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Post by notsomessyshell on Jul 26, 2010 23:31:32 GMT -5
So today while I was at work Hubby emptied the dishwasher. Whoohoo....sheesh. In the 5 hours I was at work. I started to get angry, but changed my attitude. I dusted, put a load of laundry in, got out the vacuum and began moving the furniture. He got the idea and asked what do you want me to do. We tandemed the living room. I cooked and he finished the living room. He also took care of his clutter pile he had started on the desk. He just needs direction. Specific requests. Making a list for tomorrow. Humor and lists. Great ideas!
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Post by CaringFriend on Jul 26, 2010 23:55:23 GMT -5
He just needs direction. Specific requests. Making a list for tomorrow. Humor and lists. You know, I remember going through this once. People are different, but my DH pretty much needed direction, too. That is not a put-down of him. When we talked about the situation, his answer made sense to me. He said that every company/business has a CEO. He considered me the CEO because I knew everything that needed to be done to keep the home up and running. He was willing to do whatever I asked him to do. Sometimes we do things so seamlessly that they don't realize it even has to be done. For example, I was thinking of this the other day as I wiped and swiped the bathroom. It is always clean, but I'd bet $1 million that my DH thinks it is just that way all by itself - that it never needs cleaning. I shudder to think what it would look like if something happened and I would be unable to do the maintenance on it. .........which reminds me of the story of the man whose wife ended up in the hospital for a period of time. He said, "Of all times, my magic closet quit working!" Of course, he was referring to the fact that his closet always provided clean clothes for him without him having to do anything to cause it."
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Post by usedtobeneat on Jul 27, 2010 9:38:57 GMT -5
I think that a lot of men just don't "see" messes. They may see it as something that "needs to be picked up later, maybe" but not the same way we do. I think they are able to tune it out a lot better than we are. Even when we "ignore" it, it's still bothering us on some level, *at least in my own opinion*.
My husband was supposed to help me at the house this weekend but he didn't, and I really can't blame him because this was the first weekend without being in the heat or at his mothers (she constantly fusses at him and all) and without having to do things, so he deserved a break. I guess we will try this evening.
Mary
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Post by dtesposito on Jul 27, 2010 9:44:41 GMT -5
This is priceless, and also true of teenage children!
Diane
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