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Post by petrossian on Aug 22, 2021 14:25:23 GMT -5
I just got a nasty look from the super. I think he didn’t say anything to me because his wife was there.
I’m picking up as fast as I can, in other words, slowly, but it doesn’t seem fast enough for him. I’m battling a depression ( I’m on meds ), money is low and he is just adding unwanted pressure. It’s reached a point where I dread running into him.
I know I brought up this subject before, but it won’t go away and I have to vent.
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Post by doodles on Aug 24, 2021 17:22:39 GMT -5
petrossian I am sorry it is causing you stress-  here, have some calm vibes from me-  .
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Post by whatgirl on Sept 5, 2021 19:27:11 GMT -5
I understand! I am terrified of my landlord. Every time she says she needs to come in for any reason, I freak out and spiral into a mess of anxiety and fear. It feels so traumatic that I get paralyzed and can't think or move. I wish I could tell you how to not have these feelings, but I don't know how either. All I can say is you are not alone!
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Post by TML on Sept 11, 2021 8:20:56 GMT -5
I understand fully. Seeing super derails you and puts you in freeze which stops progress. Sending good energy!
Only two things I know that will help this - other than avoiding super which I also recommend.
1. Mindset - you need to take yourself and your feelings about your situation out of the picture. The way to do this is to step out of situation if you can like just stepping outside door to go somewhere else for tiny bit and have a sit. I usually go to Mickey D’s and get a small soda and budget item for a meal and do this. I usually use my cleanie Aunt or or one of my close friends for this mind exercise. Basically consider if it was close friend and someone you love dearly that was in this situation (which describes how we should think of selves but usually dont). If they called you up and told it to you and asked you to please help them get it cleaned up - would you help. So focus on that you are going back to help friend/loved one (easier for me if I have a face to focus on who). If you see mess and get urge to kick self think would you say that to friend? Whatwould you say to them instead to encourage them.
2. Physical reality - focusing on clearing a goal when all is pffft is a hard thing to do. So instead use timer to make time cleaning goals and celebrating putting in the time. If you set goal for say 7 min then when timer rings take well deserved break and celebrate.
On you tube i like the pomodoro ones harry potter - i use the 25 work 5 min break ones. I also like Dana a slob comes clean who uses 5 min when i just cant stand to do anything with her idea that we are just making it better each 5 min and celebrate better not done.
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Post by petrossian on Sept 11, 2021 10:51:54 GMT -5
Thank you. He hasn’t bothered me in some time which I appreciate. Very good advice.
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