shauna
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Post by shauna on Aug 31, 2008 21:19:11 GMT -5
Ok, so it's not *that* bad. My husband is a packrat but has been doing a lot better the past few years. He's stopping bring so much in but still refuses to get rid of the old stuff. I'm not "***" but a bit unmotivated. I have a lot of other stuff on my plate and I find it hard to get all the housework done and because I can't seem to get it all done I feel defeated before I even try. It's a really bad cycle. We have 2 kids. A 3 1/2 year old son who is unfortunately taking after his parents.  And an 11 month old daughter with many special needs. She doesn't make messes obviously, but her medical equipment takes up a LOT of room in the house. Downstairs we have a bathroom, a small bedroom, a livingroom, a kitchen and back porch. The back porch is nothing but a dumping ground. That's where our bags of trash go until trash day. There's toys and car seats and empty boxes. Our living room is useless. That is where all the extra stuff went when we moved into the house. I keep bugging my husband to just take it all down to the basement but he keeps saying, "I will on my next day off". But he never does. I want to just do it myself but a lot of it is quite heavy and I'm not that strong. The bathroom is fairly neat and tidy thank goodness! It does get messy, but it's livable for the most part. The kitchen does pile up with dishes but it's not too bad. There's a lot of boxes of stuff stashed in a corner and our kitchen table is covered with a microwave, boxed food, my daughter's meds, feeding supplies, formula, the blender, ect. The bedroom is my daughter's room. She doesn't sleep there, but this is where she spends her days with her home nurse and most of her equipment is there. The upstairs is 2 bedrooms and a bathroom. The bathroom is useless. The toilet backed up and rained poo in the living room. We DID clean that up but when the landlord sent someone to fix it, I wasn't sure of the job he did and I've been afraid to flush the toilet since. Once my husband clears the living room, I hope to flush it without fear of it raining on our stuff. I'll just throw a tarp down. My son's bedroom is small. He has a twin size race car bed that takes up half the room. The rest is toys, toys, and more toys. This is part of my husband's packrat problem. He didn't have anything growing up and now wants to give our kids everything! But now he has so much stuff he can't even play in his room! So that brings me to our room...he drags all his toys in there. So our room has become like our little hidey hole. We eat there, watch tv, play, sleep, ect. We have 2 big beds pushed together. My daughter sleeps on one side of me and my son on the other. My husband sleep in the other bed. No, I don't intend to kick the kids out. We enjoy our big family bed.  But it does become a bit much when we've got 4 people in there, medical equipment, clothes, toys, dishes, stacks of books and videos...you get the picture! I only end up cleaning the room about once a week, but by the time I get to it, I'm literally ankle deep! My goals are to put away/get rid of anything we don't use, be able to eat at the table, limit toys to one small box per room, and use the upstairs bathroom! My son starts home-based preschool next week and I'd like for them to be able to use the livingroom for his lessons! Oh by the way, my name is Shauna, just like my username! |
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Post by crazycatlady on Aug 31, 2008 22:00:15 GMT -5
Welcome, Shauna. I'm so glad that you found us. I'm sure that you have noticed that l a z y gets changed to ****. That is because it is a four letter word here, and we have no use for it!I mean, really...look at all that you do, caring for your family. If you met anyone else accomplishing so much, there is no way you would call them the L-word!
I think that as you browse around this site, you will find lots of tips to help you reclaim your home.
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Post by heylady1 on Sept 1, 2008 8:58:10 GMT -5
Welcome Shauna!  Boy can I relate to the back porch problem!!  That's one of my hot spots too! It sounds to me like you have a lot going on in your daily life!! Is there anyone in your family that could maybe help you out once a week or something? Maybe they could clean the kitchen for you or the bathroom? Or maybe someone you could enlist to help your hubby take those things downstairs? 
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shauna
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Post by shauna on Sept 1, 2008 14:32:45 GMT -5
My family helps out mostly by helping with the kids so I can do other stuff. The majority gets done when the nurse is with Charlie. My mother in law takes my son quite often. My husband has issues with people touching his stuff so I don't dare ask anyone to help with the personal areas like the bathroom.  A while ago, my mother in law come over when we weren't there and started taking stuff downstairs and my husband *flipped*. Really, you do not touch his stuff! Even I felt she crossed the line with that one and I'm desperate to get the stuff out of the way. So now he's even more resistant to anyone helping. But he did say this thursday that's what he plans to do. Adrian's teacher is coming over friday for a home visit and I want that room cleared out. No excuses this time! |
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Post by heylady1 on Sept 1, 2008 17:58:06 GMT -5
That's good that you have help from your family and the nurse too!! I bet that helps soooo much!! A big YAY for your hubby for moving his stuff out of the living room himself!!  |
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