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Post by breakingfree on Oct 21, 2009 9:56:04 GMT -5
This makes so much sense. My list was very short--I wanted my home to be a place my children would feel comfortable and invite friends over. It took a long time for me to get to that point even though I had grown up in squalor and never was able to have friends over.
BF
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Post by CourageouslyLion SeeksSerenity on Dec 12, 2009 4:44:11 GMT -5
- I really like this thread. I've had it bookmarked. I have been re-reading it a lot lately. While I was working on my abstinence thread here: takeonestepatatime.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=general&action=display&thread=8350while working on my abstinence thread about what behaviors I want to abstain from ... ... I've been re-reading this thread about figuring out what I actually WANT in my home. I really think I need to look at things from BOTH angles. One year ago, I started a "visions notebook". Jotting down ideas for my home and my life. I'm going to look at what I've previously written, and see what pops out for me now as what I still want ... and see if there are changes. I really like these two sentences in your writing: It is a positive, hopeful vision of ourselves that really helps to drive us and bring about (and maintain) positive change.
Self-improvement is hard work, no mistake...but hard work is made easier when we aim for serving our higher self. Yes, I want my home to reflect my higher self. I remember reading in some 12-Step literature ... something like ... "Do you really think your higher power wants you to be miserable?" And then that piece of literature continued on ... to encourage people to try to reach for their higher power's vision for them. I really like this type of approach. I've been visiting homes of friends lately ... and looking around to see what aspects of their homes do I want. Not the specifics ... but the "spirit" or "essence" or "atmosphere". What do I want my home to embody? I need to think some more. And then work out some specifics. I'm in the middle of another level of desqualoring ... and as I go, I'm rearranging the house. I'm going to focus on the "vision" as I do this.
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Post by CourageouslyLion SeeksSerenity on Dec 12, 2009 13:40:48 GMT -5
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My first vision is:
A kitchen that is userfriendly.
Where I can easily prepare nutritious food. This will improve my health.
Where I can prepare food inexpensively (instead of buying expensive packaged dinners or takeout food.) This will improve my financial picture.
Where I can easily view my backyard (no more piles blocking window). This will improve my state of mind.
Where I take delight in visual layout of furniture. This will cheer me up.
Where food and dishes are organized efficiently. This will save me time.
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