ejvincel
New Member
Joined: July 2021
Posts: 2
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Post by ejvincel on Jul 10, 2021 7:24:46 GMT -5
Hi everyone,
I couldn't sleep last night because of thinking about the mess. I haven't been good at keeping up with clutter and cleaning for years now, and I have a small farm, which means I have a house and the outside work, too (horses). Add to this that my mother died of COVID a few months ago, and I'm not managing the removal and dispersion of her things. That means I now have two of many things--two sets of linens, of the kitchen, of cleaning products, even---everything. I'm just overwhelmed and determined to figure out where to begin. I make lists and feel defeated when I don't finish. I need a better way. Thanks for reading!
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Post by sillycanuck on Jul 10, 2021 9:09:08 GMT -5
Welcome to this site--unjudgemental and often good tips/encouragement. Check with the local community agencies, they often have families in need suffering to start over ie lost everything due to fires. Others leaving shelters may have shelter now but lack everyday supplies
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Post by papermoon on Jul 10, 2021 10:09:53 GMT -5
Welcome to our group. I saw from your other post (July challenge) that you are already beginning to settle in. I'm glad you found us.
Please accept my condolences on the sad loss of your mother. You will find comfort here, and encouragement and wonderful camaraderie.
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Post by peaceandfreedom on Jul 10, 2021 11:06:47 GMT -5
Yes, welcome! And sorry to hear of the loss of your Mom. Grief + too much stuff is not an easy load, but there is hope and you will find it + encouragement here. We care!
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Post by phoenixcat on Jul 10, 2021 12:51:13 GMT -5
Welcome! ejvincel We lost my DH's brother to COVID last month. I think those of us with this shared unfortunate experience are feeling a grief that is similar to a sudden accident. It is something that possibly could have been prevented but the victim was just in the wrong place at the wrong time. And you spend a lot of time thinking "what if". It takes a tremendous toll on your heart. I'm very sorry for your loss. Covid adjacent - I too am going through my mother's things and trying to absorb them into our home. My mother is very elderly and living alone in her senior apartment with the isolation of the last year has been very hard on her physically and mentally. So, she and her cat moved into our home earlier this year. Due to the pandemic restrictions, a moving company packed and moved her 2 bedroom apartment into our garage. I didn't see most of the contents until they ended up here. I was allowed four hours to do what I could before the movers came. Anyway, I also have double everything with the added burden of my mother not wanting to let things go - she is attached to just about everything.  Wishing you success! In my opinion, the group here is unparalleled in compassion and support!   PC |
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Post by def6 on Jul 20, 2021 17:42:32 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for your loss ejvincel make sure you take good care of yourself. The loss of a parent is hard on anyone. I wish you all the best and Welcome here! |
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Post by ClimbingPyramids on Jul 26, 2021 21:14:20 GMT -5
Welcome, ejvincel! Please accept my sincere condolences for the loss of your mother. I couldn't sleep last night because of thinking about the mess. You are not alone in losing sleep. I've written many posts here in the middle of the night. I concur with sillycanuck to explore opportunities with community organizations who will receive various items from linens to cleaning supplies for families and individuals in need. I spent today gathering up donations to an organization that gives items directly to community members (see Working in Threes). Again, welcome to this amazingly supportive community. |
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