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Post by dragonchilde on Jun 10, 2008 12:39:18 GMT -5
I've been struggling with PPD (post partum depression) on and off since the birth of my second daughter three months ago. I hit some really bad spots, but I reached out to friends online, and got some really encouraging responses. My inability to really do much but sit around and cry really did something to my husband... I think he finally, finally realized how bad the house has gotten, and that I can't do it alone.
Thursday was the worst... I was swimming in a pit of hormone-driven despair. I went to my mom's Friday, which helped, but Saturday, I was in a funk all over again.
Sunday, though, was really, really different. He helped me. Without me asking, he started washing dishes. I'd told him about the WIT thing in the Listzilla forum, and I think it inspired him. He did three loads of dishes throughout the day, scrubbed the tub and the toilet, and did some laundry. Having him help me was motivating, so I picked up the living room, and started on the massive pile in the hallway! I can actually see the floor there. It's amazing.
It helps so much when he tries to help me. In fact, last night, he did ANOTHER load of dishes! I couldn't believe it. He's never, in our entire 10 year+ relationship, ever done that much on the dishes, ever. He'll do a half load every now and again, but that's usually it.
I'm so thrilled, and so thankful... now, when the PPD starts to rear its ugly head, I feel a little bit stronger in fighting it.
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Post by iguanamamma on Jun 10, 2008 12:59:35 GMT -5
Sounds great!! I too suffered from PPD when my kids were little.If my husband hadn't helped out none of us would be here. Tell him Happy Father's Day! The ppd does get better then it gets replaced by real nail biter things like the oldest son getting into law school and the youngest son being a Marine. But I wouldn't trade any of it for a pristine house. Hugs to you new Mamma!
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Post by wantinmore on Jun 10, 2008 13:21:30 GMT -5
Hi dragonchilde! PPD is just awful. I had it with my second child as well and felt I was just drowning in misery. Huge, big hugs to you and your family. It sounds as if your husband is really trying to help. How fantastic. So often spouses just don't get the fact that PPD is something way different than "baby blues". Good for him (and for you  ) for trying to wrap his mind around it. I know it is so hard to do with a little one around, but please try and be good to yourself. ETA...I second what iguanamamma said...it DOES get better!! |
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Post by dragonchilde on Jun 10, 2008 13:35:36 GMT -5
Today's been a good day. I can feel it creeping up on the edges, but I'm trying to stay active around the house to keep it at bay. I love my husband so much. Not only are we partners in squalor, we're lovemates as well. I took him to Outback Steakhouse Sunday night in thanks for all he's done, as an early Father's Day present... and it was only a little bit for me... |
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