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Post by cleanbee on Apr 1, 2015 23:55:54 GMT -5
unloaded dw. Kitchen is very tidy tonight.
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Post by creativechaos on Apr 2, 2015 8:14:11 GMT -5
wtg cleanbee and papermoon There has been much been written elsewhere by people with negative thoughts and 'feelings' about washing up. It is possible to put a thought in your mind, to change a thought. I love meal prep is possible when there aren't dirty dishes and pots everywhere. Less to wash up is so much easier than lots. I have to love that. For newbies looking in. A reminder - Every step helps. Count your successes. Herding dishes towards the sink. Scraping where needed. Rinsing if needed. Stacking into the dishwasher, or in helpful heaps for easier washing in a sink (I find it easier to begin if plates and bowls are stacked like with like, rather than spread as far as possible.) Washing a load. Emptying the dish drainer or dishwashers so the process can begin again to support life into the future. Every load helps. You don't need to be caught up to post here. If you have a back log - You will be catching up if you can process whatever is used today, plus a little more, and do that every day. (or as often as it takes you to create a load.) hi wynken; i really appreciate everything you say in this post. thank you! and big on keeping up with the dish washing every day! i like the idea of herding dishes! papermoon, you are an inspiration! a year of daily keeping up! i caught up with the backlog of dishes tonight and a project i was putting off is done - not bad but the sink was clogged with dishes and i was sinking back into squalorous habits of food bits in sink. glad to be back on track, and i freed up the small counter so that i can clear the rest of it too.
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Post by wynken on Apr 2, 2015 8:23:39 GMT -5
creativechaos Thank you for being a partner in chat tonight when I did wash up. I did think we were both going to bed, and neither of us are there. yet. A big wtg on unclogging the sink crud. It really is easier to live when the dishes are done regularly and the sink is a useful item. My 'feelings' on the washing up - I hate it when they aren't done, so do them to avoid what I hate. There is my avoidance thing again.
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Post by cleanbee on Apr 2, 2015 21:58:16 GMT -5
loaded, washed, swiped after dinner tonite. hope I remember to start the dw when I go to bed.
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Post by wynken on Apr 3, 2015 7:56:39 GMT -5
dishes washed.
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Post by momof3boys on Apr 3, 2015 17:45:34 GMT -5
I'm working on dishes now and dealing with a lot of resistance from myself. I may or may not get them all done today. I do thank you for this thread! It means the world to me.
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Post by imamess on Apr 3, 2015 17:51:14 GMT -5
Got mine done a little while ago and also scrubbed the plastic table in front of the couch that I will remove tomorrow when it stops raining and I can bring my new coffee table parts in.
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Post by wynken on Apr 3, 2015 18:47:46 GMT -5
momof3boys welcome back to the thread. If you can get the day's dishes done, and some more, and do that each day you will get caught up, though it will take more days. If you can change the thinking from beat up thinking about how many there are, or why/how did it get so bad, to saying to yourself something like - I'm doing it! I'm catching up. Life will be easier when there is less backlog. Yes say that to yourself too. All The While you tell yourself you are doing well for doing it. Being more supportive of yourself will begin to make it easier than if the voice in your head is scolding. No matter what thought has occurred to you in the past, or how often they come back, you can chose to change it to a thought that supports the action. For some people, changing the process to just doing more than that day's dishes (rather than catching up in a huge Mount Dishmore marathon) and feeling glad about that as having met that goal, gets them past the burn out reaction of thinking they climbed a mountain, now they need to rest. And rest for days on end. btdt.
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Post by cleanbee on Apr 3, 2015 19:07:54 GMT -5
www.abuddhistlibrary.com/Buddhism/G%20-%20TNH/TNH/From%20The%20Miracle%20of%20Mindfulness/Teaching.htm
May have been posted here before. But always a good read.
by: Venerable Master Thich Nhat Hanh Washing the dishes to wash the dishes Thirty years ago, when I was still a novice at Tu Hieu Pagoda, washing the dishes was hardly a pleasant task. During the Season of Retreat when all the monks returned to the monastery, two novices had to do all the cooking and wash the dishes for sometimes well over one hundred monks. There was no soap. We had only ashes, rice husks, and coconut husks, and that was all. Cleaning such a high stack of bowls was a chore, especially during the winter when the water was freezing cold. Then you had to heat up a big pot of water before you could do any scrubbing. Nowadays one stands in a kitchen equipped with liquid soap, special scrubpads, and even running hot water which makes it all the more agreeable. It is easier to enjoy washing the dishes now. Anyone can wash them in a hurry, then sit down and enjoy a cup of tea afterwards. I can see a machine for washing clothes, although I wash my own things out by hand, but a dishwashing machine is going just a little too far! While washing the dishes one should only be washing the dishes, which means that while washing the dishes one should be completely aware of the fact that one is washing the dishes. At first glance, that might seem a little silly: Why put so much stress on a simple thing? But that's precisely the point. The fact that I am standing there and washing these bowls is a following my breath, conscious of my presence, and conscious of my thoughts and actions. There's no way I can be tossed around mindlessly like a bottle slapped here and there on the waves. The cup in your hands In the United States, I have a closed friend name Jim Forest. When I first met him eight years ago, he was working with the Catholic Peace Fellowship. Last winter, Jim came to visit. I usually wash the dishes after we've finished the evening meal, before sitting down an d drinking tea with everyone also. One night, Jim asked if he might do the dishes. I said, "Go ahead, but if you wash the dishes you must know the way to wash them." Jim replied, "Come on, you think I don't know how to wash the dishes?" I answered, "There are two ways to wash the dishes. The first is to wash the dishes in order to have clean dishes and the second is to wash the dishes in order to wash the dishes." Jim was delighted and said, "I choose the second way -- to wash the dishes to wash the dishes." From then on, Jim knew how to wash the dishes. I transferred the "responsibility" to him for an entire week. If while washing dishes, we think only of the cup of tea that awaits us, thus hurrying to get the dishes out of the way as they were a nuisance, then we are not "washing the dishes to wash the dishes." What's more, we are not alive during the time we are washing the dishes. In fact we are completely incapable of realizing the miracle of life while standing at the sink. If we can't wash the dishes , the chances are we won't be able to drink our tea either. While of other thing, barely aware of the cup in our hands. Thus, we are sucked away into the future -- and we are incapable of actually living one minute of life. </section></nav>
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Post by wynken on Apr 3, 2015 22:20:46 GMT -5
It is wonderful when you can get to the place of just washing up as you wash up, neither hurrying to get somewhere else, nor resenting the existence of used dishes. momof3boys. It occurred to me that your household may generate as many dishes as I do in a week. I don't say that to make you feel bad, but rather to say doing some after each meal, snack may be what is needed in your home. Do you have a dishwasher? Can you enlist every person who eats in your home to be part of the team that processes dishes. Tell us what works, and what doesn't work for you. Criticizing each other for their approach is not allowed on this thread. When I was part of a family with 4 children there was a team approach to evening meals, and cleaning up afterwards. My mother owned the sink, and that's where she would go to get started after a meal. Others would stack dishes, clear the table, feed the dogs, and start on the drying up. As others finished with their job they would come and help dry up or put away dishes and pots. No one left until it was all done. After breakfast was a different story, and I would face alone a mountain of 10 things per person, plus multiple cooking items, plus communal things, that would take me an age to do, and then be criticized for not having done all the other housework as well. There in lies one source of my inner 7 yo's grief, and difficulty with critical people.
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Post by turkeyhill on Apr 5, 2015 8:52:10 GMT -5
I fell off the wagon for a while. My landlord was supposed to come by (never did) and that got me back in gear ! Dishes washed!
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Post by cleanbee on Apr 5, 2015 9:14:10 GMT -5
unloaded and reloaded this morning. wtg getting back on the wagon turkeyhill
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Post by wynken on Apr 5, 2015 17:44:09 GMT -5
Washing up happened yesterday. I'll aim for after breakfast wash up today. Its good to have you back on board turkeyhill. on consistency cleanbee.
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Post by cleanbee on Apr 6, 2015 8:44:14 GMT -5
thanks wynken. I'm so glad I made friends with my dw just started the dw here and defended the drainer.
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Post by wynken on Apr 6, 2015 16:43:59 GMT -5
I am the dish washer cleanbee, and it's high time I made friends with me - all the time. Dishes washed late last night.
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