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Post by reb on Feb 11, 2015 10:34:13 GMT -5
I'm on the soapbox with you, phoenixcat. Unswamping been there, done that on different system. Here, over 90% of claims are flat out denied. When I was working in social services I had a woman who was gonna die within two months of cancer and *they turned her down* knowing she would die before the appeal was heard. Wish I was kidding. I had choice words for that intake worker and they weren't "happy birthday". Their excuse? Her family had bought her burial plot. Not a legitimate turn-down, under the circumstances. Phoenixcat is right, if you can find an advocate to fight for you in your area, you really need to do that. It will also go a long way to taking some of the burden off your shoulders. We all fall apart when our basic survival is threatened. So, crazy as it might feel, I think you are holding up exceptionally well, under the circumstances!
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Post by cyn on Feb 11, 2015 10:34:23 GMT -5
And more from me too, swampy. I think it's true what PC says, because I know quite a few people who've had a hard time. Like the first step is an automatic refusal or something? I think her suggestion of having your therapist help you is a great one. Best of luck sorting that out! It must be awful for you to have to worry about all that.
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Post by Irisheyes on Feb 11, 2015 11:16:42 GMT -5
Just caught up here. Wow. We are a trauma-riffic group. Wow. Just wow and more wow. It's appalling, the amount of trauma inflicted on people (by other people!), especially when facing already existing trauma due to health issues or other things. It's amazing that any of us can function, and yet we not only function and keep fighting as best we can, we come here to share and support each other. Big, big WOW! We are awesome. Group hug time.
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Post by reb on Feb 11, 2015 11:31:54 GMT -5
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Post by homesteph on Feb 12, 2015 10:04:42 GMT -5
I just have to say this thread is awesome, and all of you are awesomely brave!
I am not sure I actually have a Trauma Corner in the house (though the garage might harbor one). I do however have a large Rolltop Desk of Anxious Aversion, which has caused paperwork to now accumulate on the Hutch of Procrastination.
If you all can face your Trauma Corners so bravely, i feel I ought to have a go at these more banal pieces of furniture!
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Post by Unswamping on Feb 12, 2015 12:33:18 GMT -5
homesteph I love your names for your desk and hutch!
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Post by Irisheyes on Feb 12, 2015 19:44:08 GMT -5
Will somebody please post lots of little guys rolling on the floor laughing, in reference to homesteph 's most recent post on this thread? Thank you.
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Post by Celeste on Feb 12, 2015 20:16:01 GMT -5
I just have to say this thread is awesome, and all of you are awesomely brave! I am not sure I actually have a Trauma Corner in the house (though the garage might harbor one). I do however have a large Rolltop Desk of Anxious Aversion, which has caused paperwork to now accumulate on the Hutch of Procrastination. If you all can face your Trauma Corners so bravely, i feel I ought to have a go at these more banal pieces of furniture! (At Irisheyes' request!)
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Post by homesteph on Feb 13, 2015 0:43:08 GMT -5
Thanks for the smilies!
So, I did manage to remove 5 items from the Hutch of Procrastination this morning. I stationed a large paper sack next to it for mandatory shreddables, to make my next foray more efficient. Several tax related items were elevated to an upper shelf for the dreaded turbotaxathon coming up. I also ordered a 13 pocket expandy file for 2015 bills. I no longer file paid bills by payee, i go by month paid. Pay stubs and bank statements go in it by month too, and tax related stuff is supposed to go in the 13th pocket. Works much better for me. After doing my return it goes back in the 13th pocket and the whole year is ready to archive. I did not keep up on it in 2014, but catch up filing goes pretty quick with this method.
So my goal, once the new expandy is here, is to do 5 items just before work each weekday, when i have gotten ready for the office and put on my competent work-self. That self tackles all sorts of administrative stuff quite effectively. My home-self is not as efficient with this sort of thing. Since my home-self often makes lunch for my work-self, this seems like a fair trade.
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Post by imamess on Feb 13, 2015 6:43:31 GMT -5
Breaking news! I allowed my brother in my doom room Wednesday night to view my new sewing machine. The trauma corner (a lateral file cabinet with stacks on top and the floor in front of it)is much better, but still needs work. Most of the floor is now clear. We were both able to get in the room & I could roll the office chair back to let him see the machine. Dancing bananas for me I still need to do more work in there, but I can see major progress.
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Post by homesteph on Feb 13, 2015 9:26:31 GMT -5
WTG imamess! There is that bravery I am talking about! New sewing machine? Yippee! Do tell! I got a new one recently too...my first ever upgrade from the basics. Plan to do some serious quilting. Of course, i need to totslly clean out and reorganize the sewing room...the new machine has taken over the dining table...
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Post by reb on Feb 13, 2015 9:52:57 GMT -5
I just have to say this thread is awesome, and all of you are awesomely brave! I am not sure I actually have a Trauma Corner in the house (though the garage might harbor one). I do however have a large Rolltop Desk of Anxious Aversion, which has caused paperwork to now accumulate on the Hutch of Procrastination. If you all can face your Trauma Corners so bravely, i feel I ought to have a go at these more banal pieces of furniture! You MUST be a writer! "Anxious Aversion"--Oh MY that's absolutely perfect for the way I feel about de-mousification!!!!
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Post by homesteph on Feb 13, 2015 10:51:26 GMT -5
Reb, demousification sounds so much worse than anything lurking on my furniture!
When I have to do serious paperwork that really flips me out, DH puts on a special playlist of music that never fails to lift my spirits, or in this scenario, calms me enough to make it through.
I have also tackled long, dull tasks or decluttering with the help of an audio book on cd, kindle, and now cell phone app. The book, especially interesting nonfiction or mysteries, keeps my analytical brain occupied so it is far less likely to overthink all the tiny repetitive decisions or go down self recriminating thought trails. Music does not work as well
If I had to deal with meeces, i picture throw-away clothes, gloves, mask, plastic safety glasses (very cheap these days) and headphones with a good audio book. I think the glasses and book especially would allow a certain level of dis-association, a depersonalizing barrier of sorts. Mmm, I think I will do this when I finally get to the garage.
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Post by phoenixcat on Feb 13, 2015 13:12:13 GMT -5
Dear Roll top of anxious aversion, I'm glad to meet you my twin!! Right now my owner has me so buried in paperwork that my poor top can't close. I used to be handsome and a great barrier against her barrage of ill-mannered cats. Now, they just wander all over me knocking stuff on the floor. She keeps promising she will do better - filled a huge box and stuck it in my "chair hole" But - sigh - now I have a huge box up my chair hole and a pile 18" deep on top of me. Sigh.......... Maybe our owners will band together and make us the good looking guys we are destined to be!! Signed, PC's sad little roll top
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Post by Unswamping on Feb 13, 2015 15:03:26 GMT -5
Wtg iamamess that is awesome work and incredible bravery! phoenixcat your desks letter is hilarious. I wish I could do smilies right now.
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