victoriaj
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Post by victoriaj on May 2, 2010 16:39:06 GMT -5
As I viewed all this, I couldn't help but think, "Boy! If a burglar came in here, he could empty out thousands of dollars worth of stuff in mere seconds!!!" Now, in *MY* house, that burglar REALLY would have to work for any valuables that he might find! If the poor guy didn't know which pile to get into, it could take him ages!!! My hoarding and squalor started when l still lived at my mother's house. By the time I was a teenager my room was terrible and no one went in there. when I left for college the room remained. I stayed there sometimes and lived there again for a few months. Then I moved halfway across the country for a year, came back found work and got my own flat. The room stayed, filled with rubbish. My mother only has 2 bedrooms and I can't believe we ever let that happen. But that's what I don't really understand about the squalor in the first place (that we would be as horrified as anyone if told our houses would get like that but bit by bit we allow it to happen. while I was away my mother's house was broken into. They went into every other room, up turned stuff and broke things. My room, the door was off it's hinges just propped into the frame. They pulled the door out but never even went in. To me that IS the pro. When I'm messy no one goes into my space. It kept my mother out all those years, it kept the burglars out. That was a big thing as a child. When my room was tidy my mother would go in and take things. Damage or hide stuff because she was angry. When it was untidy she wouldn't do that. I don't know how to unlearn that. Victoria J
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Post by _Linda_ on May 2, 2010 16:47:54 GMT -5
Victoria, My mother too had a tendency to go through my stuff when I lived with her and my father. It always made me so angry that she had invaded "my space." I don't know how to unlearn many of the things that I learned as a child and young adult. I am still trying to do that. But your comment about the burglars not going in reminded me of what I used to say about a car I once had. If someone stole it, they would surely return it with a sympathy card.
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Post by downandout on May 2, 2010 18:54:36 GMT -5
i cant remember my anniversary date but i can remember what things i have. i have no sense of distance or sizes but i can pretty much tell you where that item is in the pile. i give up on alot of things in my life but if im looking for something its the one time where i dont give up. weird i know. like other people here im anti-social too. i dont use the mess as an excuse tho. i just have refused to host things have people over just because i dont want to do it. we dont have friends just at-work friends that kind of thing. i have in the past hosted big family dinner parties but i hated it and now that most of our families are gone i dont feel an obligation anymore to the ones who are left. yeah we are very disfunctional.
but i also have very weird ideas about hoarding and the future and stuff which i wont go into right now. suffice it to say that some things are easier to give up than others.
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