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Post by sacredspace on Mar 29, 2009 1:14:52 GMT -5
Welcome, I'm new too. Glad you are here. Me-here for a few weeks, have been finding it helpful reading posts, etc. My intro-subject line is "Getting Real" I hadn't cleaned my house in 2 years, am reclaiming kitchen still, mostly working hard to maintain the hard work I've done. Think that's the best advice I've gotten. Protect protect protect any area I clear.....It's when I backslide and "re-mess"... I wish you all the best! Y.
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Post by creativechaos on Mar 30, 2009 15:03:22 GMT -5
hello myproblemmess, and welcome! i hope that having your sister come will give you the boost you need, and that she and your son will go at your pace and be gentle. they may be shocked, but that is ok. when we are in it every day, we insulate ourselves from how shocking it is to people who haven't seen how we live.i wonder if it would be possible to have her read some on here so she can get an idea of what this is for so many of us. the main thing is that you are wanting to do this for yourself, and that your family is willing to be there to support you in that. and now you have us! a question to ponder: did something particular happen to make you change your habits in the last 2 to 3 years? often what you describe (just stopping maintenance) is preceeded by some loss or trauma or other difficulty. it may be that, like some of us, you never learned a certain set of skills to deal with incoming stuff, outgoing stuff, and maintenance. i am an ocd hoarder too, and if hoarding is involved, that is a whole set of other things to deal with. as people have said, starting with the obvious trash is first and the best way to reduce things significantly right away. now i am going to go and take my own advice! looking forward to working along with you and doing this together! hugs, cc
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Post by myproblemmess on Mar 31, 2009 8:38:08 GMT -5
I'll figure out how to put quotes in here later. Creativechaos asked: "a question to ponder: did something particular happen to make you change your habits in the last 2 to 3 years? often what you describe (just stopping maintenance) is preceeded by some loss or trauma or other difficulty. it may be that, like some of us, you never learned a certain set of skills to deal with incoming stuff, outgoing stuff, and maintenance." In 2004 my mother and my stepmother (both with whom I had a strong relationships) were diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. One passed in fall of 05 and the other in summer of 07. I didn't think that this affected me much other than gaining a few pounds. It's actually quite coincidental, yet maybe quite related, that one of my sisters took a four day grief workshop just last week. I guess this is something I should explore. At any rate, I can't thank everyone here enough for the support and sense of community. mpm
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