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Post by CourageouslyLion SeeksSerenity on Dec 11, 2009 9:56:06 GMT -5
A. if being charitable leaves you feeling grinchy, i wouldn't do it. being charitable is excellent. Stretching your limits of comfort to be charitable can also be excellent. However... you are here, at SoS to get help with squalor. I wouldn't tell an alcoholic to do a winery tour because "it's for a good cause" I wouldn't insist that someone dealing with sexual abuse at the hands of a man volunteer at a men's prison because, "it'd help others" and I don't see how pushing yourself into doing something that damages your recovery is charitable or good in the long run.
B. if it helps you to justify how the donation is used that's cool, but you don't have to justify it. you don't get to hurt other people when you're recovering from something but you Do Not Have TO Hurt Yourself Either. You Don't. Period. You are a worthwhile and valuable human being, just like the nameless & faceless people you feel an obligation to help. I am sure you have, and will continue to do many things for other people, but this one's obviously weighing you down. You don't have to do it. If it hinders your progress in being a whole, healthy and well person it's also leaving you less able to contribute to society in the future, it is leaving you less capable of caring for you, and you are every bit as valuable as the unknown people you want to help. You don't have to have a justification for simple self care. You are worth it.
C. You're still a worthwhile human. I wouldn't call you l*zy and i don't see why you should call yourself that either. you are in a fix. you've had some bad experiences, they've taught you some things. some of them have been great survival skills and some of them have led to a bit of hoarding. that does NOT make you l*zy. and you didn't "blow a simple task" you did your best. getting through difficult economic times after a difficult life is the task, and you are getting through it. a few bags of clothing were collateral damage, i think you are doing -very- well.
i just don't think you deserve some of the harsh thoughts you were giving yourself. DJ, this is one of the wisest things I've read on the forums in ages. Hugs, Lioness - |
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Post by mellowyellow on Dec 12, 2009 10:25:32 GMT -5
It's happened to me before.  What I did in that case was just fling everything over the shower rod in the bathroom and let it dry out. Then when it was really dry, I put it back in the bag and donated it as it was. It was not dirty per se. But not freshly washed either. But at least I wasn't sending any moldy wet stuff to the goodwill center. I struggled with just throwing it out. Really struggled with it. |
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Post by mouseanne on Dec 12, 2009 11:10:57 GMT -5
60!!! AMNESTY....
Animal shelters where I am at need all the donations they can get for PET BEDDING. obviously dif where you are at.
AM-NES-TY!!!
AM-NES-TY!!!
AM-NES-TY!!!
AM-NES-TY!!!
AM-NES-TY!!!
You are not the custodian to your STUFF. Once it is no longer serving you, your obligation ends. No obligation to find it a new and perfect home.
Pets, yes. Stuff, no.
love & huggs, mightymouseanne
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