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Post by omgwhatisthatsmell on Aug 22, 2010 1:33:03 GMT -5
TLC will be airing my episode of Hoarding: Buried Alive Sunday, 8/22/2010 at 9pm and midnight. I have not seen it yet so hope I don't look like a doofus.
The organizer and I were not on the same wave length. Her goal was to get stuff out of the way to show clean space for the camera so she stuffed everything in garbage bags and boxes - not actually organized. I used to have three pairs of jeans that fit but since she has 'organized' I can only find one pair. I told her I wanted to keep an aquarium but she put it out for trash pickup and somebody took it before I could retrieve it. Stuff like that... annoying but I'll survive.
I know this is going to be humiliating. I'm going to go hide under a chair until it's over.
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Post by luckyleprechaun on Aug 22, 2010 3:59:25 GMT -5
hey I wish I got TLC in my home but I do not....maybe I can go over to my mom's house Sunday evening and then watch it there....is that 9pm EST I am central time zone....hugs for getting it together to get on the show....I hope you look gr8 and that the entries you made into your new life are perfectly fine for you.....hugs lucky
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Post by downandout on Aug 22, 2010 7:30:42 GMT -5
i love watching these shows because they help me to get up and actually do something. sometimes tho i hate the way the show works and how they portray people like us. but if it helps it helps you know? you are very brave for doing this and i am looking forward to "seeing" you!  altho i have alot of clothes in this house not many of them actually fit me so losing 2 that do would make me mad too! youre being very nice about it! |
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Post by Chris on Aug 22, 2010 9:04:08 GMT -5
I just want you to know that because of people being willing to do these types shows -- I've been able to make a lot of progress in dealing with our hoarding and clutter -- so please hold you head up high -- you are a leader -- in leading a lot of us to a better place and I hope you are now in a better place too after having done the show. This site is another of the reasons I'm making so much progress on our clutter problems. I'm very grateful for everyone here and everyone like you who braved the tv cameras. So thank you.  |
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Post by MiSC on Aug 22, 2010 9:06:55 GMT -5
I was scared s***less the day ours aired. Shaking. Nausea. Migraine. Heart rate through the roof. It was bad. But once I saw it I was pretty much okay because it was the first year of "Hoarding" and they weren't about all the sensationalism yet. Ours ended up quite well.
And to be honest, this is the worst the house has been since then, and I cleaned up the messiest part yesterday and last night. Now I just have to deal with box upon box upon box of papers that should have been filed WAY too long ago. A huge job, and one that completely paralyzes me.
Sorry, I went off topic.
I'm sure your show will be fine. The TLC show is MUCH better than the A&E show. I'm sorry you had such a bad experience with the organizer though.
Try your best to relax. The anxiety serves no purpose, right? Go take a hot bath with good smelling stuff in it. Or just stand in the shower with the hot water running over you for a long time. Nap if you need to. Avoid caffeine and sugar if you can since those can make you jittery. Put on some peppy music. (I'd avoid slow, comforting music because it can become out-and-out sad. Not good.) Clean if you feel like it will help your mind deal with stuff. Pick up a good book. Watch whatever "feel good movie of the year" movies you can find.
It'll be fine, hon. You have us.
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Post by Blackswan on Aug 22, 2010 11:11:45 GMT -5
It will be ok.  Think of all of the people out there, people who don't have this site, people who may not yet even be sure that they are hoarders, people who have been living in pain, and picture how YOUR story, which you have been BRAVE enough to share is going to help them. You have done such a great service to others by letting this be taken out into the open. And people will see that the house IS clean at the end, they will see that you have a problem that IS NOT your fault, they will see that you have reached out for help, they will see the good parts of you, and they will be rooting for you throughout the show, as they watch you go through the struggle of dealing with the hoarding demon. I personally am going to have my mom record it on her DVR! I never ever watch TV (that's why I don't have one hooked up here ) but I wouldn't miss this for the world. I would actually be willing to drive the hour and a half to her house if it weren't for an event I have to attend today. Just know that when we take our deepest, darkest secret, and expose it to the world, and the world either feels sympathy, or just moves on, it takes all the power out of that shame and fear and this will work out fine. Tiger Woods is still pretty much fine in the public eye, Kobe Bryant is great after his RAPE case went away, nobody remembers Halle Berry's drunk hit and run, if those famous people can survive the world knowing dirty secrets about them and those things are forgotten about, you will be fine if the world knows you have too much stuff. I can't wait to see your story! |
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Post by kerplush on Aug 22, 2010 12:16:56 GMT -5
You are amazingly brave to do this and will inspire many more people than you can ever imagine. Most of us cannot imagine doing this. I opened my house up to a family friend for the first time..she has now offered me to help (where my family has not). You never know where blessings will come from - I'm sure you will be to many yourself.
Best wishes!
Kerplush
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Post by puppybox on Aug 22, 2010 12:23:30 GMT -5
I agree, you are brave, and you will help others. Be proud.
its too bad the organier didn't listen more, but then sometimes doing the rest is easier once a small space has been cleared. at worst, you know how NOT to proceed rom now on, when you learn what doesn't work its still a step to learnign what does, right?
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Post by howardsgirlfriend on Aug 22, 2010 12:27:01 GMT -5
How very brave of you to go on TV!
Heck, I work in a maximum-security prison, and my house doesn't look too bad, and I'm not brave enough to go on TV for desqualoring! You deserve a medal!
You ae making others' lives better by sharing your experience. Watching these types of shows gave me my first ray of hope, ever. I had given up years ago.
Watch it on the smallest TV you have, and sit as far away fro it as possible. Dimming the lights might help, too.
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Post by yearning4order on Aug 22, 2010 13:09:58 GMT -5
I'm not sure if I saw the right episode--the one I saw had a woman living with her mother, and a woman who was able to invite her 3 grown children in for a sit down visit in her living room.
I'm not sure if either of those were you--but neither of those ladies seemed like a doofus. Knowing the background of how some of these shows operate and how they aren't actually always helping people (but instead doing what you describe, putting things in garbage bags instead of organizing) I did have some trepidation while watching the show.
I don't id as a hoarder and I have to tell you, I find most of these shows offensive. I really do think the attempt is to wrap these episodes a certain way to increase the shock value to the non-hoarding population. Would we allow anything like that for private counseling sessions for other types of treatment? I don't know, maybe it's at least useful to finally be acknowledged and receive some attention, but I find the way it's done highly offensive.
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Post by notsomessyshell on Aug 22, 2010 13:31:22 GMT -5
Dear OMG, I thank you for being brave enough to allow this to be seen by the many, many who NEED it. Kudos to you my dear friend. I am so sorry the organizer was more about appearance than about YOU. I hope there are things she did that were helpful. I am looking forward to seeing this episode. I say hold your head high!  we will all be with you in spirit. |
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Post by success19 on Aug 22, 2010 15:14:01 GMT -5
I don't get tlc anymore either - but I think you are brave - very very brave! Hold your head high and be proud!!
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Post by wtfhappened on Aug 22, 2010 15:38:48 GMT -5
Be proud you had the courage to expose yourself and your house; I wouldn't even show mine to my closest family when it was at it's worst, and they are still not allowed to go upstairs Those like you and MISC and everyone else on these shows who have been brave enough to put our disorder out there have done a great service to those of us who needed to realize that we weren't alone and we could get better! Thank you! /wtf |
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Post by homesteph on Aug 22, 2010 15:50:45 GMT -5
thanks so much for letting us know. I've set to record it.
And thank you so much to you for being willing to participate in this show (and to all others who have been on similar shows). Your making these shows possible for us to watch has been such a blessing, a catalyst in my home and in our families, and the way we ar thinking about the future.
I am so sorry you are feeling shame and embarassment about it airing. I will be looking at you with compassion for your situation and with respect and admiration for your courage.
I do think that the Buried Alive show appears to be more helpful to the particiants than the other one, though It seems that in both cases the show's needs are put before the participant's at times. I'm sorry you were not treated entirely as you deserved. I hope in the long run the positive outweighs the negative in the experience.
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Post by disorganizeddragon on Aug 22, 2010 18:02:57 GMT -5
I am sure you will not "look like a doofus." Several months ago, I started a parody thread about how crazy I would look if I allowed myself to be filmed for A&E's series Hoarders ( takeonestepatatime.proboards.com/index.cgi?action=display&board=general&thread=9594&page=1). I posted it as a joke, but in all honesty, everything I wrote is probably not that far from the truth. I would never have the courage to allow a film crew in my home as I was trying to confront and organize my clutter and chaos. Just the thought of it makes me cringe. I think you deserve nothing but applause for not only being willing to confront your problems, but also for being brave enough to let so many others see, learn, and be encouraged by the progress I'm sure you've made. Any "steps out of squalor," no matter how big or small, deserve to be celebrated. I'm looking forward to watching your episode--and I will be cleaning as I'm watching.  |
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