because I knew I would see her at a family memorial get together. I knew I wouldn't say anything to her but I knew I would be upset seeing her. Hubby's comment was if I'd kept a clean house no one would have had to come.
I'm thankful I have a new lease on life with my new liver. I had many, many people praying for me and getting a liver was an answer to prayer because without it I wouldn't have been around much longer. There were several times when I was on the brink between life and death. I know I need to be grateful for finally having the energy to do stuff and move on with the way things are. There have been so many changes in my life in the last year. I thank God for my friends and for all the people who care about me.
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Post by papermoon on Jun 11, 2021 23:16:33 GMT -5
jean , I'm speechless to read about what a long and difficult ordeal you've been through. But I'm very glad to hear that you are healthy now, and well enough to post. Please count me among the people who care about you. I give thanks for the organ donor who gave you new life. 
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Post by catcats on Jun 11, 2021 23:24:07 GMT -5
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Post by peaceandfreedom on Jun 12, 2021 10:47:52 GMT -5
Dear jean, wow, you have been through SO much, on so many different levels! Talk about a “Do-Over,” you certainly do have a new lease on life! I, too, agree with everything that papermoon just said!! So glad you let us know...  |
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Post by def6 on Jun 12, 2021 12:16:04 GMT -5
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Post by NewLifeToday on Jun 12, 2021 12:45:42 GMT -5
Jean, I am glad you have a new liver and are doing so well. I am very sorry that so much violation and difficulty happened. I wish you much joy and victory. Hugs and every blessing to you. |
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Post by mynicehome on Jun 14, 2021 16:58:27 GMT -5
((((( jean))))) So kind of you to think of us here and give us an update. You've been through so much! So very happy that your liver transplant was a success and that you are feeling healthy all around. Indeed a blessing that you are here at all. Huge hugs! It must be so hard to find forgiveness for those who went through your home and all your personal belongings and disposed of everything regardless of the value some of these things had for you. Prayers that it is complete and leaves no bitterness that could run through your new lease on life. Your own husband's words about if you'd kept a clean house...very cold, imo, although I appreciate that he went through a lot with all of this too. Please know that nothing is as black and white as that. Sending you every best wish, and prayers that your life going forward is full of new-found happiness and joy.  |
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