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Post by molly on Aug 31, 2009 14:02:58 GMT -5
Maintenance in every room but one. Working on it...
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Post by houseworkhater on Aug 31, 2009 14:06:58 GMT -5
Wow, Lion. You have made so many major changes -- I am sure that when you decide you are ready, you will achieve your goals.
Unlike you, my squalor has been a major source of shame my entire life -- I even did not have children because of it.
Depending on the room, I am in contemplation, action and maintenance all at once. I don't know when, but I hope to get to maintenance in all; I can't honestly imagine the last stage ever happening for me, but maintenance will be more than enough.
Great post, as usual.
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Post by Serendipity on Aug 31, 2009 21:59:31 GMT -5
Dear Lioness, Your life story is really stirring something in me. It is not a matter of can I change, why won't i change, will i ever change but ~~I Am Changing~~ If only i had a cleaner house, if only i didn't have arthritis, well I am going to do the best i can right now, at this moment ,in this body. Maybe life won't be better without sticky juice and breadcrumbs on our feet, but i am going to find out. Maybe my son's behaviour won't change if I change, but i am going to find out. With every piece of trash i pick up, every spill i wipe up, with every crumb I vacuum, ~~I Am Changing~~ Let's do it together! Thank you Lioness
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Post by success19 on Aug 31, 2009 23:02:32 GMT -5
Last year I tossed away tons of stuff - tons - my dd was shocked!
Then I started getting down to the nitty gritty.
I got depressed.
I got fearful.
I got stuck.
Now I am making progress again.
Keep in mind I have to get rid of 95% of my stuff to move.
Thats alot!
But I am determined!!
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Post by yearning4order on Sept 1, 2009 0:45:09 GMT -5
Thank you Lioness!
I'm at several stages:
2) CONTEMPLATION--worked 75 hours last week, I really can't do much else right now
3) PREPARATION--planning for next steps when work busy season is over
4) ACTION--was in action before my work busy season began
5) MAINTENANCE--some areas of the home are being maintained
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Post by Meme on Sept 1, 2009 1:03:28 GMT -5
I really could check off all of these on some days but I realize it is the over - all that counts- I did pick maintenance right now but I also have some action- I just had to slow down the action due to health issues - and I do often try to do some action along with the maintenance- that is - I will check the cupboard as I am putting dishes away and make sure nothing has snuck in there that does not belong and also is there some thing I can live with out- I create space as often as I can right now with the health issue- I would like to move on a little faster but it is going to have to be in the fullness of time-
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Post by Serendipity on Sept 1, 2009 11:35:42 GMT -5
Courageous lion~ I found a your post with links to your info about special spots. I would really like to work with these ideas but i can't find it again. could you post the link again? Thanks Serendipity
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Post by Hazel on Sept 1, 2009 12:24:37 GMT -5
Thank you for this - really interesting and food for thought! I voted Action, although often I am more Preparation (planning and faffing about in my case) - not that there is anything wrong with planning, as it's important to think about goals and priorities. I think I spent a long time in Contemplation. Until recently I didn't realise just how much of a problem I have - I blamed tiredness (depressive phases) and lack of time and energy after work, but now I can see it: acquiring (defininitely), hoarding (well, having massive amounts of stuff and taking a very long time and an awful lot of thought to get rid of things) and I recognise some obsessive compulsive and attention deficit aspects to my behaviour as well, but those are tendencies, not a diagnosis - there's always a scale, and everyone will be at some point on that scale, and it's all relative...) Excuse the digression, back to some Action...
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Post by moggyfan on Sept 1, 2009 23:02:50 GMT -5
I hope it's not hubris, but I cast the lone vote for "Termination."
It's been four years since the grand clean-up, and I honestly never have to think much about maintaining anymore--I just do it. I really don't fear that I will backslide in any serious way. It is strange that after a lifetime of "squalordom" I have become more or less a very tidy person. (Knock wood)
And I do feel ready to take on other tasks (e.g., the smoking). Now THAT'S something I AM still struggling with on Day 52 of no cigarettes. Grrrr.
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Post by StuffNoMore on Oct 16, 2009 10:57:28 GMT -5
ACTION ACTION ACTION Soon to be maintaining the downstairs then beginning the ACTION upstairs WHOO HOO!!!! :::doing the happy Rottie dance::: Hugs SNM
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Post by StuffNoMore on Oct 16, 2009 11:00:23 GMT -5
And I do feel ready to take on other tasks (e.g., the smoking). Now THAT'S something I AM still struggling with on Day 52 of no cigarettes. Grrrr. WTG on the no smoking. Someday for me....someday HUGS SNM
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Post by zen on Oct 16, 2009 16:02:40 GMT -5
thank you Lioness for sharing your experience - your words are always inspiring and thought-provoking to me. I will definitely pick up the book and the concepts articulated in this thread are incredibly valuable.
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Post by gettingsomewhere on Oct 19, 2009 19:57:37 GMT -5
thank you lioness for sharing so much of yoursef once more. i was astounded to read of where you were in January 2009 as that was only a month before i found and joined this place. and you have been so inspirational since that very first day...... wow. good luck with all of this.
i am all over the place. some action, some contemplation.......
too hard to try and work out right at this moment.
xxx
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Post by WestsideStory on Oct 19, 2009 22:16:13 GMT -5
thank you so much for sharing, Lioness, and thanks to the others who are here with us! you touched a cord in me. and gave me something to think about. WestsideStory
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Post by yearning4order on Oct 21, 2009 0:30:25 GMT -5
This was very interesting--in terms of squalor I think I am more often in action than I am in preparaton, but it goes in cycles. For instance, I think about the next phase of the de-squaloring, and the preparation precedes the action.
For addictive gaming, I think I'm in action / maintenance.
For alcoholism action /maintenance.
I write them that way as a self reminder that I've never truly "arrived", I just have today, and I'm dependent on my actions today.
Other areas of my life, no real clue. I don't pretend to think I've got everything wrapped up in a tidy package (no pun intended) but I can only focus on so many things at one time, and these are the things on my radar right now.
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