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Post by gottaproblem on Dec 16, 2009 10:10:45 GMT -5
Ignore the people who do not like your decor or say horrible things. They do not deserve your time. You seem to be a very loving and caring mother. It is no one elses business to decide what we like to decorate with. I do not believe in "age appropriate" except where it has to do with safety of children. I am glad you found us. Thank you for sharing your story on A&E.
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Post by howardsgirlfriend on Dec 16, 2009 11:07:48 GMT -5
People's perceptions vary so widely...all of you have been so wonderful and complimentary towards my home. One lady, on another site, said my home was "very non-age appropriate". I guess us 'over 40' gals should have beige carpet, a brown sofa, and sit around in mumus and sensible shoes... ! I have to admit, the funniest post said, "It looks like the Dollar Store threw up in her living room." As someone with tastes similar to yours, I can only say... "They say it as if it were a BAD thing!"
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Post by echo on Dec 16, 2009 12:50:41 GMT -5
Krysta,
Thank You for being brave enough to go through all you have and for sharing your life with everyone.
I for one loved all your stuff and your home,,,, To me, you had an amazing amount of order in your clutter. I am so glad you are here..... I love your sweet, gentle ways. You are a beautiful person inside and out........
Hope to see you around here often.
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Post by messyjedi on Dec 16, 2009 13:04:11 GMT -5
People's perceptions vary so widely...all of you have been so wonderful and complimentary towards my home. One lady, on another site, said my home was "very non-age appropriate". I guess us 'over 40' gals should have beige carpet, a brown sofa, and sit around in mumus and sensible shoes... !... I am not quite "over 40" yet (give me another month ) but I personally loved your decor!! Those chaises (is that the right word?) in your living room are the coolest thing! And your dd's room was just adorable. As the mom of boys, I don't see it being recreated in my home but I hope she loves it!
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Post by shopgirl on Dec 16, 2009 18:46:41 GMT -5
Age appropriate decor? Hey, you look like a very young, pretty mom just out of college! Your house looks like a place I'd love to visit and hang out at. Complete with a pool table, how great is that? And even when it was cluttered, it was clean.
My opinion: you are doing amazing well, making your way out from an unrecoverable grief. Most women would just quit living altogether if they were in your situation. You have been strong, you haven't lost your mind, and you have continued to provide love to your girls. That is huge. Keep working through it, and don't lose hope by what anyone says. Be patient with yourself, and keep adding something to those donation bags every day. Every step you are taking is a step for the better. For you and the girls.
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Post by Bizzy on Dec 16, 2009 20:28:04 GMT -5
Hi Chris- So glad so came here. I enjoyed watching your episode on Hoarding. I have watched them all and was intrigued watching yours. Other people had different issues to deal with- some of them had no hope- others refused help and others were not able to recover-and some got a little help and I hope they get better. Life- is not a bowl of cherries. For me-it was so refreshing to watch you- You were circling the drain but not quite there yet-- and this is where I think so many people are. You were willing to do what you had to do-= in spite of all that you have been through- and how hard it was- to try and get through your difficulties- for yourself- and so that you could keep your kids. And reclaim your life. It didn't look easy. It looked harrowing Many people here and out "there" related so much and gathered strength and inspiration from your courage. Your house looked so nice and your daugher's joy in having her room so lovely-- was inspiring. It was obvious you love your children and simply got lost along the way. That you ackowledged your problem with collecting and hoarding as a way to deal with your emotions was a really big deal. So many people won't even go there. I applaud you my dear. Keep with whatever aftercare they have offered you. Do not skip this part. It is something that many of us wish that we had available to us. We here are all behind you and very proud of you. Whether you realize it or not- you have helped a lot of people want to break through the boundaries that have kept them stuck and hopefully look for help. There is much here for you-- encouragement, inspiration, humor and compassion. And Many Many tools to help you maintain what you have achieved. Or get back to where you need to be should you get sidetracked or find yourself going back into your old patterns. We are many people here- some of maintainace- some of two steps forward and one step back- and many more of simply trying to keep going on. We are people with many different journeys at different stages, but you will find that we support and cheer each other on in our individual journeys- in ways that are practical, helpful and loving. Thank you so much for being brave enough to do this. Many people out there that watched--were helped by it. I watched your episode and rejoiced. Sweetie--You are such a good Mom and wonderful person and we are glad to have you here. If is were as easy as just getting our places cleaned up- that would be great- but a change inside ourselves is needed to be able to make real change and maintain it. Your aftercare will really help that and we will be here to support you in any way that we can. Come to chat anytime- day or night- we work on things 15 minutes at a time- and we get a lot done- lots of encouragement- cheering on and practical help. Keeps us on track. I read forever but but chat is what really helped me get going and keep going. Check in and see what we are doing there. Best to you and bless you. Bizzy
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Post by procrastinator on Dec 17, 2009 13:31:26 GMT -5
For the most part, everyone has been nice..just a few oddballs...one lady said that "Keeping a dead baby trumps them all (hoarders)." WTF?? Does she think I actually have him in the freezer or something? hehehe.... Could they have been referencing the episode of "Obsessed" where a person actually did have their miscarried baby in the freezer? Anyhow, I thought you came off very well. You and your children are beautiful and I'm glad you came away with a positive experience.
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Post by disarray on Dec 17, 2009 16:22:57 GMT -5
Krystawitt, I loved your house. I especially liked your daughter's loft. I'm a woman in her mid-twenties, and I wish I had a bedroom like that! Ladder and all! That woman who didn't think your house was "age-appropriate" is probably just jealous because she's given up some of her personality to follow what she believes are society's expectations and you haven't. As for the second comment you found somewhere online about the dollar store, while it was funny, I still disagree with it . I didn't think your stuff looked cheap at all. For example, the box of dishes that the organizer was trying to make you throw out without looking at, that stuff looked somewhat expensive. I think even the organizer made some comment about it being "nice" just not needed. (And as a side note, I wouldn't have been able to throw the box out without looking at it all either. That would have been way too hard for me.) And, finally, as for the last comment you read, that was just messed up. It made no sense, and it shows an obvious lack of compassion.
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Post by dailystruggle on Dec 17, 2009 17:59:46 GMT -5
People are idiots, I'm referring to the commentors on A&E. I have family members like that. They watch Hoarders and they make fun of the things that people keep. Like my brother was making fun of a lady for keeping expensive cheese. The sad thing is that my parent's house is not perfectly clean, and they have piles of stuff, but they spend their time saying, "My house isn't as bad as that," and making fun of others, instead of cleaning.
I'm glad that they don't know about my house. Don't know what I'd do if they criticized my house. Even though they're idiots, they are still family, so I still want them to think highly of me.
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Post by breakingfree on Dec 18, 2009 9:43:05 GMT -5
Great post, Bizzy. Chris, I too admire your strength and resolve. You are an inspiration to me as well as everyone else here. Think of all that you have overcome! I am so proud of you and I too liked the makeover. There are many mean, critical, overcompensating idiots out there so just turn on your "spam filter" and ignore them! You've done great BF
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Post by annie on Dec 22, 2009 4:16:46 GMT -5
Hi, is there anyone from down under that has a link to see the show? I have tried without success, thanks
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