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Post by Butterfly on Mar 15, 2010 21:06:36 GMT -5
Thanks for the explanation!
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Post by kerplush on Mar 16, 2010 13:20:29 GMT -5
Great post (you are not alone..still de-hoarding 10+ years of stuff 3 months later...progress not perfection!!!) and some awesome responses from the "crew" too!
Amen to Amnesty!!!!!
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Post by eaglesflight on Mar 17, 2010 0:20:02 GMT -5
Have you ever heard of "sunk costs"? Sunk costs means money you paid in the past that you can't get back. Here is an article about it as it relates to loss aversion.
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Post by deb on May 28, 2014 12:49:20 GMT -5
...ripping up old clothes to toss out... Just curious why you're ripping up the clothes before throwing them away? For items that might seem difficult to discard: Some of us might be tempted to retrieve items from the trash before the trash collection truck arrives. One tactic we sometimes use ... is to rip up, cut up, soil, chop up, or smash ... such items ... before putting them into the trash. This is done in order to guard against the temptation to retrieve the items from the trash. It's a way of committing to discarding. It can also be therapeutic, in that you can vent your rage on the fact that stuff has held you captive. For example: see Maizy and the Mason Jars here: www.squalorsurvivors.com/stories/maizy.shtml -I have a super in the building who spreads my discards out over the next-door fence, even old underwear; I cut it up now so she can no longer do it.
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Post by PaperGrace on May 28, 2014 13:20:44 GMT -5
-I have a super in the building who spreads my discards out over the next-door fence, even old underwear; I cut it up now so she can no longer do it. Oh. My. -- I could totally see my landlord pulling something like that, completely oblivious to how I would feel about it. His wife would kill him of course, but he's just that obtuse.
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Post by deb on Jun 10, 2014 13:56:41 GMT -5
-I have a super in the building who spreads my discards out over the next-door fence, even old underwear; I cut it up now so she can no longer do it. Oh. My. -- I could totally see my landlord pulling something like that, completely oblivious to how I would feel about it. His wife would kill him of course, but he's just that obtuse. Hopefully, she has been too busy. Since then I've tossed 30 bags of stuff. She has a comment for me each time I run into her. Oh well. I can't let that sidetrack me. Deb
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Post by ponygirl on Jun 10, 2014 15:20:36 GMT -5
S19, I understand the guilt about discarding perfectly good things...however! (And I'm talking to myself here, too, as it's a constant mental battle!)...we cannot worry ourselves over that. 'Amnesty' is one of the keys to digging ourselves out of clutter/hoard. We cannot worry about finding the 'perfect home' or the 'perfect destination' of objects. We cannot worry about recycling. I'm a huge environmentalist and I certainly believe in donation and/or consignment (I do all three when it's convenient, at this point.); but, to free ourselves, getting the stuff out...and opening up freedom for our lives is far, far more important at this time. You are making progress and that is a wonderful thing! Stay at it and you will get there!
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Post by ponygirl on Jun 10, 2014 15:52:28 GMT -5
...ripping up old clothes to toss out... Just curious why you're ripping up the clothes before throwing them away? For items that might seem difficult to discard: Some of us might be tempted to retrieve items from the trash before the trash collection truck arrives. One tactic we sometimes use ... is to rip up, cut up, soil, chop up, or smash ... such items ... before putting them into the trash. This is done in order to guard against the temptation to retrieve the items from the trash. It's a way of committing to discarding. It can also be therapeutic, in that you can vent your rage on the fact that stuff has held you captive. For example: see Maizy and the Mason Jars here: www.squalorsurvivors.com/stories/maizy.shtml - Exactly as Lioness said. That is why I love burning so much (what I can burn!). It's final.
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Post by deb on Jun 11, 2014 9:58:07 GMT -5
The only reason I cut up old underwear is that I know no self-respecting thrift shop would try to give/sell them. But more because else the building super spreads clothes out on the fence for anyone to take. I've no objection to jeans, tops and shoes like that but not underwear. If clothes are wear-worthy I put them in the donor bin. Deb
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