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Post by OnTheMend on Sept 10, 2023 8:01:32 GMT -5
Welcome! You have found a wonderful place, look around and jump in to some of the challenges and work together threads, those help so much! Try to break things into small steps, and then do one of those small steps. And when you are ready, do another small step. Post here about your progress, and be pleased with yourself. We will also be proud of you!
Maybe start with your fridge, and throw away old food. Take them out to the bin, and grab another trash bag as you go. Every time you leave the house, take a trash bag out. It will start making an impact very quickly. Concentrate on cleaning paths first and making food prepping areas, fire safety areas (windows and doors), personal hygiene areas, and your bed useable and comfy. You know, places that really matter and that you use daily.
I acknowledge your problems are partially also because of your adult children, and I agree they will need to be part of the solution. How, I don't know. If their ADHD medication is working and their ADHD is under control, they should definitely be able to help. As someone who has ADHD, anxiety and depression, I do know these can greatly affect on house keeping energy and ability - HOWEVER I also know that having a clean and tidy and organized and calm home is ESSENTIAL for my welbeing, and makes my symptoms much better. Everyone who lives there needs to participate in housework, it is non-negotiable. I hope you will find some great ideas that work.
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Post by def6 on Oct 3, 2023 10:05:09 GMT -5
Hello 16bitbettyI'm late replying here, but I can certainly relate to the feeling of overwhelm no matter where you turn. Yes! Overwhelm can make you want to just go lay in the bed and pull the covers way up!  Way to go for getting started in the right direction! It is wonderful to have a friend that you don't mind letting in ...one that can help you. That's what friends are for. |
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Post by notanotherdecade on Oct 3, 2023 12:00:54 GMT -5
Hello, gosh, a whole family with ADD, that's going to be quite a challenge.. Your problems with having to pay for even basic rubbish disposal makes me appreciate our free system, and I should probably make a point of getting more out of the house now before we copy the American system.. I
I am relieved that your college kid has more orderly habits, touch-wood he will continue to follow a more normal path.
I hope you can find the strength to make the changes that you and the family need to prevent the other two following further down the road of chaos and overwhelm.
I notice it's been about a moth since you joined SOoS, hopefully the various discussions on the forum have given some inspiration
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